Fast friends, then enemies

I think that's silly, but I see it a lot here, too. Several of the couples on my street dislike one woman that lives here as well, all because someone said something about her husband, and she stood up for him. It started out as a fight between her husband and someone else, and then it escalated to between her and the other guy's wife, and now it's her against almost everyone else. It's so dumb. I don't talk to most of my neighbors very often for just that reason. I actually talk to the neighbors no one likes more than anyone else, because I like them better than the other ones. They are young and some seem to think that means they can say whatever they think about them.

I don't agree with those types of actions. I can understand wanting to show loyalty to your spouse, but to drop a friend because your husband has an argument with theirs? How ridiculous is that? I have been in a situation where my husband had an argument with a friend of mine, and my husband's viewpoint was very justified. In that case I took much care to let my husband know that I agreed with him without entirely dropping my friend. However, had my husband's argument been not with my friend but with my friend's partner, I wouldn't have even considered changing my friendship over it! I don't believe in punishing the innnocent that way. It's not the wives fault the husbands are fighting, and they shouldn't have to base their friendships on their husbands' friendships!

I have seen that numerous times- I think it makes it hard to keep one friend when your spouse isn't friends with the other- I mean it's ok to have girl friends- but when they were couple friends - it makes it hard! I have nothing like that- We have alot of couple friends- but no falling out- and if we did- I would work on it to make them friends again!

I haven't necessarily been in that situation, but I have had neighbors that have gone through that. It is mostly because the wives are showing loyalty to their husbands and they don't want to cause problems at home by remaining friends with the other family. I think it is silly, that we as adults can't handle our falling outs. Most times kids have their problems and then the next day they are friends again, I wish we still maintained that child like innocence.

I have not really ever been in this situation...but I would assume that it is exactly as you say....I would also stay out of it...seems to be the safest place..LOL

I had a disagreement with a neighbor. His wife said she wanted us to stay friends and of course I agreed. The disagreement was with him. He made the whole family stop talking to me. Oh well - their loss. I was a better friend to them than they had been to me anyway. I don't need fair weather friends, I'd rather have real ones.

When my husband left me for another woman and we got divorced, nearly all of "our" friends shunned me. One of them told me that she couldn't come to my house any more because her husband said she couldn't because my ex-husband was his friend.