do you think there should be secrets between lovers?

I think it is right to share with the other secrets that could effect the other persons opinion of you. Because after all, they have chosen to be in a relationship with you for a certain reason and to keep something from them that could effect this choice then that is just not fair to say the least. I think that everyone needs to keep a piece of themselves separate from others, It's just human nature. I know that i want to know that i am someone - a person that can hold my own in the world even if my beloved was not around to share everything with - there are things about me that noone ever needs to know, because i am sure that there are things about them that i don't! :-)

Well,there is nothing called as secrets as far as i am concerned. the things which you donot want to say to any person becomes secrets. well,some information or things cannot be told to anyone.this may be due to various reasons.The reasons include you may think what if he/she spreads,you may think anything for that matter so you prefer not to tell. In case,he/she finds it out,it doenot matter because you hesistated to tell him/her keeping him/her in mind and you felt she is not going to benefited or get harmed if it was told to her or not. So,i doenot matter i guess.

Well there are certain thing called privacy which is the like your own personality.Sometimes even if they are lovers ,they tend to see tha same thing on diffrent notes or views.That is because everyone has there own personality.If as a person you think that keeping something away from your lover will make him happy, you can do so.In my opinion everyone needs some space.

Hi,angela2006! I think there should be secrets between lovers.I think both side should have the private room.Being honest is necessary to our lover but sharing everything isn't necessary.I hope my boyfriend keep his own secrets,he needn't to share everything with me.And for me,I think I should have the same right to keep my own secrets.

yeah. I think we should be honest to the lover. but in some things, u'd better not to tell the lover. and u sure these things don't hurt ur lover. for example, giving some money to ur parents, but ur lover is not happy about it. so don't tell him/her. then both of u are all happy and u know that don't hurt ur lover. lol.

Speaking for third parties, not to hide them of course. Maybe you can hide secrets from your partner, i think those non sense things only that only your friends can relate.

I don't believe in "secrets" either. We do surprise eachother sometimes, like bringing home an unexpected gift, or something, but there are no real "secrets" in our relationship. I know about his past, and he knows about mine. We make decisions together, and we hide nothing.

Hiding secrets is no different than telling a lie. And you can't build a relationship on lies. Hiding things or telling lies will only hamper the trust issue in the relationship. Trust is a hard thing for most people to attain in ANY relationship and once you gain that trust, you certainly don't want to tear it down at all. As for those 'third person' relationships, no way do I support those. I don't cheat nor won't cheat on my spouse, plain and simple. However, if something like that would occur, it would be better to be up front and honest with it. Interesting topic--thanks for posting.

I think so. Especially some facts that may hurt your spouse.

Me and my boyfriend had an agreement that there would be no secrets between us so we share everything with each other. We try hard not to keep anything from the other because we both know that we'd both get hurt that way...

no there should be no secrets between lovers or in any relationship. it only gets you in trouble and breaks the trust you have for one another