oh for Crying out Loud!
By Modestah
@Modestah (11177)
United States
June 19, 2007 12:35am CST
okay, there are two extreme sides to the coin.
letting your baby cry it out til he/she falls asleep.
going to the baby at his first whimper.
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I've never been one to be able to let my child cry it out - all the way. Alot of the parenting books that I read at the time did express that this was healthy for the child to develop his lungs, clear out his pulmonary passages, and release stresses.
And I believed that those were benefits to be had -
but I just could not do it. my heart wrenched. I could not even wait the 5 minutes, I would be by that baby's side reassuring him or picking him up and coddling him within no time at all.
I felt like such a weakling parent, especially in the eyes of my own parents.
I do not know if I was detrimental to my children or not. I just went on instinct and did was came natural to me.
What are your thoughts
cry it out
tend to it
or
were you able to find a happy medium?(I am speaking of infants here and not toddlers with temper tantrums)
6 responses
@aprilgrl (4460)
• United States
20 Jun 07
Oh I had some family members telling me that I should let my daughter cry but I couldn't do that to her I felt that she was killing herself to cry and what if there was really something wrong with hewr and I to be blamed if something would ever happened to her. She was about 3 months old at the time and then she finally went to sleep with out crying because I was in the room with her till she fell asleep and I felt great abut it.
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@scarlet_woman (23463)
• United States
19 Jun 07
my folks were always told to let us scream.
that's probably what the "dr.spock" book said at the time.
i've heard they now say not to do that.
@ctv101103 (859)
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
i sometimes do let my daughter cry it out. but i never let her til she falls asleep/gets tired. it pains me to see her crying real hard.
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@rapolu_cs (1184)
• India
19 Jun 07
I think it depends on kids and the situation,ok fine i would like to choose the second one as i could not bear my kid crying and many mothers does the same.
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
19 Jun 07
My wife and I adopted the idea that we didn't want our son to cry it out, so we attended to him as soon as he started. I think one of the reasons that we were able to come to this way of thinking was that the mother in law insisted we had to let him cry it out. So we did the opposite, which is what we were going to do anyway. My son is no less well adjusted because of it!
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@kayrod2 (1304)
• Australia
20 Jun 07
It is very hard listening to a baby crying. But i let mine cry if i new they werent in any harm, and were just seeking attention. It was a bit different when i had my first child, in the early days. Every time she cried i would be checking her. But i got over it. I used the controlled crying method to get my children to settle.
Best wishes to you
