How many "true" friends have you had in your life?
By jumpinjack00
@jumpinjack00 (3054)
United States
10 responses
@hockeygal4ever (10021)
• United States
22 Jun 07
I have had 4.
My best friend since age 4, Linda. My best friend since my first year away at college, Terri. My best "male" friend and former b/f and always going to be in my heart, John. And my best friend from one of my former jobs, Rae.
I guarantee any one of those 4 would need nothing more than a phone call if I were in need. I'm quite lucky.
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@hockeygal4ever (10021)
• United States
6 Jul 07
Awwww... thanks. Actually I've stayed in Erie or the surrounding area my entire life. College was 45 minutes away. The friends I have are from childhood (most from age 4 and up) or college (just a FEW years ago). I think it's a combination of being a good friend and finding good people.
@jumpinjack00 (3054)
• United States
8 Jul 07
That's wonderful. I can only imagine what it
would be like to still be around my childhood
friends. The way I see it is if you're a good
person with good character, good personality,
good intentions and good judgment, you are
going to attract good people as great friends.
Did I pretty much give a summary of you? lol
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@jumpinjack00 (3054)
• United States
22 Jun 07
That's fantastic for a Boston fan. LOL
Anyway, that's great. You must have pretty
much settled in one place. Right? If I'm
wrong I apologize but that's usually the
case with lifelong friends like you have.
I could have had that but my career took
priority over certain personal relationships.
I can't say I wish it were one way or the other
but I left some dear friends behind in our small
town.
You know what? I wouldn't say you're lucky. I'd
say you have a wonderful personality. I'd bet on
it.
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@helldweller (53)
• China
22 Jun 07
It's most likely that a person will never meet a true friend.What a pity!
@jumpinjack00 (3054)
• United States
22 Jun 07
Sadly for many, many people that may be
the case. On the other hand the more we
open ourselves up to the world the better
our chances of finding a friend.
We also risk pain when most of these people
will either grow away from you or betray you
but the reward of having just one "true" friend
is worth it.
We have to take risks in life to get what we want
or need. It doesn't matter whether you're looking
for a job, car, mate, friend, etc., we have to be
open and eager.
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@jmcafam (2890)
• United States
9 Aug 07
I have four people that I would call my true friends. Three have been there since middle school and the other since my Navy days. We all may not be able to see each other as much as we would like but if anything happened they would be the ones I know I could count on.
@jumpinjack00 (3054)
• United States
10 Aug 07
Now that's tight. Whether it's distance,
personal and/or professional life that
keeps you all from seeing each other more,
it's great to know there's that strong bond.
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
25 Jun 07
true friends are hard to find, yes. its hard to find people who would do anything for you just for the sake of friendship and without asking for anything in return. but I think this is not how a true friend should be described. I mean, this should not be the only scale to measure the true-ness of a friend. it would be unfair to expect someone to do anything for you just because you're friends. if this is the standard of a true friend then I don't care if my bestfriends are not my true friends. they have stayed by me since we were teenagers and I'm sure we'll still be friends when we reach our old age. we've stayed together through thick and thin and if they can't still be called my true friends, then I'm ok with them as my bestfriends. ^__^
@jumpinjack00 (3054)
• United States
25 Jun 07
I totally agree my LOST friend. Expecting
someone to come though for you is not a
gauge by which friendship is measured.
The words true and best when describing a
friend is actually one in the same but only
titled differently.
Friends are there for each other for no
reason at all. when something is expected
it is now merely a friendship of convenience.
That's why when a true (best) friend is there
for you through thick and thin times you never
notice it. The opposite can be said about our
acquaintances.
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@jumpinjack00 (3054)
• United States
9 Jul 07
How did I miss your response for 2 weeks?
It's like a secret club "secret"bear. lol
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
26 Jun 07
I just couldn't help but smile on how you called me. LOST friend. ^__^ if a non-lost fan would read this, they might think I'm really lost. but its cute. LOL
@nicolec (2671)
• United States
25 Jun 07
Your absolutley right about people being self centered. I often find myself giving, giving, giving and then when I need a little support, they aren't there to give.
@jumpinjack00 (3054)
• United States
25 Jun 07
I completely understand dropping someone who
isn't there for you. I'm sure it's not that
you expect it but as I feel that a true friend
does what they can, no matter how small the deed.
It's like the saying. "Step up to the plate."
I've been in your situation with a few good friends
spread around. And I agree, the emotional support
is what is important. Not jumping on a jet. Though
it's nice to see old friends. It warms the heart.
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@nicolec (2671)
• United States
25 Jun 07
Sorry, hit post comment before I was done.
Anyways, back to what I was saying....I'm quick to drop some one when they aren't there when i really need them.
So I would say I have 5 tops on people I can count on. Unfortunatly most live in other cities so it's difficult if I need something physical, like helping me when i am sick. But emotionally they are there for me when I need some one to talk to. And if they could get on a jet plane and help me in my need, they would. But how practical is that?
@jade1986 (563)
• India
22 Jun 07
It is really very very difficult to fin a true friend in life. It may once in a life time achievement. People are self centered these days, and no one thinks of the other. I had found a true friend when i just joined school. Unfortunately, due to circumstances, i had to lose him. I still miss him as my friend and after that i found no one else to fill his position with.
@jumpinjack00 (3054)
• United States
22 Jun 07
You're right, it's very very difficult to
find a "true" friend. People are all about
themselves these days. That's a shame you
two couldn't remain in touch
I lost a friend that way, though not from
school. I've only had one other since then.
It's such a great and wonderful experience
to have at least one "true" friend in our
lifetime.
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@samselvarajk (260)
• India
22 Jun 07
all my friends are true friend.they are ready to do anything for me.i trust in them.i do not have even a bad friend
@jumpinjack00 (3054)
• United States
22 Jun 07
That's wonderful. I was 17 once also. Give it
time and these friends will start to disappear.
Hopefully one will remain dear an true to you
over the test of time.
Don't get me wrong. You won't become enemies or
grow tired of each other. But as our lives grow
so does the distance between most friends.
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@JYOTHICHOWDARY (232)
• India
22 Jun 07
i have manyyyyyy best bset friends who are ready 2 give their lifes 4 me and am also best friend for many its hard 2 count the number yaar
@jumpinjack00 (3054)
• United States
22 Jun 07
I'm delighted to hear this. At your age I felt
the same way until they all started raising
families and moving away. It just happens.
You might get lucky and have a few for some
years to come but as we grow so does our
lives. Thusly priorities change.
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@butterfly39 (3904)
• Philippines
26 Jun 07
I have lots of friends, but I have few who are really true to me.
Ready to listen and to lend their shoulders for me.
@jumpinjack00 (3054)
• United States
26 Jun 07
Your second sentence says it all doesn't it.
That's what we really want in true friends.
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@rarundas (48)
• India
8 Jul 07
i am proudly inform here that i have no friends during the 33 years of my married life except my wife
