i'm too competitive
By poppoppop111
@poppoppop111 (5731)
Canada
June 15, 2007 12:55pm CST
i know i'm a really competitive person and i don't want to put that on my daughter. i find myself having to bite my tongue and ignore the soccer game while i go watch my daughter. she's only almost 4 and i'm finding myself shouting from the sideline to go after the ball and get in there. it started off as encouragement but when i noticed i was getting annoyed cause she was just standing there and not trying i had to start ignoring the game so she can just do what she wants cause she is there just for the fun of it. i really don't want to be one of those mom's who take it too seriously and get angry at their kids for not doing their best or winning. how can i avoid being too competitive?
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@sizzle3000 (3036)
• United States
18 Jun 07
The best thing is that you know you are competitive and you know that you have to watch yourself. This is half the battle. The thing is now you have to keep yourself in check. As long as your daughter is having fun that is all that matters. We all want our kids to do their best so we as parents have to set the example. I had the same problem but kept it in check and believe me it is not easy. I wish you luck. Just enjoy her having fun.
@magica (3707)
• Bulgaria
15 Jun 07
Try to understand that your daughter is not your copy. She is a different person and you cant impose to her your own personality. Respect her feelings and interests. Try to understand that they can be similar to yours, but also differ completely. Try to understand that she is a CHILD. She is not your equal partner or concurent. And try to analyze honestly the reasons for your overhelming ambition. Isnt it a compensation for something else?
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