Can you name or think of anybody right now who just doesn't like you?

@cdparazo (5765)
Philippines
June 15, 2007 2:51am CST
Can you name or think of anybody right now who just doesn't like you? No matter how lovable and wholesome we think we are, there are just people who seem not to like us no matter how good we seem to be to them. I had this girl who doesn't like me and keeps on being sarcastic and saying not so nice things to me though she goes about it very subtly. It was because she is jealous of my friendship with her colleague whose friendship she wants to have also. I am not really bothered that she doesn't like me and there are even instances that I find her antics funny. Just the same, her dislike of me is very apparent to everyone around.
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@samson1967 (7414)
• India
15 Jun 07
I can think of many whom I dont like for silly reasons, but I dont know how many dont like me. No one ventured so far to tell me that they dont like me.
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@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
15 Jun 07
No one also came to me outright to tell me that they don't like me. I think that would really take and extra dose of nastiness in a person to really say that in the face. As for myself, I could tell it by the way they treat me or act towards me. Thanks for responding!
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• India
15 Jun 07
You are sensitive.
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@koikoikoi (1246)
• United States
15 Jun 07
Oh yeah. I know a lot of people that don't like me. I actually think that I know more people that don't like me than ones that actually like me. I'm hated on mostly by everyone that I encounter with. I just don't know why. I'm cool you know, I'm funny. Really I don't know what it could be...
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@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
15 Jun 07
we just can't make people love us. no matter how hard we try for them to love us and accept us, there still some who just hate our company and hate us being around. so, for as long as you know you haven't done anything wrong, there's nothing to worry about really... anne
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@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
18 Jun 07
I so agree with anne. anyway, its more important that we like ourselves. If we don't like ourselves too, then we do have a problem there. LOL! It's what matters.As what you said, you are cool and funny so just keep it up and be the best of who you are. Thank you both for responding!
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
15 Jun 07
Yeah, i can...for example, one of my best friend's wife. We know we dislike each other, but we keep a sort of safety distance that is comfortable for both. We both know (especially me obviously) that fighting is not good for us, so we keep it friendly and cool, even though we know that we are not best friends and we will never be...but anyway one can be liked by anyone right?
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• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
18 Jun 07
Well she's dominant and touchy. Her husband, my friend, is very friendly, that's why they are married obviously. I'm almost the only person who has said NO to her in public, because she always wants attention and being in the middle of things. She has good things, i don't say she's Devil impersonated, but my character doesn't deal well with people who want to rule all the time and who think they're right all the time, just that.
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@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
18 Jun 07
Could it be because she is trying too hard to be liked and accepted by her husband's friends but is doing it all wrong? It's a possibility. Most of us would want the approval and to liked by the bosom buddies of our husbands too. I know I did feel like that when I was still married and really tried to get to know and blend into my husband's circle of friends. But they are just his crowd and I just gave up trying. I just accepted them without forcing myself into their midst. As it is, men are territorial already. LOL!
@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
18 Jun 07
Why do you think that she doesn't like you? I had the same thing with one of my close friends too. I think her husband doesn't like me much because her husband thinks that I have a bad influence over his wife who is a very close friend of mine and whom I share a lot of secrets. He had no idea that it's the other way around. LOL! Like you I keep a good distance from him and try to keep it civil. But I do get uncomfortable when he is around. Anyways, I wish you too all the best and I do agree with you that we can't have everybody liking us or else we are just too perfect! LOL!
@ackars (1942)
• India
15 Jun 07
Yes.I can.That is not anyone other than my old lover.She must be hating me a lots now.Because I used to tease her and make fun of her a lots and disturbed her when I was at school.She still doesnt talk to me even if we are studying in the same college now.
@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
15 Jun 07
You must have hurt her somehow. Most people doesn't want to be made fun off normally. I hope you would get to settle whatever issues she has with you and if you hurt or offended her, you would find it in you to ask her forgiveness. Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned as they say, so all I could say to you is to beware. LOL!
@mskzalameda (4023)
• Philippines
15 Jun 07
hmm actually I can't name him or her but I can give some descriptions about him. He is a gay. He's been my friend then. he is my classmate right now. whenever I talk, he always says that I am always angry which is not. I give comments, I'm angry. I give opinions, I'm angry. I told him about that your words can get really harsh sometimes (oftentimes) maybe you really don't know me so heck get out of my life don't care about me from now on. After that, he always approaches me, asks me questions but I don't answer for he might say the magic word again and I don't want to say bad words to him for the 2nd time cause it is so irritating. He puts me in shame in front of public. I don't like people who are plastic. He stabs me at my back and do that. oh my goodness! I don't know why he's mad about me but its true that we can't please all people and he did not please me. He has always been like that and I really hate it so I will be quiet whenever he's around to keep the fire off.
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@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
15 Jun 07
I gather that the feeling is mutual. lol! Some people do sometimes bring out the worst in us. I know somebody do has that same effect with me but as much as possible I just ignore that person. What I can't really take is for someone to embarrass me in public. I may do something drastic like going to a 'mangkukulam' he he he! Seriously, those people should only be ignored the more we ignore them, the more they get frustrated. Thanks for sharing!
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• Philippines
15 Jun 07
yes that's why I always ignore him for he only ruins my day ha ha ha! witch huh? hehe!
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• United States
16 Jun 07
haha that is a good discussion, my fiancees sister and the feeling is mutual! she has no friends that are girls and her attitude is horrible!
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@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
18 Jun 07
As long it doesn't bother you and it doesn't affect your relationship with your fiancee, then its okey. HOwever, if ill be in your shoes, I would try to make some extra effort to like her just for my fiancee's sake. I wish you all the best and thanks for responding!
@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
18 Jun 07
What she is doing is actually unethical even if she is the wife of the boss. She may be considered corrupt if she is living in my country because she is using company resources, time and people to do some personal things for her. I do hope she would improve with time but I guess that's just a wishful thinking. I hope you would manage to keep it civil as long as it takes but that would be kinda stressful. I hope you could talk with your fiancee and let him find other job so that he won't have to do her bidding. Goodluck!
• United States
18 Jun 07
It kind of affects our relationship because I don't like how she uses him, she's caused alot of conflicts and even ruined his credit, he works for her in an office, she just married the head boss, because he has money, she admitted that to me, you know shes cold hearted right there, instead of him working at the office she has him go get her kids from school, do her chores, landscape her home, they are loaded and she has the nerve to ask if she can use my fathers truck so she won't have to rent one, talk about using people. I have been trying to get along with her for my fiancees sake, we pretend to like each other it's actually quite funny.
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@Shaun72 (15959)
• Palatka, Florida
18 Jun 07
I have dealt with these types before myself.I remember when I use to work underneath my bestfriend. This one girl that also worked underneath her always wanted to start trouble with me. It was like she got mad because I was there. I will never forget that stupidity.
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@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
18 Jun 07
That is again another face of jealousy. I am glad that you didn't let her affect you much. Thanks for responding!
@urbandekay (18278)
15 Jun 07
I am sure there are many people that don't like me. But as someone once said. "Woe, to you when all men like you." all the best urban
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@urbandekay (18278)
15 Jun 07
Also, other people's opinion of me is not really any of my buisness all the best urban
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@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
18 Jun 07
If all people likes you, you may be too good to be true or trying too hard that you have to be untrue to yourself? I guess so. Good that you aren't one of those. All to best to you too urban. Thanks for responding!
@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
16 Jun 07
Hello,cdparazo,i am not sure whether anyone do reallt hate me or not,but i can tell you i cannot name any of them,may be someone may have hate me behind me or they try to hide their hatred deep inside and not show to me,so may be I am not able to know who really do not like me. I will try to be nice with other people and not let them hate me,no matter they like me or not ,i have tried my best and i have nothing to say evenr they hate me.
@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
18 Jun 07
I think no one could really feel as strong as 'hate' towards you with that kind of attitude and dealings with other people. The most that they may feel maybe dislike or much lesser things such as irritation. If you are always positive, so positive things, emotions and people would tend to gravitate towards you mostly. All the best! Thanks for responding!
@Lucille7 (509)
• South Africa
15 Jun 07
Yes of course. My fiance's ex-wife... she hates me not just does not like me... my husband and I got divorced last year but we are engaged now again and want to get married next year again. The problems that invaded our marriage of 5 years has almost been sorted out and we are working things out, but his ex-wife of 13 years now just hates me and always has. She feels threatened by me and no longer wants me to have a relationship with her children nor does she want me to re-marry her ex. Well, she did not want me to marry him 6 years ago now either... So ja, i think that we will always find people in life that dislike us or even hate us because they feel threatened by us in some way. But that is due to their own insecurities and hang ups in life. They need to get over themselves and move on. I do not harbour ill feelings and just move on and try to exclude such people from my life.
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@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
18 Jun 07
Wow! that is complicated situation since you cannot help having interaction with her children since you remarrying their father. I guess it is also perfectly understandable that others may hate those women or person whom they consider as their life's rival. I guess you are her nemesis. LOL! NO use being hung up in the past. I wish you all the best and happiness with your upcoming marriage.
@Lucille7 (509)
• South Africa
18 Jun 07
Thank you very much... much appreciated.
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@mari_skye (1637)
• Philippines
18 Jun 07
Does people in the past count?:P I had this college professonr once who does not really like me. He is not really sarcastic or mean to me but I feel that he is ignoring me. Like I do not exist. Its not that I want to have his attention but at least just the common courtesy of acknowleding my presence would be just fine. I have this friend whom he likes and when we're together he would just say hi to my friend and ignore me totally. At first I felt bad about it but then I thought to myself, "hey! who is he in my life anyway?":P So there, I learned to play the game with him.
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@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
18 Jun 07
I had a teacher who was like that in college too and I really thought that he just doesn't like me and has something against me. I had also a friend who just tops his class and who was an apple in his eyes. However, my sister befriended him and it turned out that he just doesn't know me nor remember me. I didn't know whether to feel bad or better. I thought I was just sooo insignificant not to be remembered. LOL! I am glad that you have a good attitude towards such kind of situation. That's the way to go! Thanks for responding!
@rangics (1334)
• Philippines
16 Jun 07
My EX-boyfriends current girl! LOL! I just don't know why she haaaattttteeesss me so much... I guess she just can't accept the fact that I was ahead of her...It's not my fault anyway. She can enjoy my ex all her life! I'm not aftering him anymore! ;) LOL!
@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
18 Jun 07
Maybe because your ex is not over you yet and she feels it? LOL! those are one of life's irritations which I consider not losing sleep over. Go girl! and move on even if she can't. Thanks for responding!
• Philippines
18 Jun 07
i don't hink i could name them here at mylot... anyway, i know of the people who dislike me to the maximum level. they are from the same school where i am working. i don't know what i did to them for them to hate me that much but a lot of people, especially my friends, tell me that these people hate me because they envy me big time and that they are so insecure of me because of certain factors like status in life, educational attainment and my relationship with my students. in one way or another, i think they have a point. i used to love my stay in the faculty room. well, at least for my first 3 years of teaching. then, some of the people i work with started making my life miserable (this has been going on for more than 5 years). i can't stand being in the faculty room for at least an hour with all those eyes rolling, eyebrows raised, and some people whispering while looking at me..yeah, i could have left my job but i couldn't... i won't leave my job because of them! no way! i love teaching... perhaps, given the chance to transfer to another school, i would.
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@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
18 Jun 07
As I said, jealousy is a lousy thing. I am glad that you didn't let them drive you away from what you love doing though you are greatly affected by them. Just continue doing your own thing and they would have more things to get jealous about since you are not letting them affect you. Life is full of those people. We can't let them pull us down. I wish you all the best and thanks for responding!
• India
18 Jun 07
I dont like my brother in law who loves me still I am married. He is my husband's brother. When I tell to my husband, he will scold him and doesnt allow him into our house. The one person in this life who I dont like is he only.
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@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
18 Jun 07
That is a bit difficult since he is family and it does cause a rift or quarrel with your husband and brother in law. I don't want to cause any rift within my husband's family if ever. Family should be our haven of love, peace and comfort but I guess not everybody has a family like that. I wish that your brother-in-law will get over whatever juvenile feelings he is harboring towards you and realizes that it is pointless. Thanks for sharing!
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
15 Jun 07
it's difficult to please everyone, huh? no matter what we do. no matter how nice we are, there are just people who hate us. and that is such a bad truth to accept. the person i know who hates me by now if my ex boyfriend's wife. she is envious of me all the time. even if i don't have any mean of communication with her husband, she still dislikes me. we have common friends and at times, we get to meet. and obviously, she hates me. and so, just recently, i decided not to go see our common friends. i feel bad whenever she treats me like an alien. (you know what i mean). even if i have no interest of stealing her husband from her, she feels that way to me all the time. so better not be with them so i won't be seeing her anymore... anne
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@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
18 Jun 07
Oh anne do you thinks its all worth it giving up those friends just because of her? I hope you won't let her dislike affect you in any way. Let it eat her but not at you. You could always choose to ignore her too. I wish you all the best and thanks for responding!
@djmarion (4898)
• Philippines
16 Jun 07
i have this one lady in mind, she was my classmate in college. at first i thought she likes me to be her friend so i befriend her, later on i found out thatshe's just using me. when i confronted her she told me blatantly that she doesnt really like me. until now, i dont know why she hates me.
@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
18 Jun 07
I can't understand such machinations. I would never befriend someone whom I don't like in the first place. Good that you are no longer in her company then. All the best. Thanks for responding!
• United States
15 Jun 07
Where ever you go there's always going to be at least one person who doesn't like u. There will always be someone jealous of you. And jealousy is a very ugly thing!
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@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
15 Jun 07
I do agree with you that jealousy is ugly. It just bring out the worst in a person.
@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
15 Jun 07
I don't know if someone doesn't like me. I have not been in close contact with too many people. I have a group of friends that are very good to me. I think one of my rivals in our logic class doesn't like me. She always debates me everytime I answer my professor.
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@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
15 Jun 07
Hmmm...i find that challenging and a bit amusing too. YOur logic class must not be boring. I had that kind of classmate too but I just didn't mind her and I just did my best. Happy schooling!
@maehan (1439)
• United States
15 Jun 07
Nobody is perfect. For sure they are ppl do not like me. But, I kind of blur, I do not really care if he/she do not come forward and tell me directly. There is one ex-colleague of mine ever approach me telling me that she knows one of the guy can't stand me as I am too straight forward. I just smile. I told my colleague nobody is perfect and that's include me. hee hee.
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@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
18 Jun 07
I think that it is good that you take them all in good stride and not let it affect you in any way. That's the way it should be. Thanks for responding!
@butterfly39 (3904)
• Philippines
16 Jun 07
Who cares anyway if she doesn't like you. I think what matters most is you have real friends of your own. Don't be bother of her. We can't please everybody remember?
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@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
18 Jun 07
Bravo! I do agree with you. that's the way to go. thanks for responding!