Are you still close to your friends from high school?
By TinaCL
@TinaCL (429)
United States
June 17, 2007 3:33pm CST
Are you still close to your friends from high school? middle school? elementary school? It's funny. When I graduated, I thought my friends and I would be lifelong friends, but now I only talk to about two people from my class--and only through an occasional email every few months. Going away to college and grad school gave me new life experiences and I guess we all just grew apart. It's not necessarily a bad thing. In high school I was really concerned about image and being popular, but now that I'm out of that world, these things just aren't as important to me anymore.
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@xtinelee (3371)
• Singapore
18 Jun 07
Yes, I am still in contact with my high school friends. Well, only some of them, but nevertheless, still in contact with them. :-) They turned out to be really good friends of mine, even though we went to different universities. I guess best friendships are usually forged during high school days.
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@TinaCL (429)
• United States
19 Jun 07
That makes sense. The teenage years are very formative in shaping your character. Also, it's easier to stay in touch with people from high school because you're all from the same town, whereas college friends tend to drift off into different parts of the country. Even when you're on break from college, you can go home and see your high school friends.
@maybey (365)
• Philippines
18 Jun 07
I'm not close to them its because they are far for each other and have no communication. I can say they are a part of my life who never fade to my memory into my last breathe. The memories I got from them is helpfull to have a good and happy life. I wish I can see them and to know that they have a good life. I'm concerned for what they life is. One day in friendster I found one of my close friend in high school i'm happy to heared from her that she will have a good family and career. I'm thankful to God to give an oppurtunity to see her.
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@TinaCL (429)
• United States
19 Jun 07
Yeah I feel the same. We all live in different parts of the country (and even different parts of the world), but you can still have good memories. I've been reconnecting with people through facebook. It's kind of nice to at least be able to talk to old friends again.
@MrNiceGuy (4141)
• United States
18 Jun 07
I'm only a few years out of highschool but I am very close friends with all my friends from highschool. Especially a few very close friends that I try to see as much as possible. I'm glad to hangout with my new friends in college and work but I can't see myself forgetting my old friends.
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@TinaCL (429)
• United States
19 Jun 07
That's good--it's good not to lose your old friends. At the same time, it's also healthy to branch out and to have new experiences. Who says it has to be one or the other? I've gone through many different circles of friends, and I find that they all complement different sides of my personality.
@syain1972 (1011)
• Singapore
18 Jun 07
I have 3 best friends since secondary school days(equivalent to high school). We share a lot of happy moments and woes since then. We have been friends for almost 20 years now. Once in awhile we would visit each other. Now our children are friends..... They are my greatest gifts!!
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@chenee08 (591)
• Philippines
18 Jun 07
yes, i only have 8 close friends in highschool and until now were still together.. we even named our group lavngcake from the 1st letter of our name.. some of our batchmate in highschool kept on asking us what did we do to keep our friendship stronger and some were jelous coz they saw us together walking in the mall.while there relationship with their friends were gone so as the memories of their highschool.
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@TinaCL (429)
• United States
19 Jun 07
That's funny--I was just as close to my friends in high school, and I thought it would be that way forever. But then we all went away to school, had different experiences, and moved to different parts of the country. I guess we could have a reunion one of these days.
@jennypwet (9)
• Philippines
18 Jun 07
I still keep close contact with my friends back in high school and constantly meet up with my college friends. I guess its all a matter of how much free time you can allot to keep a steady communication with your friends. Don't worry, you can still revive those relationships anytime. you'll be surprised how glad they'll be to hear from you!
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@TinaCL (429)
• United States
19 Jun 07
yeah, I guess sometimes I get so wrapped up in my busy life (and being in a different part of the country) that I've just kind of lost track of my old friends. I've really changed a lot in the past few years and I've gone through many different types and different circles of friends. It just feels strange seeing my high school friends again because we're all so different. I guess i could still send the occasional Christmas card.
@lpetges (3036)
• United States
19 Jun 07
i still live in the town i went to grade school and high school, and so yes i see the same people. I have one really good friend that moved about 3 or 4 hours away, and its been hard to keep that one up. she did just surprise me and stopped in on saturday nite and i was so happy to see her. i can understand your point about not really caring about that part of your past. , but for me i really cant get away from it!
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@sunshinelady (7609)
• United States
19 Jun 07
No I am not close to my high school friends. Over the years through jobs and than I got a family and got all involved with that. It's called moving on. Every once in a while I talk to one of my friends from high school but that is not often at all. The things I did with my friends from high school were teenager things and now those things don't hold a high priority for me.
@arcidy (5005)
• United States
17 Jun 07
im close to a few friends from high school some friends from high school I usually see at least 3 times a week and I work with some of my friends wich is cool. They were my best friends in high school and there still my best friends now im glad nothing has changed.
@TinaCL (429)
• United States
18 Jun 07
That's cool that you're all still close. I guess it also helps that you stayed in the same area and even work together. There are people from my high school who never left my town and they are all still close. The friendship cliques are still pretty much the same as they were in high school.
@uiwwitch (892)
• United States
18 Jun 07
My two best friends are from high school. We never really hit it off at the start but we eventually discovered each other in sophomore year and we were inseparable from then.
I have never really kept in touch with anyone from elementary school, except for my neighbor who was also my constant companion then.
There a few more from high school that I still go out with from time to time but not that often.
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@msbiggs24 (285)
• United States
18 Jun 07
The last person I saw from my class was at a job I had. It was a telemarketing job so we both knew how successful we'd both become. Not too successful at all to be doing telemarketing. We talked everyday while at work and even on the phone a few times, but that was it. Once I left my job to go on maternity leave that was the end of our small reunion. I guess that's exactly how high school is. You talk with them as long as you're in school, but once it's over the conversations end too.
@TinaCL (429)
• United States
18 Jun 07
Yeah, it was kind of that way with my friends too. While we were in the same area, it was easy to stay in touch and to have things in common. But now that we all live in different parts of the country, when we do see each other, we're just not in the same mindset anymore. Our worlds are just so different.
@latsmom (824)
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18 Jun 07
I still see a couple of my old schoolfreinds but not amny of them, I ahve a little girl now and although some have settled and had children I suppose a lot of my old freinds live in a different world to the one I am in now (so to speak) It's nice to bump into them every now and again and catch up but so much has changed since then.
@babostwick (2036)
• United States
17 Jun 07
Some people I am with and others not so much due to not having contact. That said, I hope that I will see some of the people with my 5 year Reunion to see if I remember anyone and see if anyone remembers me.
@TinaCL (429)
• United States
18 Jun 07
My class didn't have a five year reunion (which was really strange because all the the other classes in my town had five year reunions). I think they are planning to have a ten year reunion. We'll see. I'm sure people will remember you. Five years isn't that long a time. I'm in grad school now and I ran into a guy from my high school (whom I haven't seen since graduation) and he totally remembered me.
@sweetmimzim3 (261)
• United States
17 Jun 07
My 20 year high school reunion is next month...and I know what you mean...everyone seems to go their own way. I have just recently started rekindling old friendships, and it is great!! I joined Classmates.com to connect with my old friends, and since our reunion is soon, it was easy to find them.
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@TinaCL (429)
• United States
17 Jun 07
I'm also a member of classmates.com, but you can't do much over there unless you're a gold member lol, and I'm too cheap to upgrade.
Have fun at your 20 year reunion!
My best friend and I watched Romy and Michelle's high school reunion. Not the highest quality film, but good for a few laughs.
@steney (1418)
• Philippines
18 Jun 07
Actually, I'm still close with them even if we don't really get to see each other very often. One of us is working abroad as a nurse so we get to see her every after two years. But when we meet, it's like high school days all over again. We maintain that kind of closeness even we're physically apart and it's nice. We've been through a lot of things through the years, so I guess that's what really binded us.
@retardedrugrat (4791)
• Canada
18 Jun 07
I lost contact with all of my friends from High School when we left. We all just went our separate ways and did our own thing.
Just recently, I joined a site called Friends Reunited, and found three of my closest High School friends. We keep in touch regularly via email, though I'm not sure if we'll ever meet back up with me living in Canada and them being in the UK.
It's been nice catching up on their lives and what they're doing with themselves these days.
@paulick (533)
• Denmark
18 Jun 07
This is by fare one of the best discussions i've seen in mylot.
Well i still talk to about 10 of my highscool friends and five of them are still my closest friends. I live quite a drive away from them right now, and i don't see them as much as i would like to, but we often talk over the phone.
@sweetmae27 (181)
• Philippines
18 Jun 07
i still get in touch with my friends in highschool. although some of them lives or work in other countries, but still, we see to it that there is always communicate with each other. and with the help of friendster, i happen to communicate again with my other friends in highschool.
@shemah (840)
• Malaysia
18 Jun 07
yeah.. i am still pretty close to my elementary through high school friends.. But it wasn't THAT long ago.. just only about 9 years back. i dont know whether we'll still be hanging out or keeping in touch in the next 15 years, though. Maybe we won't even recognize each other anymore!
@ememj12 (43)
• Philippines
18 Jun 07
After highschool I have never seen my friends then. Some are too busy with there studies. We have no contacts to evryone. Some went to other places. Whatever happens, the laughter, sorrows, and experiences never lost. I know that when we meet again we will still be friends or whatever happens we still be friends.
