My family at the homicide survivers group

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We went to a group meeting for people who are survivers of homicide. My husband and mother in law was there with me. The leader was asking us questions about the death of our son and how we were handling it. I asked her if she new of any support groups for kids so that we could take our brady bunch family to one. She asked me if they were having a hard time. I answered with a yes and my mother in law cut me a go to hell look and said that I wouldn't know how they were doing and that she knows and that they are doing great. I didn't understand her frustration. I know that any kid who has to go through this, is not going to be doing very good. They just lost their brother and they did not seem to be doing very good. She then started saying that she was the one who was there for them and that she was like their mother. This was beginning to upset me because I was there. I felt like I was being pushed out of the picture. My mother in law and I were starting to get along until this happened and now it seems as though she is finding every excuse to get me out of the picture but I was there with them. It was beginning to frustrate my husband but neither one of us said anything about it because we were in front of all of these people who had lost a loved one. My husband later said that she had been taking credit for the kids when she is in front of people. She had been doing this a lot. I will say that she has been a big help especially with our oldest son but Gaje was always a daddy's boy and would not leave his side for anything. She did not have a big part in his life and would always be mean to him when he was at his house. It got so bad that my husband kept him from going over there for a while because she would always get onto him for crying when our oldest son would push and hit him, instead fo getting onto the oldest. My husband said that he doesn't understand why she is trying to take credit for raising our son after he died if she didn't want much to do with him when he was alive. I tried to ignore her but i feel like I am going to explode. She talks about it in front of people as though I am not there or like I could care less. I haven't said anything because I don't know what to say and my husband tried to talk to her about it but she just told him that he was being selfish.