Is Beauty in the eye of the beholder?
By nielcdg
@nielcdg (709)
Philippines
June 18, 2007 7:34am CST
When me and my baby were walking in the park last weekend we chanced upon another couple enjoying themselves in the brightness of the day. But the couple we saw was indeed peculiar, the Girl was very beautiful infact in our opinion she could be an image model. But the guy she was having fun with and was cuddling with under a tree wasnt exactly a picture of a handsome man. He was a bit shorter than her and his complexion dark, his face well lets just say its a bit hard to stare at it...
My girl friend being a very curious woman that she is approached them, even if I dared not to "wouldnt want to disturb hahah" she asked them, are you a couple? She was even surprised when the woman answered back sternly saying "YES DO YOU HAVE A PROBLEM?" I giggled at my girlfriend she deserved the sarcasm she got from the girl, when my baby came back to my side I just smiled back at the other couple and walked on.
My baby said, I wonder what she saw in him? I said to my baby beauty is in the eye of the beholder, do you think Im attractive honey I asked, she said yeah. Well to some I am ugly while to you I am a handsome guy so lets just let them enjoy each other's company, what's important is that they are happy for what they have like we do right?My baby blushed and hugged me and we walked on enjoying the beauty of the park that we are beholding. How about you do you think choosing attractive partners is a big deal or is it like the girl's view of being unimportant. Personally I dont know what came over her but atleast she seemed genuinely happy:)
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25 responses
@simona1987 (201)
• India
18 Jun 07
well, first of all, u can't judge someone based on their looks. (actually, u can't judge ppl at all!) and physical appearances are the last thing u should look for in a partner. n ur rite, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. it all depends on ur perspective. if that girl n guy found happiness with each other, who are we to complain, right??
@nielcdg (709)
• Philippines
21 Jun 07
Exactly simona, thanks for you views it was appreciated. And I do agree that we shouldnt judge people at all, all of us has something wrong, it was the way we were made and humans are not suppose to be perfect right whether physically or mentally everyone has a querk! :)
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@leondias1987 (91)
• India
2 Oct 07
Well you cant trust people on their good looks obviously, but then sometimes a face can convey alot about the person and his characteristics (i know criticize me but still i believe in that)
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder but some people are lucky, like myself, as their better halves are not only good looking, but smart creative awesome wonderful loving caring and all the good things thats nice thrown in !
@unithorn (193)
• United States
18 Jun 07
TIME magazine recently had an article about people who date "out of their league". It was meant in humor, but the overall concept is much more involved.
Personally, I don't think that there are many people who are dating someone that they don't have an attraction to. A very plain man or woman will almost always become more attractive to those who know them if they have something unique about their personality or actions.
For example, it is quite easy to think that someone with horrible teeth and bad breath has a beautiful smile, when it comes to their face naturally and easily. Likewise, a generally attractive person can be displeasing if they have a sour disposition. You are right - beauty is very much in the eye of the beholder.
I can appreciate nice features on both males and females, but I have never been really attracted to someone until I have learned more about their personality. A nice body does me little good if I can't stand the brain that makes it function. A brilliant mind, however, can come in any sort of body. To me, the body is little more than the holding case of the mind, and it's appearance matters very little.
It is, however, important that the people in a relationship are attracted to oneanother, regardless of what the rest of the world perceives. Attraction, mentally and physically, give a relationship it's lifeblood, and keep it moving along.
Great question!
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@nielcdg (709)
• Philippines
18 Jun 07
Great answer profitable and full of points, :0 let me commend you on your strong opinion about being not able to stand the brain that makes the nice looking body function. Yeah its kind a common now a days for people with better features than others to be a little bit "ahem" boastful of their features. I think that people should be a little bit descerning like you when it comes to romantic prospects. I do she is not exactly a modeling type herself but she has her features that makes her very attractive. :)
Thanks for a nice reply :)
@Katlady2 (9904)
• United States
20 Jun 07
I think your honey is lucky that she didn't get hit over the head for her question. LOL. She sounds like a very bold, uninhibited lady. I love it! I think that choosing a partner that one has something in common with is more important than choosing for looks. A person may look incredibly beautiful on the outside, but can be very ugly on the inside because of negative feelings and behavior, and even abusive behavior as well. It's definitely better to find someone that you are able to get along with....and if that person is beautiful or handsome, then it is simply an added bonus.
@nielcdg (709)
• Philippines
21 Jun 07
Exactly, beauty is just an added bonus if you are looking for a mate, yeah I admit my baby is quite bold and that is one of the things I like about her she is not a pushover but her boldness sometimes gets her into sticky situations. But she does remind me alot of who I was 4 years ago that is may be why I love her so much because I see my younger self in her naivity hahah.... :)
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
Yeah I believe in that too. What are beautiful to us maybe to others is not. And we can't sure if she really looking forward to looks maybe she was been attracted to that guy because of his attitude. Hehehe it is the saying "don't judge the book by its's cover". What your girlfriend saw on the girls boyfriend is only the cover and the girls did not judge the cover she like the inner content of the book. LOL
@nielcdg (709)
• Philippines
21 Jun 07
Oh no may be I am a book cover only to her, Im not sure if she even reads my content...but she does open it :) hahah
any ways yes Dont judge the book by its cover is also applicable to this. Though I am also curious on what the guy had that made him so lucky to have such an attractive grilfriend :)
@ChangingLivesForever (145)
• United States
18 Jun 07
This one hit home. As the adopted mother of a young man now 27 with an incredible facial deformity that cannot be fixed and another adopted son in a wheelchair we have dealt with people like your girlfriend for years. It is hurtful. My 27 yr. old son decided when he was 16 to not have anymore surgeries as they could never make him look normal. Want to know something? He is happy, well adjusted and has friends. Even girlfriends! I had an accident when I was 25 that destroyed my face. My husband never ever made me feel less then beautiful. My face healed and we have been now married for 40 yrs. He tells me everyday that I am beautiful. So........beauty is within our soul.
@nielcdg (709)
• Philippines
21 Jun 07
Thank you very much for that touching story I will make sure my baby reads your response and maybe she will really learn her lesson from what you and your son are going through. sometimes I would wonder if she really does love me not only for my looks, but hey she has a good heart but sometimes its quite naive, I just hope she learned her lesson the last time because if she does the same thing to another person I sware she can go home alone because Im going to leave her at the side walk hahaha
Good for your sons mam and Thank You very much for your views it is most appreciated and your lifestory :)
@ChangingLivesForever (145)
• United States
21 Jun 07
That is the beauty of MyLot-we all learn something from each one of us. We share, read and experience something new with each and every post. Thank you for your kind response.
@taniaborealis (153)
• Philippines
20 Jun 07
It is true indeed that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but whats important is that for a person to see beyond the superficial being.
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
19 Jun 07
yes, i do believe that beauty is in the eye of the beholder... i think that your gf is being very insensitive by approaching the couple... i hope she learns her mistake and don't repeat it again in the future... it is really hurting people's feelings when she does that... it is unbelievable that your gf dares to approach the couple... i wouldn't even dare to do it as i don't want to mind into other people's business...
@nielcdg (709)
• Philippines
21 Jun 07
Believe me I dont know sometimes what comes over her to do such embarassing things...But hey she is my baby my responsibility is to guide her to a better personality. She is by the way 3 years younger than I am fresh out of the teenage stage an a bit superficial sometimes. But she knows when I draw the line, unfortunately she moved so quickly that day that I wasnt able to even trace a line hahaha
@magikrose (5429)
• United States
18 Jun 07
I do believe in that "Beauity is in the ee of the beholder" My husband to most people is not a very handsom looking guy but to me he is HOT. What makes my husband good looking to me is his heart. He has such a beautifull loving heart, and that is what Iam attracted to.
@nielcdg (709)
• Philippines
21 Jun 07
Okay, thanks for your views, I believe you are average in looks or above average since there are a number of people who do admires your looks, But sometimes there are people who are not that good looking but their features are so stricking that they become attractive none the less. I believe I am one of those people :)
@wachit14 (3595)
• United States
18 Jun 07
Attraction is far more that surface beauty. If everyone was only attracted to people because they were superficially beautiful, then only a small percentage of the population would be part of a couple. Beauty is also defined differently by various cultures. What would be beautiful to some would be unattractive to others.
@nielcdg (709)
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
Indeed I just find it that most of the later generations now a days would rather have a good looking partner then later find out that they are jerks its just so pityful that they are superficial now. Any ways I also believe that beauty does depend on the culture they belong to :)
Thanks for you views they are much appreciated
@tdbrower1969 (1242)
• United States
18 Jun 07
I also feel that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. There are many couples out in the world today, that i am sure people question. But, my thought on this, is if they find a bond, and if they are meant to be it does not matter what they look like at all. There is inner beauty that is more important than outer beauty, or this is the way that I feel. I don't admire people that are beautiful on the outside as much as I admire people who are beautiful on the inside. This is the way my parents raised me, to take people as they are, not on what they look like.
@vonn1378 (706)
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
Whew!! such a guts of your girlfriend to asked that couple. Hope she use her guts in other things though. No offense..
As for your query, I reckon beauty is in the eye of the beholder because beauty does not only consist of the physical attributes. Their are couples who maybe physically different (unattrative and good-looking)but their are qualities that made that person gorgeous...
@nielcdg (709)
• Philippines
21 Jun 07
Indeed and I would say to the guy "Good For You :)" and yeah being unattractive that he is the girl wouldnt be afraid of him cheating on her, he's all yours hahaha.... any ways the guy must have had a quality that made him so attractive to her and I hope I have the same quality.. :)
@pallidyne (858)
• United States
18 Jun 07
Sometimes beauty is also not just on the surface.
Maybe she found something real and meaningful--- something I guess many folks are too shallow to think of.
@nielcdg (709)
• Philippines
18 Jun 07
I think people who are shallow especially in looking for a romantic partner are stupid, my point is some girls say "He is so cute, he's a nice guy!" err really now you can judge that he is nice because he looks cute then they'll get offended when they find that the cute nice guy is actually a jerk. My question to girls like that ...Have you ever heard of TED BUNDY hahah...good luck. Any ways you are right the meaningful side of a person is indeed his or her greatest asset :)
@FraYFaN09 (1558)
• United States
19 Jun 07
I agree with that statement 100%. Some people find beauty on the surface while others find it beneath. That's also why not everyone is attracted to the same person/people.
@elizabeth525 (654)
• United States
19 Jun 07
I think that was beyond rude! You do not walk up to people and ask things like that especially when they are OBVIOUSLY a couple and doing couple things! yes beauty is in the ey of the beholder but it is really known of her business if they were a couple or not...and you are right..to some people what you see as outstandingly attractive may not be. and just because the woman was model pretty does not mean she was shallow because obviously she wasnt....
@nafeesa_mohd (281)
• India
19 Jun 07
cool, your gf is so daring.... well about beauty, yeah beauty lies in the eye of the beholder.... i had a relationship with a guy who was 7 years elder to me when i was 17 years old... he is not so good looking, but the love i had for him made me think he looks good.... but then for some reason after two years of relationship, i broke with him.... and ofcourse he created so much problem that induced so much hatred towards him... now i wonder how i fell for that guy.... all my friends during my relationship used to say i've made a wrong choice.... some used to say i dont deserve him.... i think the same thing happens in most of our life.... when we are in deep love, we dont really open our eyes to see what is the fact.... i'm not up here to offend anyone... for not having good look is not our mistake.... but should accept that.... love is blind and yeah, beauty lies in the eye of beholder....
@happymom1 (1179)
• United States
19 Jun 07
Yes i beieve in that saying. There are things that we cant see that others can see. We are made unique so each individual have different ideas and opinions.
@NorthEastBlues (35)
•
18 Jun 07
Do you mind me asking how old your girlfriend is? That was very rude of her and hurtful to that other couple. You are a nice looking man judging from your avatar and I'm sure your girlfriend is beautiful too, but wouldn't her feelings be hurt if someone commented to her that way?
@nielcdg (709)
• Philippines
18 Jun 07
I know that is why I tried to pull her away, Im sorry she is a bit younger than me she is about 19 now and a bit naive. Well its a lesson learned believe me she will never try that stunt again I hope...or else I leave her to walk at home alone. Oh well that's her personality being that upfront and a bit tactless hahaha and I had a good laugh at what she got from the other girl.
