His Profile on Dating Site is Still Active!
By sweetmimzim3
@sweetmimzim3 (261)
United States
June 20, 2007 10:15am CST
I met a man on a dating site...we hit it off big time...really quickly...after a few weeks he told me I was the girl for him and he gave me a promise ring...I have been burned really bad before...and have been told by the last guy I dated that he was falling for me...he ended up moving in with another woman while he was still seeing me...How do I approach my new Beau without pushing him away...I would like to know if hes changed his mind about us...or does he not know how to turn off his profile... I am going over to his house today around noon and I want to approach him with this subject...I am scared I am going to go about it in the wrong way...but I know I have to ask whether or not I truly am the one for him or just a girl of the moment. I am hoping for the best here, because I am really GaGa for this guy...but if he's pursuing other women...then I'm outa there!!
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5 responses
@lalav1 (1052)
• United States
22 Jun 07
I'm assuming you've already met and started a relationship with this person. A few weeks is really not a very long time to know how you truly feel about someone. How much do you really know about this person? Have you met any of his friends or has he met any of your friends or family? If so, you could mention your friend or family happened to see his profile was still online and see what his reaction is. You could also let him know you took your profile off the site and noticed he hadn't. I would check other dating sites as well to see if he's got a profile somewhere else.
I know how you can think your'e really gaga for someone very quickly, but that's usually just a strong attraction. A strong attraction is a good thing, but you don't really know much about a person in a few weeks, and it seems like he's rushing things giving you a promise ring after only a few weeks. Of course it's flattering, but also somewhat suspicious to me. Beleive me, I have rushed in to fast more then once.
@sweetmimzim3 (261)
• United States
22 Jun 07
I felt a strong emotional connection with him over the phone before I even met him in person. He was sharing his feeling with me about life, relationships, how he is about life...and it was like he was taking the thoughts right from my brain...everything he had to say is how I felt also. The physical attraction did not come about for me right away, it took a few days of seeing his personality and facial expressions that I started feeling physically attracted to him. He hugged me the first time we met in person..the second time he hugged me and gave me a gentle peck on the lips. We have since spent several nights together...mostly laying awake all night just talking. He shared very personal things he has done in life that he said he only told his father and that's it...he said he felt he was safe to share anything with me...and I feel the very same way. He gave me the promise ring because he said I was the only girl he wanted and he gave it to me as a token. I am blown away but at the same time cautious. I want to bring the subject up about the dating site, but am finding it difficult to bring it up. I will try to bring it up tonight...
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
23 Jun 07
I am glad to hear =) See, sometimes it is better to just ask and get it overwith =)
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@sweetmimzim3 (261)
• United States
22 Jun 07
Well I asked him...finally....he told me he did not know how to delete his profile...and hadn't even thought about the site...he hasn't been online very much lately...he had me walk him through the process...and we deleted our accounts together (mine was hidden since our first kiss). He says he has the one he wants....FINALLY A HAPPY ENDING!!!
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
20 Jun 07
I think that u shoudl bring it up with him. IF he is for real he will remove it and if not - atlease u will know straight away.
There is a chanse that he does not know how to remove it - cant you see when he last logged on - most datingsites have this..
I still recomend talking to him about it - Good luck!
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@sweetmimzim3 (261)
• United States
20 Jun 07
He hasn't logged in since we met...till yesterday. But if he doesn't know how to remove it then he would still recieve emails and knowing him he would be nice and respond kindly. I will ask him about his account tonight when he comes over. I'm crossing my fingers herexxxx
@paulsy (1263)
• Philippines
20 Jun 07
I met my fiance on a dating site too. We started chatting and fell in love quickly too. On the day we first said our I love you's, we both deleted our accounts on the dating site we met. I am lucky to have a man who is faithful and true to me. I suggest you tell your new Beau that you are about to or have already deleted your account on the dating site, and ask him if he would do this too, now that you've found each other. Be strong enough to hear what you will hear, because if he disagrees to this idea, then you already have your answer.
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@sweetmimzim3 (261)
• United States
20 Jun 07
I may just do that...He did tell me the other day that he has a bit of a wall up and is afraid of getting hurt again...he told me some horrible stuff about his exes...I have thought about asking a friend of mine to send him an email and see how he responds....but I don't want to play games....I would feel terrible and lose him if he is being straight with me and I checked up on him like that. I think your approach would be better...just straight out ask him if he's willing to delete it...mine is on hidden mode, where no one can see me...I was going to delete it when I know this is gonna last.
@curvychick77 (1084)
• United States
20 Jun 07
Well, if he's already moving in with another, that should tell you something right? He may just be using you for the moment, believe me long ago before my husband came along this happend to me. The guy told me he was sorry and that I was for him and all that, but later I found he was still with the other person, and they later married. Don't let him fool you. Calmly ask him why the profile is still up, and listen to what he says, hopefully he will be honest, but if he comes up with, ohh but I love you and care for you, then think to yourself why is he moving in with another woman if he cares for you? I hope it works well, but I'd look to find other fish in the seas.
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@sweetmimzim3 (261)
• United States
20 Jun 07
My Beau isn't moving in with another woman...the last guy that I dated did...I guess that has made me a bit leary of men...even tho I don't want to be. My Beau is a Southern Gentlemen and I am thinking he may have friends on the site...he has told me up front that he has friends that are women...but he only talks to them...doesn't see them or go out places with them.
@kodie420 (872)
• Canada
20 Jun 07
Well first of all you cant be to paranoid because you got burned in the past or you'll end up pushing this guy away. If I was you I would just come right out and ask him and go from there. 3 years ago me and my girlfriend started talking on webdate.com, within 1 week she came to visit. Things went so well with us so when I was down at her place the next week she asked me to move in because it was a 4 hour drive apart. Anyways I went home that weekend packed up and moved in with her and still with her today. What Im trying to say is i got badly burned myself so many times in the past but I tryed not to let it reflect on this relationship. Eventually I got by the feeling and no longer worry. All I say is take it slowly and put everything out front and ask your questions but relax and dont constantly worry or your relationship will surely be doomed! Good luck hope all works out for you.
@sweetmimzim3 (261)
• United States
20 Jun 07
I am trying so hard not to worry...because he is perfect for me in so many ways that it would be a huge let down to me if he was not genuine. I haven't up till now doubted him, but I have a hard time understanding why he would still have his profile up if he gave me a ring? All I can do is ask......
