How Do You Handle Toxic People In Your Life?

United States
June 20, 2007 6:03pm CST
You know the sort of person I'm talking about...they are overly judgemental...you can't seem to do anything to please them....they hold grudges that last a lifetime...they hurt your feelings and don't seem to feel badly about it...maybe even smirk when they do....they may abuse alcohol or drugs....they are mentally abusive and have been known to be physically abusive. How do you handle someone like that in your adult lives...as a child you just had to bear it....but as an adult how do you handle it? It may be a parent, grandparent, sibling etc. Maybe it was a mixure of all of them. What have you done to take back your life?
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@jillhill (37379)
• United States
21 Jun 07
I ditch them. There's not enough time in our lives to fool around with someone who is never pleased and bring you down.....My friend recently told her dad to get lost. He was never happy with whatever she did so finally she gave up trying. She is much happier now.
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• United States
21 Jun 07
I have only spoken to my mother once in 3 years...and haven't seen her at all. It started when I was 14 years old (I'm 38) now, she drifted in and out of my life like a cloud....I saw my mother twice a year from the age of 14 till 20...I saw her a little more often when I had my first child....but after awhile she started drifting in and out of my life again. My kids would ask me how come grandma linda didn't want to see them...I just told them I didn't know why. Three years ago the day before Thanksgiving she called me and asked if I had any plans...and I said yes...she hung up on me...that was it for me...I was done with her for good. My brother called a few months ago...all drunk...and he didn't tell me he was at my moms house...her boyfriend got on the phone and was drunkenly telling me I needed to talk to my mom....she got on the phone and all I could say was I love you....I don't want to feel that way ever again...it is not a healthy love....it is a dire need for a woman to have a mother...to be there for her...to help mold her...which she never did....my daughters taught me how to put on make-up...not my mom....they are teaching me how to be a woman....my mother just didn't give a damn
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@jillhill (37379)
• United States
21 Jun 07
I can feel your pain. I have seen it in my friends...right now the way it is she can't go home and she really missed it until she gave up. I am glad you can move on and be there for your own kids.
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@Marie2473 (8519)
• Sweden
20 Jun 07
I have had a guy like this in my life and I managed to get rid of him and if someone ever treats me like that again I will get rid of them to. Nooone deserved to live like that and I would not take it for a secound
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