How to get people to pay for themselves?

I think your cousin should pay for their shares. What you can do is send everyone a quotation about how much you will spend individually for the get-together and remind him or her to bring their money in a polite way so that they are aware they have to pay for themselves. It is about time to.

it is the problem with some people. they are just habituated in spending nothing and always enjoying in others' money.we have a bunch of relative like these. we invited the cousins for my birthday at a hotel. My aunt said that we want to join too, just think how shame less she is.again my mom has to call her, her husband and other aunt. the other aunt and her children came with a pack of chocolate. now the aunt who just said she will also come, came with nothing.. After the lunch at hotel she told mine is due a gift. till date nothing. she , her daughter and husband eat lunch and after that wanted an ice cream treat too.. Again last year when i shifted to my city, her daughter wanted we again call her parents and herself to an expensive hotel for dinner.we just took her, not her parents as we did not invited them. so they are shame less. best way never take them to any where. also do not invite.or make it a point clearly saying all has to pay.

If you go out to eat or something like that just tell the server right away that you would like seperate bills!!