Boys and The Identity Crisis

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Have you ever heard a boy come home from shool and referring to evey older male in the house as "miss"- The caribean in particular is battling with a crisis of male identity in my opinion. Someone has rightly said that some things are taught others are caught. Maleness, and male identity fits the category of things that are caught, it would be nigh imposssible for a woman to 'teach' a boy how to be a man (no disrespect intended ladies), but a boy can't learn how to be a man from a woman. Hats off the all the single women who have raised boys to be fine men, but boys need the wildness of a man, the adventure loving spirit of a man. Boys need to know that their father (father figure is proud of them, they need safe settings in which they can be allowed to run free, exercising their inbuilt sesen of alertness. They must not be spakned just because they want to run outside and play around and explore the 'tall' bushes at the back of the house. Society has developed ways of slowly trying to curb the 'stallion' spirit. In His masterful book, Wild At Heart, John Eldridge captures this beautifully. He says that men need a damsel to rescue, a holy grail to seek out, a klondike gold strike to make, soemhting that will allow them to scream excitedly Eureka. What wonderful men we'd have if we took time understand the gender differences and allow boys to be moulded into the men that they were created to be!