how to deal with the relationship between your husband and your mother-in-law?

China
June 14, 2007 2:49am CST
Actually, I am not married but I keep a good relationship with my boyfriend's family, both his mother and father like me very much. and my boyfriend treat me very well, and we love each other. the problem is my boyfriend could not keep a good relationship with his family, and he don't want to talk with his parents. then when his parents call him for something he don't want to talk, he will not answer their phone. then his mother will call me to ask something about him or let me call him and ask some question. when this happened, my boyfriend will be unhappy. how could I deal with this kind of relationship ? it brother me very much. if any one can give some advice ? thank you ver much.
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• India
14 Jun 07
I too faced the same problem 1 month before. What I did is I explained to my husband that you are the only son for them and they need your love. Then why are you avoiding them? Is it fine that they are expressing their feelings with me but not with you? You have to understand your parents. If they hurt you in anyway, that will be done by them for your goodness only but not to hurt you. Whatever they did to you will always do good only, if it hurts you at that moment. Dont think bad about them, they are your parents, and you have to give a lots of love to them. In this way I convinced my husband, now he is talking very well with my aunt and uncle.They are also very happy with him too...
• China
18 Jun 07
I hope I can persuade him. but it is really hard for me. thank you anyway.
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@angela2006 (1846)
• China
14 Jun 07
I do not have this experience,but I think you should talk about this with your boyfriend,what is the reason,why he does not want to talk with their parents,dose he keep doing this for a long time,or just recently.maybe there are some misunderstandings among them,and it is up to you to moderate it.good luck,hope that can help you.
• China
18 Jun 07
thank you. but this really a long term problem for them and it keeps for several years, maybe more than 10 years.