When You MAD with your spouse/Bf/Gf/Partner, do you give them Silence Treatment?

@ibuemma (2953)
United States
June 18, 2007 9:39am CST
sometimes i do that...lol guilty as charge. When me and my hubby have disagreement on something, first 5 minutes sometimes we argue...and then when i can feel both of us "got on fire" i stop and just be quiet...depend on how argument went, i can stay quiet for few hours. Somehow he will ask " you mad at me?"...I heard one time that this Silence treatment no good at all. But for me might me necessary ;) better than got into big argument. How about mylotters..do you or did you ever do this? Or maybe your spouse do that to you?
4 responses
• India
18 Jun 07
Oh, i always try to give my boyfriend the silent treatment after he upsets me. but its all in vain. LOL! he does not react to it becoz he very well knows that i can't shut up for long. i must come up with new tactics! hehe :D
@ibuemma (2953)
• United States
18 Jun 07
i wish i can give you another way..but so far this one work fine..LOL Good Luck! and let me know...if you already find another way...please do share with me...Who know it will work with me and my hubby ;)
• India
2 Oct 07
i must ask you about how the new tactics seem to be coming up :D You actually come up with so many, all the time, but bottom line is the bottom line... you cant live without me lol ! So i suggest you just give into being beaten all the time ha ha ,but that doesnt mean i dont love you :) and then our relationship is all about you isnt it sweetheart ?? Btw what do i do to my girlfriend when i am upset with her, nothing because she is a sweetheart and never does anything to upset me ever :)
• Canada
18 Jun 07
Guilty here too! LOL Mind you, I don't get silent AFTER an argument. I am silent when I get upset or hurt by something. He always knows I'm not happy because I just don't speak to anyone. He'll do the same as your hubby... keeps asking "are you mad at me?" or "what did I do this time?" LOL that second one makes me laugh most times. He gets mad if he asks what's wrong and I say "nothing"... but sometimes I'm not in the frame of mind yet to discuss the problem. When that happens and I feel pushed, I lash out in anger rather than being able to properly tell him what the problem is. For me, silent treatment means time to think and maybe have a cooler head ;)
@ibuemma (2953)
• United States
18 Jun 07
hey...exactly first time he ask usually I answer "nothing" but probably with eyes that "If a Look can kill"....then yes he ask again "wow! I know that look...what did I do?"
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• Canada
18 Jun 07
LOL! EXACTLY! We say "nothing" but every man alive knows it's really "something"... and we *think* they're supposed to know without us telling them ;) Most men I know HATE hearing the word "nothing" now LOL
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• United States
18 Jun 07
yes i do. i prefer to keep quiet instead of blurting out and making the problem bigger. it gives us time to think things out and after abt 10-15minutes, we apologize to each other and we're okay.
• Philippines
18 Jun 07
hmmm...me too..lol! when i'm mad i just keep quiet and tell him the reason after a while, when my emotions subsides, and he knows it. he'll wait a while before asking me if im mad at him. and of course, same as you guys, at first, i'll say "nothing"...lol...but when he insist, i'll say everything.