What Is The Value Of A Woman Who Can't Cook?

Nigeria
June 13, 2007 10:09pm CST
Hey guys recently one a guy was in a relationship in which he later learnt that the girl cannot cook. In fact, she said she hasn't cooked all her life. Please advise on what is best for him.
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@FSCAries (881)
• United States
14 Jun 07
Well just because a woman can't cook that doesn't make her worthless, but it's not like it's a hard thing to do. I don't understand people who say they can't cook. If you don't know how to, then buy food that has the directions on it on how to cook it. There is plenty of stuff out there that merely requires a package with maybe two or three other ingredients and that's it. These days, I think claiming not to know how to cook is kind of a cop out. It's not that hard.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
14 Jun 07
Now, I will tell you, I am a woman and I know better than that. Men want home cooking. They don't want easy as one, two, three, box recipes. That is okay every now and then. But a real man likes home cooking. She would do well to get a few used cookbooks. You do not have to know how to cook to follow a recipe. Just follow the directions. I am not a perfect cook, but I do know what a man likes.
@sisan76 (43)
• Singapore
14 Jun 07
I have never cooked anything before married. But my husband never put the kind of criteria in which cooking was the basis in a relationship but I learnt a lot from my Mother in law. I am still far from being an expert. Couples need to give and take. IF she really is not interested in cooking, is the guy going to end the relationship? I know there is a saying a way to a man's heart is through his stomach.
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• United States
15 Jun 07
I think this was for the men but I couldn't help but answer... what about the guy can he cook... I mean its said when any person is unable to cook but be open to change and let the man do the cooking and the women enjoy.... he shouldn't be discouraged because of that but they can grow in that aspect together by taking cooking classes and what not
@helenying (120)
• China
14 Jun 07
Well, I also do little about cooking. There are so many things we cann't. But we can learn. I don't think it is trouble. If the guy can cook, he can do it and teach the girl. Or the girl can learn it by herself. I think living together, each of them should learn to be considerate of other's shortage.
@suspenseful (40314)
• Canada
14 Jun 07
It is hard when us women are not perfect. Some women do not marry until too late enough because they are not the perfect ideals that the guy wants. You have to look at her personality not whether people can eat off her floor, that she can sew, or cook, etc. Above all, don't advise him to dump her. That is the cruelest and the most wrong thing to do. He could get her a cookbook that features meals for two or three people, one that shows some simple and elegant dishes. They could both cook together. Get her started. She might enjoy it. The point is to give her confidence.
@lexus54 (3576)
• Singapore
14 Jun 07
I hope this guy is not finding fault with his relationship, just because his girl cannot cook. What if the girl finds fault in her relationship with him, if she discovers out he doesn't know how to drive or he can't whistle? There will be no end to things. Like many other things, cooking is a skill which can be learnt. Perhaps the guy can view this situation as an advantage to him if he can cook well, and can use his cooking skills to impress his girl. I personally know ladies who cannot cook, and have successful marriages.
@nnsb75 (632)
• United States
14 Jun 07
i don't know how to cook before but i just learn by following recipies its easier than i thought buy her a recipe book that she can read and start learning how to cook, make her watch the cooking show if she's willing to do that, thats all up to her if she want to learn coz if she doesn't want to there's no way she's gonna learn.
@KatieS (504)
• United States
14 Jun 07
It's never too late to learn. Everyone should know how to cook, not just women. There's no shame in hamburger helper, they are yummy and easy. My MIL has taught me a few things and sometimes I just experiment. I think it's more of a "I don't want to cook " kinda thing, so the "I don't know how to cook" is a cop out. Better Homes & Gardens has great cookbooks too.
@mymytri (2032)
• India
14 Jun 07
well.let her give time to learn how to cook.today most of the gals are in fond of studies and jobs so they are not concentrating in cooking even i learnt cooking when am in age 25.we cant say woman is worthless if she cant cook .so giving her time to learn is a good advice
@Debs_place (10524)
• United States
14 Jun 07
And this man can't cook? What is the value of a man who can't cook? This man can cook, he can help his girl friend learn to cook. They can cook together. My SO and I love cooking together..we just wish we had a bigger kitchen to do it.
• United States
14 Jun 07
lol I can't cook for squat and my husband still love me. At least HE BETTER! lol Him on the other hand a is wonderful cook. Guess I got lucky I guess.
@butterfly39 (3907)
• Philippines
14 Jun 07
It's not a problem, enroll culinary course. If you really love her then you're willing to accept her. good luck!
@aleeming1 (163)
• Canada
14 Jun 07
Well I myself can't cook either. My boyfriend does all the cooking. The only thing I can cook is macaroni and cheese. Maybe the guy could teach the girl how to cook. Maybe make a recipie together. Make it a fun thing to do.