Do boys don't cry?

Philippines
June 15, 2007 8:42pm CST
I want to hear something from you. My husband used to cry and I saw him crying...not only once but several times. Does it really matters? Or maybe he's just a real man.
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
13 Sep 07
Absolutley they do! I think it's much better to cry and get the feelings out in the open than to keep it inside and fester. I believe a man is a real man when he's able to cry and not be ashamed of it. It's better for him and all who's concerned for then he can talk about what's bothering him and get it off of his chest.
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@bowtieguy (5924)
• United States
29 Aug 07
Contary to the popular cure song, I think that they do soemtimes. I do when I watch a sad movie or something bad happens to a loved one and I cried at my wedding as well.
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@eprado (1473)
• Philippines
3 Aug 07
I believe tha boys that do cry are real man. It doesn't matter and make him less of a man if he shows he's true feeling and cry his heart out. I myself cry and when I do I feel much better coz I had let out my emotions. One thing also is its not good to suppress once feelings and keep it inside our heart, crying is good for the heart :-)
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@youless (98993)
• Guangzhou, China
3 Aug 07
I have never seen my husband cried. I just saw he was a little bit tearful when he watched a program from TV. It's a show about a teacher in the ancident time in China. He devoted himself to the teaching in all his life. So it's very moving. He also told me that he dropped tears when he read a novel about the war. But I have never seen his crying moment yet. I think it's alright that a man will cry, but they just hardly let you know. Whe a man cries, it must be something really touches his heart.
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@gyw2124 (41)
• Nigeria
2 Aug 07
some men are men while some are justlike women cause women cry when they are hurt but actual truth is that crying solves nothing just look for a way out
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• Singapore
31 Jul 07
I used to cry when I was at age 13-17, after enlistment for army, I hardly cried because I am a real man. Crying is a way of disposing internal stresses and expressing your disappointment.
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@babostwick (2037)
• United States
16 Jun 07
Sometimes, it just depends on what the situation. Most of the time, I don't cry. It takes a lot to do that. I'm not the type to cry a whole lot. It doesn't matter really to me at all if a man cries or not. I think really to be honest just means they're human and that's it.
@kusmadi (128)
• Indonesia
16 Jun 07
clear
• Philippines
16 Jun 07
I believe you and I think boys taht cry are true human beings. At least they know how it feels, why they cry... thanks a lot
• United States
16 Sep 07
That depends on the situation a man will face. If a man doesn't cry in any case, that just means he is a wood without any emotion. If really feeling very bad, why not cry to release the tension.
@Feona1962 (7527)
• United States
30 Jun 07
Crying is a very normal thing no matter who you are or how old you are. Crying doesn't make you less of a person....A good cry can heal the soul.....
• Philippines
31 Jul 07
yeah and after crying you feel of so relax and relieve from something ...
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• Philippines
29 Jun 07
boys do cry, my husband always cry when he is drunk. i really do not know the reason but he cries when drunk. well it doesn't bother me, he just cry here at home. no one sees him except me. ;0
• Philippines
31 Jul 07
maybe he's just upset...he wants to pour it out through crying...
@kingri (46)
• United States
28 Jun 07
Tears are a great thing. Tears show that you know the meaning of mercy, love, and compassion. This may sound like a strange comment, but I would give anything to be able to cry more often. To not cry more often than I do, makes me somehow feel more cold and calloused than I know myselft to be.
• Philippines
29 Jun 07
you're right, it's a good alternative to release pains inside our hearts.
• Canada
19 Jun 07
Hi Butterfly 39 Thanks for your response. I am a new Mylot user and have checked out your site. Your have some interesting 'perspectives' and have requested you join my friends list and you can tag me if you wish. I am intrigued by your comments about men and crying. In my view men who are in touch with the whole range of human emotions and are willing to express them openly are not only real men...but balanced human beings as well. I love my hubby for being able to do what yours does. All the stereotyping of people in today's world is very confining. I love to see people who are willing to express their uniqueness. They are a gift to all of us!
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
Thank you for sparing time and I'm so happy to share something that really happening to me. At least I know that I am not the only one. How will i do then maybe I'll just add you automatically? thanks a lot.
@latsmom (824)
17 Jun 07
I think that being able to express your emotions is a strength not a weakness be it tears from a man or from a woman. So many people lash out and shout when tey get angry, my ex was guilty of this then it woudl be days later that he would tell me why he was upset in teh first place, I jsut wish that he would not bottle his emotions and sometimes that he woudl have a good cry, afte rall isn't it bette rfor a man to cry in upset and frustration than to lash out at a woman or child?
• Philippines
18 Jun 07
thanks for sharing your thoughts...
• Philippines
17 Jun 07
Crying is one of the natures most effective anti sadness therapist, tears help reduce stress stabilize emotion and remove toxins. That statement dictates the advantages of crying, maybe your husband want to lighten his burden inside, that why he usually cries, but still theres a fact that it will be dependent on the situation or on a thing he was crying for. I used to cry whenever I'm depressed or frustrated so much, whatsoever but I dont show myself crying to anyone, I use to cry at night so that no one will realize I'm crying, and my feelings that morning after crying is more refreshining. I rarely cry, but of course it depends on the situation.
• Philippines
18 Jun 07
that would be a great alternative, I know it help a lotto release the pain.
• Malaysia
16 Sep 07
hi, butterfly39..i think i got cry lo..that time i cry because i break with my girlfriend and my brother go other country work.. last time my tuition teacher told me that, guy cry will more health..
• India
15 Sep 07
i don't think men cry yaar...but there mayb some people sensitive..
• Philippines
13 Sep 07
I think there is no problem is a man cries. My husband too cries but just rarely. Maybe your husband is too emotional and he easily cries when he get hurt. I think crying is one way or one of the outlet of a person. I think that is good atleast he will not keep his emotion in his heart. He let it out through crying. That is better compared to a man who throws things when he is angry or hurt a person as his way of expressing his anger.
@Aneihs (66)
• Philippines
12 Sep 07
Oh yeah, he are very normal! It is so okey for guys to cry. My man has cried about 4 times in front of me out of the last 5 years. Guys think that that's not macho.It is so macho when they do! Guys are human too!It means a lot to us when you show it.Just keep him being like that, that shows that he really do care, and put him guard down.Good for him.
@jHoEn16 (2043)
• Australia
31 Aug 07
my husband cry too... but he doesnt want me to see it... he dont want me to tease him that i am the only girl that makes him cry lol! but its too obvious on his face... red eyes n nose... i think it doesnt matter wether they cry or not... if they cry then they are human.. with feelings
• United States
29 Aug 07
I think it is sexy when a man can cry in front of you.. I have only seen my hubby cry once. But I have him tear up but he will either walk aways or something to keep himself from crying...He thinks if he crys it means he's not a man or he is weak. And he is none of them..I tell him he can cry with me there and use myshoulder or we might be both using eachoters shoulders to cry on. Cause when I did see him cry it made me cry with him..
@milfea (519)
• Philippines
2 Aug 07
I have seen my Dad cry a lot of times, and my brothers too. Maybe, the boys who think that no one should see them cry is trying project a "Macho" image, you know, trying to be a tough guy. But being true to what you have inside and not holding back is, I think way better than projecting a "Macho" image.