How do you control ANGER ?

@mymytri (2032)
India
June 13, 2007 6:32am CST
Anger become common phenomenon these days...What do you do when you get angry? Do you do throwing things, smashing things or hurting people with words and gestures ...???these are the some of the common impulses we do when we get anger and need to be controlled .right! How do you control your anger?Do you use any relaxation techniques to control your anger?I am so cool and dont get angry easily and i will practise yoga..it is like breathing excersize and I will relax easily...What do yopu do when you get angry?
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41 responses
• United States
14 Jun 07
i learned this in my previous health class, the best thing to do is to got to your room, close your door, throw yourself on the pillow head first and scream your lungs out!! trust me it actually works!!
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@nideco (16)
• Netherlands
13 Jun 07
I don't get angry quickly, but when I do I try and keep myself from hurting someone. Mostly try and walk away from it, if I can't... I hope I can keep the damage to a minimum.
@lynboobsy11 (11345)
• Philippines
13 Jun 07
When I'm still in my young age I don't know how to control my anger I do a lot of things just to express my anger and like what you said I sometimes trow things, or shout. But now since I noticed my self that I'm not getting younger and I want to treasure my life with happines. I control it I just count to 10 take a deep breath, drink a glass of water and think that I can controll it. As much as possible I want to overcome my anger and not anger will overcome that the hardest part coz you will loose contoel of your mind as well as feelings.
• United States
13 Jun 07
I think for me the best thing for me to do if I am really that angry- is to take a really nice long walk. Or listen to some music. Exercise also helps a hell of a lot. If you can work out all that anger. And what is anger anyways? Its generally a compilation of negative stress that together create this emotion called anger. So, I say just take a moment. Go chill. Get away from any and everyone that is causing you stress or making you angry and gather your thoughts.
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• India
14 Jun 07
I am so short tempered girl. Now, I am trying to count the numbers when I get angry. I used to stay like statue and ignore all the world from my front and counting in my own world after sometime that I recognize that " yes I got relaxed" then I will come to this world(mentally). And then also if they(who irritates) are trying to get me more anger then I try to leave that place immediately.Its very rare situations that I got more angry and done something wrong. But in such situations my mind wouldn't work. thats why I keep silent when anybody scolds me are anything else. If there is no mistake from my side and the other side people are scolding me, then everybody in that situation will get angry but I get tears from eyes too along with the angriness.
• India
14 Jun 07
You are so tender hearted.Anyway your anger management system really inspirated me.Countin numbers is a good idea
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• India
14 Jun 07
Thank You.....
@Popaural (17)
13 Jun 07
i might hit things but i try not to hit people... im not that tough :p but i tend not to get angry that often, i built up a tough skin so not many things bother me that much anymore
@maryannemax (12170)
• Sweden
13 Jun 07
i don't hit things really. i don't want to hurt myself. but there was this one time, when i was really angry and upset, i boxed a wall in the kitchen while crying. ouch! it hurt so bad! i bruised my fingers. and i will never do that again!... anne
• India
13 Jun 07
Yes Anger is common phenomenon. When I am angry on any matter, I try to divert my mind to other subject. I never throw anything.
@mymytri (2032)
• India
13 Jun 07
ok :)
@sweet_pea (3323)
• Philippines
2 May 11
When I am angry I try to keep my mouth shut. I realized that when I am angry I tend to say hurtful words that I usually regret afterwards. I try to be alone for awhile to suppress this intense feeling I am having and take deep breaths. I try to calm myself for when I am calm I can think more rational and not let my feelings get over me. My husband often tells me that when I say something as if I am always angry. I always say words in a very defensive manner and sometimes raise my voice to get my point. I say to him that’s just the way I speak. Anyway, I said to him that whenever I get angry all you need to do to pacify me is hug me. Hugging usually works for me to melt my anger.
@arcidy (5015)
• United States
13 May 09
Well when I get mad at someone I usally play videogames wich I think is a good way of redcing your anger or controlling it. Especially playing games like grand theft auto 4 is the perfect way of controlling you anger. If you get mad at someone and want to kill them play that game for a few hours and you will be just fine afterwards lol.
@balasri (26549)
• India
16 Mar 09
I am not good at that.I need a very professional advice on this.
• Philippines
23 Aug 08
well based on experience, when i am so angry with someone, i look at my cat and my anger lowers and eventually fade away... that's amazing... cats really seems to love you especially when you touch them that's why it releases my stress and other unwanted feelings...
@kampo90 (289)
• Antarctica
1 Jul 07
Wheal i try to calm my slef down telling myself that its not worth it or just try to ignore the person who pisses me off and start taking deep breaths, if i am relly angry i try to think of the consecuences of me braking the other guys jaw but hed have to be a real a$$hole to anger me up that much
@VotreAmie (3037)
• United States
1 Jul 07
I don't get angry that much and I don't use techniques to control it. But of course like anybody else I have my moments of anger. When I am angry with some body I try to walk away instead of staying there and just shout and get more angry. So walking away prevents me from having to throw stuff at the other person and saying bad words lol Take care mymytri.
@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
28 Jun 07
I have slammed a door or hit a wall so I could calm down. I use to smoke but I just quit 2 weeks ago.
@miamilady (4924)
• United States
27 Jun 07
I have learned that what other people think is not important enough to get angry over. That has helped me a lot. I used to try to make people understand my point of view. Now, if they don't get it, I don't worry about it as much. Everyone is entitled to their opinion and not everyone is going to understand me. I still get angry sometimes, but most of the time I will walk away from an argument. It just isn't worth it.
• Philippines
15 Jun 07
Its very difficult to control anger but I could still control it by breathing deeply. I always bear inmind that being angry would not profit to anything not unless there is logic in being angry at a particular moment. Sometimes when I feel like hitting people because of hunger, I will just find a thing to become the outlet of my anger.
@addysmum (1225)
• Canada
14 Jun 07
I am normally a very easy going person. I don't get provoked easily, however if somebody hurts a loved one watch out I will destroy them. I am not physically violent but I will make that person wish they never ever saw me or my loved one ever.
• India
14 Jun 07
Anger is a common phenomenon of human beings, almost each and everyday we get angry. In today's world it is not possible to avoid anger, everyone has to pass through some situation or events which makes him/her angry. There are many ways to control anger upto a certain level. What I do in such a situation, I take rest a bit and then try to understand and handle the situation/moment more softly to avoid any mistake or avoid quarling with others. It is medically proved that, in angry condition, blood pressure increases, and it is better to have a rest and then to give any reaction, if at least 20 seconds(depends upon the situation and varies) rest is taken, then 80% further mishaps may be avoided. regular meditation/yoga is also a very helpfull way to keep control. So, kindly add/share your views also.
• India
14 Jun 07
I do get angry sometimes. I control it most of the times , and rarely leave it uncontrolled. I was reading bookk on how to control anger. There I found a similar story. There was a king , very victorious. When even queen served him food , he used to complain of something with food, soon it would end up in the quarrel b/w the two. This continued. Once a saint came to the kingdon , and the queen told the said about this problem. The sage then took a hanful of rice grains, meditated upon , at gave it to the queen and asked here to have this rice grains in her mouth when ever she served food. The queen started for the next day . the king complained , but the queen dint reply him back as she had rice in her mouth , The king was suprised seeing this. For a week this continued , Then there was no quarrel b/w them ,as tthe knig had realised his mistake. the sage came back after a moth and asked the queen how is the situation now. The queen eyes filled with tears , asked him what he had done with the rice grains before he gave it back. I kust had them in my hands. The real MAGIC that worked is the SILENCE which you wernt able to achieve , so I thought it would be better if you had something in you mouth that dint allow you respond , it would be better. The queen also realised her mistake and they couple never had quarrels afterward ! I hope this narration would have implied all that I want to tell. I follow the same techinique " Silence " to control my anger , I never speak , That It.... Good Luck !!!
@worthy (2413)
• India
14 Jun 07
I am very controlled even in anger and all that i do is go to my room and cry and cry and cry.Cause if i show tantrums in anger then i have good chances of punishment which i don't want and so i go to my room instead.