Is it impossible/possible to start and carry on an overseas love relationship?

United States
June 22, 2007 5:45am CST
Has anyone found themselves in this situation? How did you handle it? What was the outcome? Give me the details. I'm about to enter into this scenario. ‹(°¿°)›
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@Anniedup (3652)
• Richards Bay, South Africa
23 Jun 07
This is not an easy one to answer. Due to me not having had that kind of experience in my life. I can merely state my opinion. At the best of times any form of relationship, being it dating, living together or marriage requires a lot of work. Many curve-balls are thrown at any relationship as you should know, and a long distance relationship will require some special skills in order to work. There would have to be a greater form of commitment and trust required from both individuals due to the fact that there will be less physical contact, then in a normal relationship. The expectations out of this relationship should be clear from both sides and not be set to high. This kind of relationship my friend would be a very challenging one indeed. The positives out of relationship like this will mean less day to day irritations. Issues like the toothpaste cap, the toilet seat and the remote control!
• United States
23 Jun 07
So eloquently said. I believe I'm up for the challenge. My girlfriend and I haven't been together for very long. Maybe 6 months or so. She just received a contract for a 1 year long job in Hong Kong with no chance of an extended stay. Just until the project is complete. We're entering into this with all the gung ho in the world probably trying to mask what may be the inevitable. Only time will tell. I said Hong Kong above, I mean Tokyo. My mind is a bit flighty right now. Ugh. ‹(°¿°)›
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@healer (1782)
• India
22 Jun 07
Love happens anywhere and its possible that things will work, its fate. I once was into it and we were so involved with one another, since he was working he used to call me from time to time if we could not meet online. But the best part is that we are being loved and cared or valued by someone else, and we are also loving some one more than ourself. Thats a very good feeling that we grow inside eac other, still we are in touch. One day we will get married and have kids or whatever but naturing love overseas or near you is just fantastic. The most important thing that you should keep in mind is "not to take seriously".
• United States
22 Jun 07
Love does happen anywhere and quite unexpectedly at times as well. You said it perfectly about being loved and cared or valued by someone else and vice versa. I hope all works out for you two. Hopefully sooner than later. I guess the important thing is when the time is right. ‹(°¿°)›
@puchapox (580)
• Philippines
22 Jun 07
Hello there! I am in a long distance relationship right now for almost 2 years. My boyfriend's family migrated to Canada, and I'm here in the Philippines. Before he left he proposed to me but I told him that if we can stand this test of time and distance then I will marry him. How are we doing? Going strong. :) It takes a lot of TRUST and LOYALTY to your partner when in a long distance relationship. I think that's what keeps us going. Also, it helps that I'm not totally dependent on him and me on him. Just be strong, trust yourself and your partner, and love will keep you alive :D
• United States
22 Jun 07
Well put. I appreciate your input. It is extra tough knowing each other than being split apart in this manner. Time is the true test. I agree, TRUST and LOYALTY are paramount in making something like this work. ‹(°¿°)›
@trk918 (254)
• United States
22 Jun 07
It can work but eventually someone has to move so you can be together. If one person doesn't want to & the other on is not in a position to move yet then it most likely won't work. If you plan on staying in this situation then you need to talk about things.
• United States
22 Jun 07
I hear you loud and clear. Eventually it is about uprooting one person. I'm sure it really has to be thoroughly discussed well in advance. I'm probably the more flexible of the two taking into account my profession. Thanks a bunch. ‹(°¿°)›