can you help me,I need your advice?

China
June 14, 2007 12:29am CST
I live with a friend,but she just does not like clean,she diserts the trash everywhere,never clean the toilet,does not have a bath for one week or more in summer......,we get along very well in life except that,but I can not endure her untidy.how can I give her some advice and it can not influence our friendship?thank you very much.
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@youless (99253)
• Guangzhou, China
14 Jun 07
You can tell her that boys like the girl who can tidy up. It's not possible for them to like a girl who is dirty, hard to imagine without a bath for a week. You can tell her she is very good, but if she can get rid of the bad habit, then more and more people will like her.
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• China
14 Jun 07
a good advice,I think it will do good instead of talking with her directly.
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@ParaTed2k (22980)
• Sheboygan, Wisconsin
14 Jun 07
Talk to her in a friendly way. Discuss who should do what chores, or even if some should rotate. If she is willing to talk about it, and accepts the chores that go to her, great. If not you have 3 choices... Be willing to clean up after her every day. Be willing to live in a dirty home. Be willing to move out. Good Luck!
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• China
14 Jun 07
I think the first is my choice,I can not move out or live in a dirty house.
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@ParaTed2k (22980)
• Sheboygan, Wisconsin
14 Jun 07
Then, if she isn't willing to clean up after herself, you need to see it as your own choice to clean up after her. You making that choice means that you accept her as she is and you are simply making the house better for yourself.
@maryannemax (12170)
• Sweden
14 Jun 07
the only solution for this matter is for the two of you to sit down together and talk about it. you don't have to be angry at her. just tell her that it's for the benefit of the both of you. a cleaner place is a healthier place, right? so, atleast, just tell her to do her part as you do yours. be friendly and polite when talking to her so as not to hurt her. she will understand for sure since she is a true friend to you... anne
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• China
15 Jun 07
yes,she accept my advice ,but after a short,she will just do that as before.it bothers me so much.