Do you spank your kids in public?

@lpetges (3036)
United States
June 14, 2007 3:44pm CST
wow, i was at a shopping mall, and these toddlers were being so naughty running around and grabbing items, and throwing them in the air, and the mom just kept shopping like nothing was happening! I felt so bad for the clerks of the store. they had such a mess to clean up. The mom finally said,,"wait til we get home and then you will get a spanking"! wow that sure would stop me at that time, right?? i doubt she ever spanked them, because they would not behave so badly in public!
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@Amstardam (1348)
• United States
14 Jun 07
As a parent, I now know it doesn't always reflect the parenting style of a unruly child! Sometimes children act up - just because. Children are going to be children no matter what. Some are just more behaved than others. I envy the parents that have never had to deal with a child throwing a fit. But I hope that they don't think it's because they're "better" parents than those of us whose children do throw fits. My child constantly shrieks if he doesn't get his way and he's only 10 months old! I struggle with not knowing how to get him to stop. If he is terrorizing a store, of course I will grab him by the hand and escort him out. I will not let him destroy a store because I'm frustrated. I think spanking a child in public is up to the parents. I don't care if other people want to see it or not. It's my choice! I don't always like to walk around and see a bunch of ugly people but it's their choice to walk around outside...it's not up to me to decide what they do!
@lpetges (3036)
• United States
14 Jun 07
great point of view! thank you. I just guess the shock came from my side where the children were totally out of control, and how much the mom wasn't really bothered by it...like it happens alot!
@Amstardam (1348)
• United States
14 Jun 07
I think I would be shocked too but at the same time I would understand. Sometimes I just want to ignore my child too. It's hard not to when you deal with all day. Being a parent is hard! ;)
@lpetges (3036)
• United States
15 Jun 07
i so know that having raised 3 of them myself! And that was when not all moms worked, so i really understand that being with the child all day is overwhelming at times...i also don't ever remember my kids acting that way in public, if they did, we would have left. its just hard to understand how they got to be so badly behaved in the first place.
• United States
14 Jun 07
I feel blessed that when my kids were little they somehow knew not to act out in public. The only times they were spanked was their behind covered with a diaper. I feel badly for the lady but think her threat to spank them when they got home is stupid. By then the kids may be behaving great!! I think moms should just leave the store when a child starts losing it..
@lpetges (3036)
• United States
15 Jun 07
Thank you for that! i agree, i would also leave.
@happymom1 (1179)
• United States
14 Jun 07
I dont like spanking especially in the public. I also saw some parents spank their kids in the public for me its not really good. I think that depends on the parents how they decipline their kids at home. I will teach my son not to do such bad attitudes in the public. Also its a training of the kids how the parents control them.
@lpetges (3036)
• United States
15 Jun 07
i agree, i never really spanked my children, if ever it was not hard, and i think it was harder on me to do it then for them to receive it! but, the parents must not be doing such a great job for the child to behave so horribly,,,and it didn't even matter to that mom, she just kept on shopping!
• Canada
2 Mar 09
[b][/b]I remember when my daughter wanted a toy and I refused..she started screaming and yelling, throwing herself on the floor..everyone watched what I was going to do..I smiled and winked at everyone and walked towards the door and went outside..when my daughter saw I was leaving she sure forgot the toy and started yelling ..mommy mommy..so I opened the door tood her hand and left. Everyone in the store started clapping
@KrisNY (7591)
• United States
16 Jun 07
Not in this day and age- People turn you in for abuse- But I would have certainly stopped them- Do you know how- I would have put the stuff back and taken them both by their arms and led them out of the store- That is it- End of story- And then I would have taken them home and time-out or to their rooms- My daughter was a BIG baby once in a store and I made her put her stuff down and out we walked- with nothing! Sure it was an inconvenience to me- I had to go back without her later- but I wasn’t letting her get away with it either- Nor was I going to make everyone’s shopping trip hel! By listening to her! I too doubt the mom did anything to these kids- that is probably why they acted this way to begin with- I also feel bad for the clerks who