Am I putting too much pressure on her?
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
United States
June 15, 2007 10:52pm CST
I have very high standards for my daughter, even though she's very young. But, I'm worried that I'm pushing her too hard to learn the basics. When did you start trying to teach your kids the basics, like handwriting, basic math, spelling, etc.
We do lots of daily study plus time for play too.
She seems happy, so maybe I am worrying for no reason.
I am even planning to add a foreign language and history classes to her daily study routine.
She's only three now, but I feel like she's already behind on things she should know.
Do you think I'm putting too much pressure on her?
3 responses
@Married2aMarine (1273)
• United States
16 Jun 07
Mine is two and I feel he is lagging behind in speech. He understands what we're saying but is reluctant to talk much. I've had him tested and they say he's normal. I know as parents we tend to worry a lot and expect a lot from our children. I think I get more pressure when I see other kids his age and they are more advanced than he is. Or when people ask me if he's doing this yet or if he's doing that yet and I say no and it feels weird...like I'm not encouraging him enough or teaching him enough. But I know every child is different. So, I'm trying to chill out a lot more now about it and just enjoy my child and let him learn at his own pace.
@makingpots (11915)
• United States
16 Jun 07
Boys tend to lag behind a little bit in speech, I'm sure you have probably been told that. You are so right, every child is different.
@youless (114117)
• Guangzhou, China
17 Jun 07
Your daughter is the same age like my son. I think today the world is going to be crazy. In fact before our babies were born, their parents already try to teach them something by listening to the music etc.
I am a Chinese. I taught my son A-Z and a few English words and basic conversation. He also knows a few Chinese words. He can count from 1-100. He can sing a few Children's songs. He learned three Chinese poems. I think that's all. I won't force him to study a lot. I do it for fun and he's proud of what he has learned. He's going to the kindergarten next month is everything is alright. I believe the teacher will teach him much more there.
@carlaabt (3504)
• United States
17 Jun 07
I don't think you are putting too much pressure on her, as long as she is having fun. I think it's good for kids to learn stuff before they start school. Your daughter is definitely not behind, though. My sister teaches kindergarten, and some of her kids don't know much of anything at the beginning of the school year.
My mom always says I push my son too hard and don't let him be a baby. He's 16 months old and can count to 8, and can get about halfway through the alphabet before he gets letters mixed up. It drives me crazy that she says that, because he honestly loves to count and sing the alphabet. He has a little learning table that counts and says the alphabet and he's learned more of it from that than from me.
