How do you give Condolence to those who have lost their dear one.s

Yes, it's hard to say that word especially when you know that the person wasn't okay at all. But usually, people say condolence to someone who have lost a dear one before leaving. I think saying that word before leaving is much better than at first when you just came.

This is a really good question and I have had a little experience with this subject, you are right dbhattji there is nothing you can say that will be right in many cases. It wont matter how you word or what you say it will never be enough. I think its best to aknowlendge the person and give a warm hug, explain you dont no what to day and sit and hold hands. Just being there will be enough or too much. There is never the right thing.

The best thing to do is just sit there. Nobody likes to be forced to talk when they are upset. If they need to talk then you are there. Even if you have gone home, you still let them know that you are there if they need to talk.

This can be tricky sometimes because people are different and respond to different things. What may work for one person may not necessarily work for another. Sometimes it is even best to stay quiet. When my boss lost his mother, I couldnt find the words to express condolences so instead I hung around him and asked if there was anything I could do for him. I think he found that sweet since as a teacher its not my job to be hanging around the Principal's office. After he got over the situation I used that as my opportunity to tell him how I felt.

Giving condolences and extending sympathies is indeed not easy. When I do, like you, I just hold the hands of the bereaved friend, just a hug, etc. Words are too superficial and awkward...You're right...we should let the person talk...otherwise, it's better not to talk about it. For me, my presence is already enough to let the person know that I care, and that I am there to sympathize, to console, to just being a friend. Words are never enough, nor our presence, but at least being there, and with gestures of sympathies can do wonders.

When we lost our son to cancer. It seemed everything loved ones would say Just hit us wrong. The worse one was I know what you are going thru. I hated that one and this came from family that really didn't know and were just trying to say something to try to help.

I tend to step back as I know there is nothing you can say to make the person feel better and I go by what I like myself just to left alone but I always send a note to say that if there is anything I can do I am here for them, it is a hard thing to know what to do as everyone is different.....

The words "I am sorry for your loss" sounds so fake but a friend who lost her daughter told me one time, I know you mean it. I told her I was sorry for her loss and that I know the words sounded fake, she said no because she knew the person who said them. I think it is not the exact words it is the person who delivers them. You need to say something when some losses their loved ones they need and want to talk about them. As their friends we need to ask about them, if the greeving do not want to talk they will tell us. Just letting the friend know we are there for them is all they need.

I recently lost my mother and it really bothered me when people would ask me if I was ok, or If I was going to be alright. The best way to offer up sympathy is to just let them come to you. Tell them that your door is open if they need to talk and leave it at that.

hi..me either i don't know how to response to the situation because i don't know what to say, i feel uncomftable, im afraid i might say the wrong message and it will only offend the person.. so i just, make "beso" and sit and attend a prayer.:(

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