Wedding Anniversary.....death anniversary ??????
June 16, 2007 11:34am CST
Behold ! this is definitely not for the liberated western societal marriage scenario. In our traditional conservative marital alliance where freedom of the male partner is limited by controls and restrictions imposed by the society, marital ties most often become stale after a few years . Hence many men think and feel as if their wedding anniversaries add up to their living deaths. May be too much sarcasm ...but in reality this seems to be the thinking in most men's minds .
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16 Jun 07
I am not to terribly sure what you are getting at, is it the thinking in your culture? or in general. Either way I do not understand why this would come about, you only get out of a marriage what you put into it, and if it becomes stale to use your words, it is because some one has no feelings for their partner, Marriage is not about keeping a partner entertained, but in a couple working hand in hand to over come the obstacles that present them selves along the path of the marriage. Every day needs to be fresh and the feeling of being in tune with ones partner is essential. Yes it is easy to sit back and say If I was married to that person I would go insane, but it is like any thing it takes co operation by all concerned, to work. there is very little room for "I" in marriage. it is "us", or we. and it is a sad fact that very few people see this and hence the break down of marriage.
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17 Jun 07
Hi RobinJ- I think you have hit the nail on the head. You are absolutely right about marriage. I feel that marriage is hard work and a lot of people today are willing to give up after the first fight. I see my marriage as it is "we" and "us" and yes even "ours".
16 Jun 07
but then the women are also imposed by the same restrictions, actually even worse for them. at least this is in my culture. for example people laugh if the man has an affair but if the woman does, she will be disowned. In my generation, this changes a little bit, maybe now younger generation doesn't believe this anymore, it's unfair anyway. If men think like you said most of them do, maybe it's the kind of marriages where the women's family are dominant, maybe because she has more money and higher caste. just a thought!