Double Standards

Australia
June 14, 2007 11:20pm CST
Are any of you in relationships where there are double standards? For example your husband/boyfriend goes out every week to the pub or with his mates and gets wasted but if you want to go he gets cranky? Or you're not allowed to spend money on clothes or things you like but when your partner does it's ok? There are no double standards in my relationship. We have good communication and if I felt there was something like that going on I'd confront him and let him know.
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@xenpen (90)
• United States
15 Jun 07
My boyfriend's too liberal for that. He actually encourages me to go out and get more friends. He knows that I don't make a lot a female friends, and as someone who understands, he doesn't get jealous. He's not the type. He knows I left all of my good friends behind at college, so he introduced me to one of his friends who happens to be a gamer chick like me. It really did help me to get out more, and I'm glad he's not one to play on double standards. No man should. If they were secure about their relationships, they wouldn't do such things as nagging the girlfriend/wife to stay at home.
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@lpetges (3036)
• United States
15 Jun 07
no, im not in that kind of relationship. weve been married for 26 years, and we just live our lives the way we are. I don't think my husband has ever stopped at a bar on the way home from work, or had many boy nites..hes very happy to be at home with his family. i guess he is content.
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• India
14 Dec 07
i am single. and now i got a girlfriend. might now i will try that wht she want. if she have double standard i will make talk with her.
@donsky14 (5947)
• Philippines
15 Jun 07
nope, none of that happens with me and my boyfriend. he respects me and the things that I do. And he doesn't really keep secrets from me. I'm really lucky for having such a partner like him.
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• United States
2 Oct 07
My husband has double startards. He can do what he wants, when he wants but I cant. I'm to stay home where he knows I'm safe. Talk about trusting! lol
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10 Dec 07
We don't have double standards for everyday things like going out but my partner is a lot more possesive than I am and so I'll let him get away with a little harmless flirting whereas I won't do anything that will make him jealous cos it's not worth the hassle. He knows he's got double standards on that particular thing but it's not something he can easily change and it doesn't really bother me. If he had double standards on other things that effected everyday life then I would be bothered. No one's perfect. As long as your comfortable with each other's imperfections there doesn't have to be a problem.