Who will take care of your parents?
By once79
@once79 (89)
China
June 14, 2007 10:18pm CST
Who will take care of your parents while they are too old to take care of themselves?In china,it is usually the son's responsibility.But to resolve the population problem,Chinese goverment only allow a couple has one baby,so it will give the baby a severe burden to support his old parents.
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@FSCAries (881)
• United States
15 Jun 07
Well, my parents are divorced, so it will be hard keeping both of them if I had to, but I would. I have an older brother and a younger half sister and of course we've never discussed anything like this, but I would take care of my parents in a heartbeat if they needed me. I wouldn't want to see them put into a nursing home, and the best I can say is that it would be in repayment for having raised us, it's the least I could do.
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@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
15 Jun 07
as for you fscaries, that is a good outlook in life htat you have. in the Bible, it is written that, the child who takes care of the old parents will gather a promise from God Himself. for he shall be blessed in all angles that the child will need in looking after the old parents. in our country though, we take care of our old folks out of tradition rahter than out of htis Biblical teaching. when i have learned of this, i was even happier to take note of it. at least, doing it has a promise in itself.
@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
15 Jun 07
i do not see why it will be a severe burden to be taking care of the elderly. in the philippines, we always love to have the elderlly with us. old parents will therefore find themselves to be living in with one child after another in schedule. unless the parents are invalid, they are easy to take care of. when a parent becomes an invalid, a particular child will take care of the parent. this is voluntarily given. usually hte one who is a stay at home person will take the responsibility. this is a thing which has never become an issue in our country.
@jacki3 (136)
• United States
15 Jun 07
I don't doubt what you are saying about Filipinos, because my mom is Filipino, and they value their families a lot. But I don't really agree that it has never become an issue in the Philippines. My uncle, my mom's older brother, takes care of my grandfather. He is now 80 and still rather strong. I've heard my mother complain a million times how her brother keeps asking for money for their father and keeps making up excuses that their dad is sick etc etc. It worries my mom a lot, and then when she calls her dad he's fine and just suffering from old age. And my uncle is not asking just my mom, my 2 aunts who live in california are also giving money. A total of $600 is given each month since my grandfather hit 70 years old. My uncles, there are 3 of them in the Philippines, are fighting over who gets to take care of my grandparents, because of the money involved. I believe this "issue" is wide spread because I do know a lot of Filipinos here in cali who say that the only reason their brothers and sisters take care of their parents is because they send a monthly allowance.
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@once79 (89)
• China
15 Jun 07
What jacki3 have said is the meaning of severe burden.In my country,many parents can not get money to support themsleves living any more while they are old,so their children should pay all the cost for them.Nowadays a couple only have one children,so it is a severe burden for the children to taking care of his/her parents?raising his/her own baby and feed himself/herself.Otherwise time is another problem.Taking care of parents will cost much time,but we have to go to work to earn money.
@marifel1986 (179)
• Philippines
15 Jun 07
here in the Philippines, its expected that children will take care of their parents when they are old. one child will either get her parents and let them live with him/her or they will stay in their parents house.
@soumidattaiitd (75)
• India
15 Jun 07
its really shameful..dat parents who take care of us all life...we think its a burden for us to take care of them...so wat if we r da only child...i am my parents only child dat too a gal...but i am confident that i will take care of them when they r too old to take care of themselves...
@jacki3 (136)
• United States
15 Jun 07
my mom is closing in on her fifties, while my dad is 55. They never asked us to take care of them when they grow old, because they said that it is not the children's obligation to take care of their parents. They are saving up for their retirement and plan to live in a fancy retirement home where they will be taken cared of when they get old and sick. They did say however that we should never forget to visit them often and have them for holidays. I don't know why some parents expect their kids to take care of them when they get old, because the kids owe them their lives. If they just had kids so they could have someone care for them, then that's a shameful reason for raising children. I'm going to be following my parent's advice and saving up for retirement as early as now. I don't want to be a burden or a nuisance, because that's how most people see the elders. And retirement homes are not that bad, you just have to choose wisely.
@Sir_bobby88 (8231)
• Singapore
15 Jun 07
Well has the law been implemented ? but it is surely werid law by the chinese government , i think they should be more open minded at times yea , but i had seen improvement compared to last time yea
@rusty2rusty (6751)
• Defiance, Ohio
15 Jun 07
What if the parenst has a girl. Does her husband then take care of them in their old age? If not, what happens to them?
I plan on flying my mom to live with me. I would like her to move in with me now. But she won't. As she is on limited income. as for my dad and stepmom, I hope all my siblins and I can come together to take care of them. As I have 5 sisters and two brothers....None of my parents should ever see a nursing home.
@a_ce_e (1422)
• Philippines
15 Jun 07
In my country as far as i know, it is not a responsibility of anyone but as a loving children, they don't have to be given this responsibility of taking care of their parents instead they will do the initiative. I knew many single lady who use not to get married just to take good care of their parents. In my case, we are many in the family and i don't have to wait for my brothers and sister to say they will be the one, instead i already planned to take the responsibility and i am certain everyone will agree with me and they will be willing to do their share. I love my mom so much and i fear that no one will take good care of her specially now that she is old. I feel so lucky that my bf is very kind and he also included my mom in our plan once we get married. I wish i could give my mom lots of happiness and makes her feel how much i love her.
@soumidattaiitd (75)
• India
15 Jun 07
its really shameful..dat parents who take care of us all life...we think its a burden for us to take care of them...so wat if we r da only child...i am my parents only child dat too a gal...but i am confident that i will take care of them when they r too old to take care of themselves...
