People - Are they always as they seem to be ?

Hi, Sukumar, You are 100% right. I had many experiences on this account. Therefore, I do not consider any human on their face value or based on their behaviour they are good. I judge a person from their talk. I can easily found out while talking a person whether he is truly honest and dishonest. It is easy. In a given situation while talking, if he answers to a question in a normal way, then you should consider him he is reliable, if he fails to answer in a normal way, always consider he is crook.

I don't think people are always as they seem to be, maybe because I live in a city jungle and people are hiding behind their masks everyday because of the politics at work (and we work long hours too). I would say close observation would let you know what kind of people they are. Some of them seems quite nice but sometimes they just want to take advantage of you in certain contexts. Some of them might not seem very nice, but I found out I was wrong later as they are always helpful and self-less. Well, the amount of time spent on discovering one person can be incredible before you find out the truth.

I couldn't agree more. People like this, sometimes have a personality disorder. People can't behave in one way to all peoples, with honesty, are not to be trusted in my opinion.

I think that in today's world, it's getting more and more difficult to find people that are presenting their true selves to the world. Most people are trying to deceive others into believing that they are kind and noble, when truth be told, they are actually ruthless, selfish, and uncaring. The honest and straightforward people of this world are definitely the true gems.

I have just thought of this as I were reading your question. I had my share of disappointments with people in my life. And that is because most people are phoney. Now I think I have the solution. If you want to find out what a person is really like... make it angry on purpose... and that person will reveal itself for what it really is. If you approve of its reaction... apologise and tell it you were joking. If you don't approve of it... walk away. Simple as that.

Hi sukumar. Funny, but I was thinking along similar lines a couple of days ago myself. The conclusion I came up with is that some people take on a persona-a public face that hides their true nature-and they really work at trying to convince the world that this is who they really are. Once you gain entry and look behind the mask you discover an entirely different person than you thought them to be. It is an excellent subterfuge.

Hey s794, In addition to what you've said in your discussion I've found that w/ age ppl start to show their true self on the outside-like mean ppl get wrinkled from frowning or grousing all the time & evil ppl develop a strange appearance. +'s 2 U

No ,it's so difficult to really know a person.

I have found that most people have more than one face so to speak. There is the face they show in public and the face they show to friends. Most people when they are out in public they are very mannerly and polite. Then when they get around their friends they let down their hair and become rude. It can be very discouraging but get to know people in all aspects before making them your best friends. I always say look deep before you get too close.

Unfortunately, some people can put on a great front. I have seen this quite a few times. They act just like you want them to act and then one day, BAM! The real person shows, they have been play acting all this time. I do not understand how anyone could do this but they really do. They are great actors. Why do they do this? To get our attention and attract us and then like a spider in a web, they have us caught in their web of deception and we are trapped and cannot escape. I have seen this in relationships, not mine, I praise the Lord! I aways said I didn't ever want to remarry if something ever happened to my dear hubby because I don't trust anyone else, because I have seen so many deceptive people. There are even friends that do the same and then are so over protective that you are trapped in their relationship of best friends too. But let me add, there are still good people out there it just takes time to find them. But don't jump at the first person that wants to be your friend, give them space and watch them for quite a while before making them your best friend.

Yes, you're right. People might pretend to be nicer or friendlier in ordinary times. Their values, and their allegiance are tested in times of adversity. Rest all of the times, these people spend their time wearing a mask and showing to be something else than what they really are.

I think many times, people are not what they seem to be. I think that people in general are muli faceted and often, there is more to their personality or to "who they are" than what meets the eye. I don't think this necessarily means that they are hypocrites or that they are intentionaly misleading people. Sometimes I think people just lack the confidence to make their true feelings known. They fear rejection, so they act in a way that they feel is acceptable to those around them. I think most people are way more complex that we can ever guess.

I want to tell some thing .You can see and faith that.It should be or it should be not,then you pl see dream.And think over about that.About any bodies you see that may be.

I know that to be a fact too.. I came across an officemate once who was really kind. My fellow workers and I knew knew him to be that. He actually did me no wrong and would have been a really good friend if I had not known from another person that he actually beats his wife.I verified this from one of his neighbors and they said it was true...To think that he was really a gentleman to the ladies at work...

Of course noone is as they seem when you first meet them. You have to get to know someone to really know how they act. Heck there are even times when we think we know someone really well. But later find out we don't know they at all. So it is really up to the individual if you want to be friends with someone or not.

Remember the sayings, 'Don't judge a book by it's cover..', well this definitely applies to your post... I've come across a lot of people who may look like they are nice and all, but, in actual fact, internally, they are not... It's all about the masks that they put on....

Appearances can be decieving. There is a lot more to friendship than talk. Oftentimes people will say what they think you want to hear and not what their real thoughts are. It takes a lot of time to determine true friends and it can't be rushed

The old saying "You can't judge a book by its cover" is very appropriate in our lives today. It is very important not to judge a person because of what you assume they are like or what other people have told them. The value of something is not always obvious from what we see on the surface, so we should save our judgments until we have more experience. Unless you really have make acquaintances with them and befriend them that you will see their inner self. You need to take a deeper, closer look at it. We are easily deceived sometimes by the outside appearance of people, their beauty, charisma, good manners, kind words but never knowing that these are just ploy to get you attention and fall prey to their evill desires. This kind of people we should avoid of.

Not all people are selfish, it depends upon what your defination of selfishness is I guess. I have given all my life, I have let two homeless teenages live with us rent free, I have let my mom live with us for 10 years rent free, I have paid for more than my share of meals for friends who could not afford a meal. I have given of my time and myself not asking anything return but love. My saying is "Someday I will need help and I hope someone will be around to help me." Now that I am disabled and am making less than a quarter than what was while working, I do not pay for lunches, and I have no one else living with my hubby and I. The teenages grew up and moved out to be on their own, mom got so bad she is in a nursing home. I still give when I can, but my health will not allow me to as much as I would like. I disagree people are not all bad and we are not all selfish.

I seem to be snob and strict, but I am not. I seem to be very happy and gay but I have problems. I think if you have faith, you can still manage to smile and become happy in the middle of sadness. Most people at first think am strict, and snob. But after they get to know me, they think am hilarious or in our dialect "kalog". I believe that the appearance of a person can be deceiving sometimes. We can only know the person's behavior if we look thru the eyes and talk heartedly. God bless!