do you still express your love to a boy when you know he has girlfriend?

China
June 22, 2007 2:58am CST
when I am still a student in university,I fell in love with a boy who is older than me,he is not that tall,wide eyes and white skin and very thin,he is my ideal type of boy.but I know he has a girlfriend and she is very pretty.those days were very tough,I do not know whether I should tell him or not. after several days of hesitation,I decided to tell him and I just called him to express myself.of course he told me that he has a girlfriend and I said I know that,but I just want you to know my feeling,then I will not regret for that. do you think I am right or wrong,what will you do?
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9 responses
@mean_queen (1713)
• Malaysia
22 Jun 07
Maybe just telling him how you felt wasn't a bad thing to do. It wasn't as if you were trying to rip up his relationship with his girlfriend. I guess if it made you feel better for getting it off your chest, then I guess it's no harm.
• China
22 Jun 07
thank you for your understanding.I never though to end their relationship.
• Philippines
22 Jun 07
hi angela! if i were in your place, i'd also let him know what i feel for him. it's better for me to say what i feel to a person because it gives me a sense of freedom and happiness within me. atleast in myself i know i've said it. no regrets in the end. as long as you don't become a relationship wrecker, i think it's just fine. i will even do "harmless" flirting if i were you. haha kidding ;) happy posting to you!
• China
22 Jun 07
thank you for your response.sometimes I think,if that boy end his relationship just because of me,then I will feel guity .
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
2 Jul 07
I don't see anything wrong with it as long as he his not married to her. You have to respect that he is with someone else and not do anything to try and come between them. But, you never know, in the future he may be available and he already knows how you feel.
@rb200406 (1824)
• India
1 Jul 07
What you did is right in your place.But if i was in your place i would not have told my feelings.I would not have developed those type of feeling knowing that he has a girlfriend
• Hong Kong
2 Jul 07
No I won't tell the person until he is single again. Don't take me wrong, everyone has its way of doing things. I think it is not fair to the guy or the girl if I go in and express my feelings. What if they break up? I would feel bad even though I might have the guy and I would be thinking what if another girl tell him she likes him and I would wonder if he would leave me too. To me, a crush is a crush and even though at times, it's hard, the crush will go away and it's not love. I guess I try as best as I can to stay away from guys who have relationships and that's why I do it this way. I would probably don't dramatize my feelings and let that subside.
@youless (112164)
• Guangzhou, China
1 Jul 07
I won't express my love to a boy when I know he has a girlfriend. As telling him doesn't help anything. I don't want to spoil his love and I never want to get involved to it. I will keep it in my heart as a beautiful memory and then I will forget it. I will wait for another right man.
@Foxxee (3651)
• United States
22 Jun 07
I think if you know for a fact that the person you like is with someone else, you should leave it be. Why tell him your feelings when he is already with someone else? That is like stepping on someone elses land without permission. I don't know. I would of left it alone because there are so many other fish out there. Find someone single.
• Philippines
22 Jun 07
Aww. I did that too. :) And I had no regrets on doing it. :) I don't really know if its right or wrong but all I can think of is to free myself of keeping it since it hurts more to keep in silence. I told him about my feelings too, though we both know that he's still in a relationship. But I felt great about it.. knowing that I was brave enough to tell how I really felt about him and that I never regretted it. :) Just express how you feel, there's nothing wrong on loving.. as long as you are true to yourself than hiding it, pretending that you don't even care. :(
@jackli (203)
• China
22 Jun 07
I admire ur courage. I admit i have no the courage to tell her/him. lol. i think it isn't important which telling him ur felling is right or not. u just done it. finally, i want to ask u a question. will u ready to go on relation with him if he left his now girlfriend some day?