ill make it clear..am i unfair?

@migenKC (792)
Philippines
June 13, 2007 8:35pm CST
to the discussion i posted "am i unfair" i just want to make it clear to people since i guess some had misunderstood my writtings.. i broke up with the my ex boyfriend last June 3 not just because i love other guy (my current boyfriend now) but also because i am not happy with him, our relationship is not working any improvements, we fight everyday and because im leaving miles away and i think a relationship with him has no hope to last longer. yesterday my exboyfriend and i talked... he told me im self-centered... i always express my self with out knowing if im hurting someone... am i unfair because i choose to be the one i love and the one i could trully be happy with..? we cant love someone if we always find our self hurt... love is not just a feeling but it is also a choice...am i right?
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4 responses
@FSCAries (881)
• United States
14 Jun 07
I definitely think you should be with the one you love, that you see you may have a future with, but I'm not too sure about how much of a choice you really have in love. I mean, once you fall in love with someone, without something happening to change your heart, I think your heart does what it wants. For instance, I am in love with somebody know that it would be for my better interest to just shut it off, but I can't. My heart wont let me let go, not right now anyway.
@migenKC (792)
• Philippines
14 Jun 07
yah... in fact im with the one i love now... i fall inlove with him not just because of his personality but also because of his everything.... he accepts me as well as i could accept me.. unlike the other one.. i am trying to accept the character of my ex-boyfriend and somehow doing some way to improve his negative side but its him(My ex) who cannot accept me and accept the people i used to love.
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• Malaysia
14 Jun 07
welll. that is true... just keep on patient all way that supose the 1 dont like that is suffer.. it just like you dont like to eat icecream but have to keep on eating becouse the 1 like to eat it... that will be very big problem.. unless face the 1 we like till can share everything that both also like beside fight everyday
@dheng30 (88)
• Philippines
14 Jun 07
You are certainly right my dear... As always said, you just want to be happy...if your not happy then be honest...just tell him.... follow your heart, your heart is the only really knows want you want...anybody else... Love is really like that... some will succeed, some will failed...and he failed so tell him to find someone he can be happy with... who knows he might meet that person that he's looking for. he might thank you later on...
@migenKC (792)
• Philippines
14 Jun 07
yah i did... i told him he could have someone he could be happy with... he replied to me that everything he wants is on me already... hahai... but actually it doesnt show coz we always fight... we do not understand each other.
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• Philippines
14 Jun 07
hehehe...very persistent,isn't he? anyway as you mentioned he was far from you... just dont talk to him anymore... that's it end of story...to cut that thing off... heheheh...he'll bug you always if you dont.... you'll see... heheheh...
• United States
9 Jul 07
Well maybe your boo loves that about you! At some point i believe in being a bit selfish and looking out for self. Yeah i say you cant please everyone but at times try to bring it in. Kinda like giving it a rest so when i am up doing me again i wont feel so bad cuz i gave time. I say Do you! You only have one life to live so ride it til the wheels fall off.
@migenKC (792)
• Philippines
10 Jul 07
i agree... thanks for your response
@steven318 (469)
• Malaysia
14 Jun 07
erm... cant say self center.. you just want the safety and protection from your boy friend.. that is the point... if everyday still unhappy that is worse.. even can "reserve the people but cant reserve his heart" that is chinese idiom translate....