How old were you when you get married? Or how old would you want to get married?

@pinks0da (328)
Philippines
June 18, 2007 11:58am CST
Hi everyone! Mind answering the question posted? And this another question, when you decided to get married, did you think you were ready? presently, did you think that was one good decision made? For the single ones, what would be the considerations before saying "yes i want to settle down already". :) I was 20 when i got pregnant and 21 when i got married. At first I had hesitations and didn't want to get married inspite of the fact that I am pregnant and my boyfriend back then (my husband now) wanted to marry me. Looking back, I just smile and I came to realize that my reason of not wanted to be married were so shallow and childish. Now I am living my married life with no regret! :)
5 people like this
45 responses
@saierchok (1294)
• United States
18 Jun 07
I'd love to get married when I become 26 :) I just like that age :P
1 person likes this
@pinks0da (328)
• Philippines
18 Jun 07
Well, good luck to you saierchok, I hope you'll be stable enough by then and get married not just because you love that age but because you are ready and that you love the girl you will be marrying :). Thanks for the response!
2 people like this
• United States
18 Jun 07
i was 22 when we got married. my hubby then just turned 18!!
1 person likes this
@pinks0da (328)
• Philippines
18 Jun 07
thanks crimsonclaw! I hope you'll stay inlove forever :)
2 people like this
@hcromer (2710)
• United States
18 Jun 07
I'm 21 and I'm not married yet. I don't really want to get married yet, I don't think that I'm ready. Who knows when I will or if I ever will be.
1 person likes this
@tiffthone (193)
• United States
30 Jun 07
I got engaged right after I turned 18, soon got pregnant, then got married just a couple months before I turned 19. Now I've been married for over a year, and its been great! I love my hubby and I love our little family. I'm very happy with my decision to get married at that age.
@pinks0da (328)
• Philippines
3 Jul 07
Good to hear that Tiff.. I'm glad you are happy with your decision. Remember you have to expand your patience and understanding and always keep the communication open to help the relationship grow. Good luck!! :) God bless your family!!
@KaseyLah (142)
• Canada
18 Jun 07
i think mid 20's i want to get married
1 person likes this
• Philippines
23 Jun 07
i was 23 when got married. No regets! i have a happy life, 3 handsome kids and loving husband. Marriage is not all about age...its all about love, respect and maturity.
@pinks0da (328)
• Philippines
23 Jun 07
So happy for you girl! :)... wish u all the best and congratulations for that new baby!! :)
@wisconsin26 (3859)
• United States
30 Jun 07
i was 19 when i got married, Actually i wanted to get married i don't believe at the time he did.. i didn't push him into it he just did... i was pregant at the age of 20.. but sometimes i feel like i made a mistake.
• Canada
18 Jun 07
My first marriage, I turned 23 on my honeymoon and we had dated for almost 8 years. We separated when I was 35 (and the divorce took about 2 years to finalize). I remarried at the age of 39. I don't think my first marriage was a mistake. Yes, we were pretty young but we had prepared for a few years. We were financially stable and we didn't have our first child until three months before our 3rd wedding anniversary. Our union produced the two greatest loves of my life, my daughters :) In the long run, and for many reasons, the marriage didn't last but that's how life goes sometimes. I also don't regret getting remarried -- even though many people swear they'll never do it again after a divorce. I held no ill and there was no reason not to marry someone that I love deeply. :)
@pinks0da (328)
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
well said thinkingoutloud.. I believe that in every failure we should not be afraid to give our hearts the chance to be happy again.. and that's exactly what you did! Good luck to you and thank you so much for the response! :)
@smints8985 (1594)
• United States
19 Jun 07
Ideally I would want to get married before turning 25, I wouls want to still have time to enjoy with my future partner before having children so that we'll be well adjusted with each other by the time we have kids. I would have wanted to marry earlier if I had found the right person but no such luck just yet.
@pinks0da (328)
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
Hi Smints! Well, don't be in a hurry, God has someone instore for you... You both has to find each other yet. Meantime, enjoy being single while you still can! :) Good luck!
@AmbiePam (85273)
• United States
18 Jun 07
I'm 26 and not married. I feel no pressure to get married and really do enjoy being single for the most part. But I would like to get married, and I'm thinking 29 or 30 sounds good. But I'm open to whatever. Life can surprise a person and I just want to be open to the surprises. : )
@pinks0da (328)
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
That's right, enjoy singlehood while you're at it! And I agree life is full of surprises, you can never tell when things happen..it's good to be prepared. Thanks AmbiePam.
1 person likes this
@gem0211 (38)
• Philippines
3 Jul 07
I was 24 and my husband is 20 at that time.I am older than him but we are doing just fine.
• Malaysia
18 Jun 07
I am 25 turning 26 soon. I have a 6 years old bf. We are in a steady relationship but there are still fight and quarrels ocassionally. I don't feel the need of marriage as we are both very financial independent, workaholic, different personality. I like the work hard and play hard style, he like the work hard and work harder style. I am not really sure we will ended up together...
@pinks0da (328)
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
hmmm... 6 years! wow! and you're still uncertain if he's the one for you? Can't blame you :), you seem to be a strong willed woman and that's great! I have friends whose been in a relationship longer than yours, unfortunately they ended breaking up for some reasons... some said, because of the long years of being together, it got boring and stuff.. that they fell out of love.. maybe they just lack strategies in keeping their love alive. To you Serena, I wish you the best in your lovelife!! Good luck girl!!
• Philippines
10 Jul 07
When I got married I was 25. I made the right decision because now I'm happily married for four years already. I had hesitations of course but when you decide to get married for the right reasons, things will fall right in its own places. Am happy you did it for the right reason pinksoda..Miss you!
• Japan
30 Jun 07
I married when I was 24 and pregnant just after we got married. I was ready at that time. I met a very responsible, caring, and loving husband so I never regret marrying him:)
@jeanena (2198)
• Bucklin, Kansas
19 Jun 07
I was 20 when i got married the first time, he moved back out of state a month and a day after we got married.I dont really think he was ready.I have been with the current hubby since I was 24 we will be together 20 years in jan.
@smacksman (6053)
19 Jun 07
Yes, married life is great! We courted for a year (NO living together - it just was not acceptable then) and then married in May, 1970 when we were both 28 and still happily together. So do the sums. haha
@sizzle3000 (3036)
• United States
19 Jun 07
I was twenty when I met my husband and started dating. I was twenty one when we got married. We had moved in together and my grandmother was not happy with me so we decided to get married a short time later. I waited till we had a solid relationship and then had my daughter. I was about twenty five when my daughter was born. I think if there is a lot of love and good communication it doesn't matter how old you are when you marry. I have been with my husband now for over twenty years and I would not change a thing. I love him more today than the day I married him.
@deano81 (12)
19 Jun 07
Im 26 now so is my wife, we met when we were 21 and we got engaged after 7 months and married after 2 years at 23 and we had our first child at 25 last september he is 9 months now, we knew for def then we were ready and now it was the right decision, love eachother to bits and our son.
@ntotsch (19)
• United States
19 Jun 07
I had just turned 20, the month before, when i got married. I don't think i realized what married life was going to be like, but it made me grow as a person and i learned a lot. At the time it was stressful, i was going to school full time, working part time, and a newlywed. However, we made it work, and now we've been married five years and couldn't be happier. I think it has to do more with your maturity level than age. Kwim? So I'm glad i got married when i did.
@Polukinha (149)
• Brazil
22 Jun 07
i never get married but i wanna get one fast !! sooooooooooooooo gooooooooooooood luuuccckkkkyy :DDD