Have you had any 'Generation Gap' with your parents,siblings or children???

generation gap - Generation gap with children or parents
@easy888 (10405)
Australia
June 15, 2007 9:09am CST
'My parents and brothers are very opened mind and i can talk about any topics with them,no matter something about life,money,or even mature content:P. We do not have any taboos at all and we always feel happy when having conversation,we seldom have arguments.' How about you?? Could you talk about anything with your parents,siblings,children?? have you had any tabbos? Have you always asked your parents for advice??Have you listened to them ? Did they always think they are right?? Or would you let your children discuss with you what they want? Have you had any arguments with your family members?What happened?Did you settle them finally?? DO share your thoughts:)
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@maehan (1445)
• United States
15 Jun 07
My parent, brothers are like friends to me. We simply talk anything or discuss and get the best out of it. My husband side of the family are just like our friends. My father-in-law is like my buddy that I can talk and seek for advice. For my 2 boys (5 & 6), they are my sons and still in the process of nurturing stage. But, what I like about them is they will talk simply anything to me whether they are happy or sad. Keep my finger cross, and I had to work towards the way my family had done for me. Be friend and no barrier but with respect. Argument? Hmmm ..... I would classified them as a debate or discussion. The worst one we have was my brother do not want to pursue medicine when he is going to university. He prefer business or accounting and secreting drop off medicine and go for business. My parent freak out at that moment. My brother was angry and start yelling saying that was his life. I pull my parent over to my room explaining to them that to be a doctor or any profession, you must have passion and like the job. Days after, they finally admit that they had overule by their mind that they wanted the children to be the best.
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@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
15 Jun 07
True,it will be a good thing if every family members treat the others like friends within a family. In some society,the parents are always right and the children have to follow to their parents,I think it is not a good thing.
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• Hong Kong
15 Jun 07
I don't have any brothers and sisters, and children. My parents are really open-minded, I would talk about everything in life with them. I enjoy talking with my dad more because he has a patient personality and objective view on things. My mom would tend to be a little more hot-tempered and jump to conclusions real fast. So I guess I enjoy talking with my dad more because of the personality matching not because of the generation gap. I definitely would ask for advice from my dad if I have problems in life or something I need to figure out. I think he is really intelligent and he always gives out great advices. Sometimes where the situations are advices are not necessary, he would give words of comfort and encouragement. I admire him in every sense and I am glad and proud to have a dad like that *smiles*.
@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
15 Jun 07
He must be a very good father.I think no matter what they do,either they tell you to do something or not, their intentions are good even you may not agree with them.
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• Hong Kong
16 Jun 07
True! I believe their intentions are all that they think what is "better for us" even if we don't agree with them.
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@swatig (1187)
• India
15 Jun 07
You are having good fortune that you and your parents not having tabbos and can talk on any topic. whereas i want to be talk freely on any topic but i cannt. i think there is so much generation gap or they are having their own bias or tabbos that why not able to talk freely and not talk daily even the number of family members is not exced then no. of room. what i think is too much close to religion that makes each and every family member to live seperately for their peace so they just not want to come out of this. So much of anything is always not good, that i think. may be i can be wrong in my stand but then also i say what i feel as im just fedup with life and not want able to tolerate depression feeling anymore. But i not forget to smile so atleast smile with me. :) thanks
@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
15 Jun 07
To remove the generation gap,it may take a long time and need a lot of communications.
@mexshyl (878)
• China
15 Jun 07
Hi, easy888. I'm the only child of my family. I think there does exist generation gap between my parents and I somtimes. As for me, I treat them as my friends although we have different opinions on some points. I think it appears in most of the families more or less. Evasion could not solve any problems and we should face it. I'll take their advices on most occasions because they've got more experiences than us and can give us good suggestions. Have a nice day! :)
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@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
15 Jun 07
True,parents should have more life experiences than us and we may take their advises at times.Although they may not be right everytime,atl least we can exchange opionions and have better comminication.
@mexshyl (878)
• China
16 Jun 07
Yeah, nobody can be always right(of course, including parents). And I think communication is the best way to narrow or reduce the generation gap. There's really lack of better communication between parents and children among some families. Then there comes more and more problems.
@smoke_gun (1243)
• Malaysia
15 Jun 07
there is always generation gap between me and family.i dont think this problem can be solve,either reduce.i found that they are living in another world,something like jurrasic park,and they are very enjoy about it.no handphone.no computer,and no internet will make them living comfortable but thats hazard for me.they are keeping the old tradition teaching,outdate values 3000 years ago from china by an idiot called conffusion.if you want to know more about conffusion,you can try asking your chinese friend,the one very "chinese".with his teaching,there are many generation gap in chinese family around the world,this is my race regret.the old man dont want improve with 21 century environment,they still thinking the world has betrayed and left them behind,they never recognize that its their fraud just standing at point where they were,and never move their step out.what a shame!
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@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
15 Jun 07
yeah,i have heard about the name Congucius but i am not really too sure about the details,but i think he should have huge influence on the traditional thinking. Each races will have their ways of thinkings and it may be hard to compare.
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@smoke_gun (1243)
• Malaysia
15 Jun 07
yes,he did influence to chinese society with his teaching,or better call it "brain wash" lesson with the values of slave.the successful chinese never believe in his teaching,they just used his teaching as aspect accessory.my friend's said chinese is a smart and cunning race,he just dont know there are still many fosils at behind.
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@edelweiss (1929)
• India
16 Jun 07
Generation gap is a concept to define difference of thought and opinions of people belonging to different generations. I feel that there is no matter that cannot be resolved with proper discussion across the table. Very rightly said that if you can discuss your views with your parents or children with an open mind and will to listen to their ideas and together come to a decision the bond og blood only grows stronger.
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@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
17 Jun 07
True,i think it may not be easy to solve the problem of generation gap as parents may always have their old thinking ingrained in their minds.
@r0ck_r0ck (1953)
• India
16 Jun 07
well as i dont have any siblins or childrn, i am quite really frank wid my parents! i mean i can almost talk abt anything! life, money, gf. 'Mature stuff' not really. :P
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@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
16 Jun 07
:)They should be quite open minded anyway.
@subha12 (18452)
• India
16 Jun 07
no, for me it never happened. My parents are very liberal. Although i am 7 years younger to my7 elder brother it never had been a generation gap. we were a very close knit family where each of us understood everyone very well.
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@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
16 Jun 07
Good to hear that:)
16 Jun 07
Nope... I could do that, I'd rather ask someone else's advice but I think this would be the general reaction of a brit. These things are really our strong point and we don't even like talking business or work etc.. So not much chance with that hehe ~Joey kudos!
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@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
16 Jun 07
:)
@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
15 Jun 07
Me and my father have almost 40 years gap. He is now 63 years old. It very hard to talk to him about certain things. He might not be able to understand some things because it was a lot different during their time. We always argue about certain things and I always say that, it's different now.
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@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
16 Jun 07
I can understand your situation,it is not easy to change his thinking suddenly.Something may have been ingrained in his mind for long time.
• United States
15 Jun 07
Big generation gap with my step-father. He is from the 1940's and 1950's and I am from the 1980's and 1990's, and his generation does not like my generations music or films and he was raised as a strict Catholic, I was not, and so he still believes in the ways of the church, I am Agnostic, so I do not believe in the church. In fact, many of my friends and some of my family members are Agnostic and we do not believe in the church or in religion at all. We think that religions are cults.
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@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
16 Jun 07
oh,true,the communication gap between your step fathers and you may be because of the difference in religion,it may not be easy to close the gap.
@shemah (841)
• Malaysia
15 Jun 07
I share mostly everything with my mother and sisters. Not so much with my brothers,though. I have 2 elder brothers aged 31 and 28. I usually go to them to share interests like sports and cars and other guy stuff. Or if i need any advice on business. With my mother and sisters, we can talk about anything under the sun. If i have problems with my husband, i'll go to her.. just to ask for general advice, because sometimes, eventhough i know she'll understand marriage quarrels, i think that should be between my husband and i. I wouldn't want her to judge my husband or myself too harshly, you know. I do hope one day that my kids and I are able to talk freely amongst each other. Making them comfortable with me and my husband, at the same time, I hope they will still treat us with respect and not as how they act with friends. I got married pretty young, when I was only 20, so my children won't have such a large gap between us. My son is now 3 while I'm 24. Arguments are pretty normal. I think it's just a way of life.. Don't you think so?
@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
16 Jun 07
I think it may be a good thing to have children when young so that you will not have large genaration gap when they grow up.They may be like your friends rather than your children.
@gberlin (3836)
15 Jun 07
No, I do not have a genreation gap with my parents, siblings or children.
@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
15 Jun 07
good:)
@Willowlady (10666)
• United States
15 Jun 07
It behooves us to keep one foot in the ways of our parents so we can keep the lines of communication open. As they age they may seem to be more and more in the old days. Cherish the memories and keep the lines of communication well open to make those memories that you will treasure for sure.
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@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
16 Jun 07
True.
@whyaskq (7531)
• Singapore
15 Jun 07
"Generation Gap" with parents - sure always. I often wonder why they just cannot understand me. Their advices, in my opinion, do not fit the my generation. I attribute it to generation gap. As for my sibblings, it wasn't so obvious as my sibblings and I were not years apart. Children - lol. I do not know since I cannot communicate into the future. However, I do find to a certain extent, a generation gap with my nieces and nephews. I just wonder why they are so carefree and innocent, can just play and play. How nice.
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@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
16 Jun 07
Your nieces and nephews are still young kids,aren't they.?
@sukumar794 (5047)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
15 Jun 07
As for me, I find that the concept of generation gap is not applicable to me in every aspect . I can very well condescend to the level of a teenager's options at this age of 57 years. You never will there is gap between generations if you have the alertness to react to changing situations . You are never in the past when you have the present perspective at your disposal .
@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
16 Jun 07
True,but some people may have conversative parents and they like to stick with their old thinking and not accept different opinions.
@misheleen73 (6037)
• United States
16 Jun 07
My parents never discussed anything with us as children. We were to be seen and not heard. I grew up in the 70's & 80's. As soon as I hit 18, I was out the door faster than you could say boo. I have had many arguments with my family, and now I live 1500 miles away, so that makes it much easier. Except for my father, that I brought up here to help, but has done nothing to help himself !! I do not have this with my own children. They are allowed to ask me whatever they want, and I discuss with them whatever the topic may be. We have had a few serious talks as they are only 10 & almost 8. Thinga they may have seen or heard about.. I have never lied to my kids, nor to I try to "soften" anything we talk about. I tell them how things really are, so they know the truth. Both my boys are happy & well adjusted, so I don't think I will have any problems in the future discussing anything with them. They know I have an "open door" always.
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• India
16 Jun 07
I don't have any generation Gap with my parents and also with my kids. But I don't think that the issue of generation gap is related to all topics such as mature content etc. There is a limit that somebody can speak to everybody. Normally we speak to our parents, Kids and spouse various subjects and matters. I mean we have to be aware that what can we talk to whom. These restrictions will not come under the matter of Generation Gap. If you can perform an open contact with parents, siblings and kids we can say no Generation Gap. There is a proverb which means that when we serve food we must know the plate.
• China
16 Jun 07
Yeah,I have some taboos sometimes,about personal affair,we might disagree with each other,sometimes peaceful discussion become bitter quarrel,maybe we should calm down and open our heart.
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@thefuture (1750)
• Nigeria
16 Jun 07
Yes friend. I can talk about anything with my parents and I am happy cos they always give me the type of answers I want. Thanks