Update on my 18 yr old who moved out with psycho girlfriend

@sunshine4 (8707)
United States
June 20, 2007 8:53am CST
For any of you who have responded to my posts regarding the problems I have had with my son and his girlfriend, I want to give you an update. About 2 weeks ago my son left the girl and came home. That morning at 4am our phone rang constantly. It was Melody asking to send Andrew back home. She then started threatening that she would have him arrested if he didn't come home. We finally just unplugged the phone. The same thing happened the following night, but she then left messages on the machine because we had the ringer off on the phone. Well, the following day she called and I answered and she again said if Andrew didn't go over to their apartment she would have him arrested for hitting her. I don't know if this is true or not, but Andrew had 2 huge bite marks on him when he left. My husband decided to call the police and file harrassment charges against her so we could possible get some sleep. When the police tracked her down back at the apartment, she was with another guy smoking pot. He called to tell us and had us tell Andrew that he could call him to get the details. Well, finally he went and got his stuff out of the apartment and has been home for 2 weeks now and no more calls to our house from her. I was very hesitant to write this because I don't want to gynx it! Life is back to normal around my house:) Thanks for letting me vent to all my friends.
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@34momma (13891)
• United States
20 Jun 07
wow sunshine, you have been going through it girl. i tell you kids, they think they know everything and end up learning the hard way. i am glad to read he is safe and sound and back at home where he belongs. congrats
@sunshine4 (8707)
• United States
20 Jun 07
We definitely never thought our family would be going threw something like this. It just goes to show things can happen to anyone. Thanks for the reply.
@34momma (13891)
• United States
20 Jun 07
you are right about that. you just never know. so you pray for the best
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@sunshine4 (8707)
• United States
20 Jun 07
Thank you. We have been praying about this alot. Now that he is home, we pray he will stay away from her and find some new friends.
@aretha (2538)
• United States
25 Jun 07
see mother knows best. you knew she was wrong for him. he just had to see. lets hope he has learned. glad to see it has all worked out
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@sunshine4 (8707)
• United States
26 Jun 07
Well more good news on this. Last night when my son got out of work he came home and picked up my 16 yr old. They went back to his apartment and got everything he owned out of there. He even took the bed~ which he was going to leave for her. I guess she got kicked out because he got off the lease and she got fired from her job so had no income. He said that he is done wiht all the drama!
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@aretha (2538)
• United States
26 Jun 07
well good for him lets hope its for good this time. now all he has to do is figure out that you will always be RIGHT! lol
@Lucille7 (509)
• South Africa
21 Jun 07
Hi! Keep up the good work with him and know that families were meant to be together forever. I am sure that he has learnt his lesson and through your unconditional love for him he will learn to be in control of his own destiny. Take care and best of luck.
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@sunshine4 (8707)
• United States
21 Jun 07
Thanks for responding. It is good to know that deep down everything we try to teach our kids regarding family values are in there somewhere.
@Lucille7 (509)
• South Africa
21 Jun 07
Yes and someday when you are no longer around, he will still have those family values to hold onto. Keep up the good work my friend. So often as parents and especially mothers we feel like we are not getting through to our teenagers and that it is like water on a ducks back. And then one day we see that there is light and they are learning the lessons and have learnt the things we have spent years trying to teach them. And then we see the rewards. Successful happy children ready to face the real world and reality. Have a beautiful day!
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@4cuteboys (4102)
• United States
24 Jun 07
Wow thats amazing! I am glad he got all his stuff and has been home! And no more calls, yippe! This is good news for you guys! I am glad everything seems to be working out well for you!!! I cant believe he had two bite marks! omg!!! How scary some people can be.
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@sunshine4 (8707)
• United States
24 Jun 07
Yeah, you should have seen the bite marks. You could actaully see the teeth imprints and they were bleeding! We tried to tell him that this isnt love, but he had to learn on his own.
• United States
24 Jun 07
So glad to hear your son is home, sunshine. It sounds like you raised him right, he came back to his family! It's amazing how "love" can confuse someone, but in the end he did what was right. I hope he never hears from that terrible girl again!
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@sunshine4 (8707)
• United States
24 Jun 07
He keeps telling us that he is staying away from her. He had to go to the house and pick up some of his stuff yesterday, but made sure she wasn't around. Hopefully this will last.
• United States
24 Jun 07
My gracious.....good riddance, right? I'm glad it ended sooner than later. She has really got many, many problems. I'm sorry that he had to endure this....but I'm sure it will help him to grow and learn from the situation. And I'm sure you are relieved as well!
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@sunshine4 (8707)
• United States
24 Jun 07
Good riddance is right! I think that he learned a lot from going threw this. Especially that his family will always be there for him.
• Canada
21 Jun 07
Thank Goodness your son found out what kind of person she was before things got to serious and they were married or had children themselves . She does sound like a nut job . Sometimes as hard as it is we have to let our children find out for themselves but I can see why you were worried about him and thank goodness everything has worked out . It is also a good thing you husband decided to call the cops himself because God knows what kind of story she would have cooked up if she had called them herself . Best of luck and hopefully this will be the end of it for you guys , Take Care !!
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@sunshine4 (8707)
• United States
21 Jun 07
I tell you, our biggest fear was that she would end up pregnant and then he would be stuck with her in his life forever~
@castleghost (1304)
• United States
21 Jun 07
It sounds like this girl finally showed your son her true colors. Sometimes its hard for a child to see what their parents see. I hope that this has taught him a lesson about being leery of people. Thank goodness he has such good parents to back him up. Knock on wood that he stays away from her.
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@sunshine4 (8707)
• United States
21 Jun 07
Knock on wood is right. We breath easy every night that he comes home from work.
@KrauseHome (36751)
• United States
21 Jun 07
Sounds like some Prayers are being answered. Now hopefully your Son has learned something from this, and will be a little more selective next time when he chooses to move out, or date someone. This hopefully will teach him a lesson or two about dating and such. I am wishing the Best from here.
@sunshine4 (8707)
• United States
21 Jun 07
Thank you for your good wishes. At least this has taught my other children about relationships and picking friends. They were here threw it all and even though we tried to sheild them from the mess, they knew what was happening.
@Debs_place (10524)
• United States
20 Jun 07
Whoa, that girls sound like a looney tune and your son is lucky to be done with her. I hope he realizes how lucky he is. He needs to become more selective of the people he becomes involved with.
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@sunshine4 (8707)
• United States
20 Jun 07
I know this girl came from a very rough family. We tried to give her the benefit of the doubt, but realized that people really dont change.
@Lucille7 (509)
• South Africa
20 Jun 07
I am sure you must be very relieved. Unfortunately after we have taught our children then they have to learn on their own and all we can do is be there for them...I am proud of you for loving him so unconditionally.
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@sunshine4 (8707)
• United States
20 Jun 07
Thank you. For awhile there I thought we were going to be a Dr Phil family!! Things were all out of control and we were going crazy. Thank God he is back and hopefully he has learned that she is nothing but trouble.