Trust~~~~~~~

United States
June 14, 2007 7:29am CST
Trust is a wonderful thing. It grows the longer that you are with someone. After years of a happy relationship it is a wonderful reassuring aspect in life. It can bring great joy and a happy heart. The funny thing about trust is that it takes years and years to build but seconds to destroy. Trust can be destroyed by the smallest glimmer of doubt. You don't even need to have proof for trust to be destroyed. I just find is so ironic that it can be stripped away so fast. It's almost like a delicate house of cards. We have an Uncle who has really been messing up his life. I love his ex wife she is a wonderful person. But he just totally crushed her. I have no idea how to help him. So tell me have you ever lost someone's trust were you able to ever get it back? How was that trust lost? Or have you lost trust in faith in someone you dearly love, and have you been able to bounce back from it? What was the most healing for your heart?
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@DanaMark (807)
• United States
14 Jun 07
I have lost trust in close family members because of inheritance issues. I never thought we would be one of those families where that happens. I don't know that the trust will ever be back to what it was before. At this point there are no efforts to gain back the trust on their part. Time will tell, but it will take a long time. You are right. Trust built over years can be destroyed in seconds.
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• United States
15 Jun 07
I'm so sorry that your trust was destroyed during such a delicate time in your life.It's very sad that people get so greedy when loved ones die.
@DanaMark (807)
• United States
16 Jun 07
Thank you. I'm finding out that this is more common than most people realize. Almost everyone I've confided in has had the same thing happen in their family in one form or another. That is truly sad.
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• United States
16 Jun 07
That is why it is important for loved ones to be really detailed in their wills. That way there is no question!
14 Jun 07
When I saw the preview of your discussion it was just going on about how good trust is and I was going to reply sayiung how it can be taken away form you in an instant so I was glad to see that I wasn't the only one who thought that. I once dated a guy and he was my best friend and he messed me around something terrible. Like when we were on a break he said he hadnt been with anyone and then I found out after everyone else that he had been lying nad treating me like an idiot. I know it could have been worse and he could have done it while we were dating but there was another few instances where my trust was totally ripped away. It was probably the first guy I actually went out with and cared about. I find now that trsuting someone is something that takes ages to build up and that hurts me cos I don't want to be the crazy psychotic girl that can't trust so now I don't normally tend to date people just to avoid that stigma. God, my life sounds harsh lol. Talk about a discussion to make you think hard about yourself lol.
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• United States
14 Jun 07
Well when you oprn up and put your self out there one of two things will happen you will get crusted, or you could find the greatest love of your life! Love your self first, be open, but also you need to protect your heart!
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14 Jun 07
Ia m learnign to love myself first now. I think before I relied to much upon guys and thought I was going to find the love of my life in just anyone and now I know this isnt true I am becoming a better person.
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• United States
15 Jun 07
Good for you that is half the battle in finding a wonderful mate.
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@misheleen73 (6037)
• United States
14 Jun 07
I know you are aware of my issues with my father. So yes, I do know how easy it is to lose trust and faith in someone. I have not been able to bounce back from it, and doubt I will ever be able to trust him again. It is a shame, as he is my father, but one can only tust for so long. It is unfortunate that trust can be so easily broken.
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@maryannemax (12168)
• Sweden
14 Jun 07
i am sorry to hear about issues between you and your dad. there really are relationships which can be broken when trust is broken, too. but i still hope that somehow, sooner or even later, you get to patch things with your dad. not telling you what to do here... but i am just hoping for what's best... take care... anne
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• United States
15 Jun 07
Mish you have done everything right with your Dad but life is a 2 way street and he has to put in a little bit too!
@dbhattji (2506)
• India
15 Jun 07
I trust people very easily and when they break my trust I feel very bad but I find that time is a great healer. After some time the same thing seems very tivial compared to your whole life.
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• United States
16 Jun 07
time heals all
@jhoanee (598)
• Philippines
15 Jun 07
trust is one of the key to have a happy and fulfilling relationship. it is given freely and willingly afterall you had love someone thats why u trust them. but once it broken its hard to have it back. i guess were just human capable of loving and trusting someone, once u trust you gave it all. it was one of the things that hard to gain but easy to fall. for sure your uncle had broken that trust with his exwife i just hope you can help him find ways so that they will be back on each others arms. its hard to do, its a process he will undergo but if he truly love his wife he should work on it and let her feel that he still love her. i just hope everythings gonna be fine with them both.
@Vivianh (331)
• China
15 Jun 07
Yes,trust is the most important thing in the relationship.And I believe that we have to treat people honestly and sincerely so we'll keep the trust between people.
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• United States
16 Jun 07
Good for you! Welcome to mylot!
• India
15 Jun 07
ther s nothin called trust .
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• United States
16 Jun 07
I'm so sorry you feel that way. Welcome to mylot
• Philippines
15 Jun 07
True indeed, I have once lost my trust in someone I love so dearly, but I was able to recover from it I learned in life that I should continue to love would it mean Goodbye or giving up my dreams because that trust has been flawed after all there is no greater love than the love that holds on where there seems nothing to hold on to. And oh one more thing TRUST is not given it is gained.
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• United States
16 Jun 07
No you should never ever give up! Welcome to mylot!
• Nigeria
15 Jun 07
yes trust is a viable factor in every relationship and its essential for it to survive. Once trust is lost in a relationship its very hard if not impossible to gain it back. There was a time i lost trust in one of my friends cause he kept going behind my back to tell sordid tales about me.Eventually i heard cause i told him one information that only i and him knew about it so when i heard it from another source i told him he was the culprit and a backslider. Since then i do not trust him one bit at all and i do not think we could be close as we were
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• United States
15 Jun 07
I'm so sorry! thanks for you comment!
@MJLami (1173)
• United States
14 Jun 07
I lost trust in someone very dear to me. Because we were not communicating and someone else was interfering and managed to deceive him I later learned the criminal behaviors of the third person he encouraged against me. I learned 4 years later he was deceived. During those years I blamed him and was unable to trust him when I had my chance. Could I forgive him now and start building trust with him after all this? Yes but I'm sure he's done trying. He did and I couldn't when I needed to.
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• United States
15 Jun 07
Forgiveness is more about you than it is about the other person. If you harbor bad hateful feelings it just brings you down. Try to let it go and you will feel much better!
• India
14 Jun 07
Trust .which is not exist in this world,as everybody is lying to his near n dear ones .specially to his/her beloved .we will try to trust but conditions and situations make us not to trust anybody in this world .As we are seeing that nobody bothers what other person think about his/her action which is being taken by him .so plzzzz try to trust atleast somebody and if anybody trusted you then plzzz try not break his/her trust .Thats what i mean .
• United States
15 Jun 07
I trust my hubby 110% and he does me too. So all is good with me! But yes I agree most people are not worthy.
@maryannemax (12168)
• Sweden
14 Jun 07
sorry to hear about your uncle. i hope that one day, he'll stand up again and prove himself trustworthy. anyway, as per experience, i had this ex boyfriend for 8 years. and he had been cheating on me every now and then. hoping that he'll change, i kept on forgiving him and giving him a chance. but last time, it did not work anymore. all my trusts were no longer there for him. and breaking up might be hard but i don't wanna end up with a man who do not deserve my trust. most healing for my heart? TIME. it took almost two years for my heart to recover. and took those times before i was able to allow myself to love again. i am in a long distance relationship now. and at first, it's too difficult to trust each other. we have some doubts and questions. but through time, we were able to really trust each other. it takes time to heal wounds and time to trust someone your whole life through. and i will never do anything to destroy my boyfriend's trust on me. i really respect our trust for each other and will never mess up with it... anne
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• United States
15 Jun 07
Aww thanks for sharing! I'm glad your heart has healed. I hope that long distance wont last forever! Best of luck!