If you could live you life over again, would you do anything differently?
By rosie_123
@rosie_123 (6113)
June 22, 2007 2:25pm CST
Or would you do exactly the same things? I guess we all look back sometimes and wonder what might have been............... Perhaps you wish you'd worked harder at school, and got better qualifications? Or maybe you wish you hadn't got married so young, - or left having your children too late? Or you may wish you had chosen another career? So tell me what you would have done differently?
As for me - my answer is probably nothing! Of course I've made mistakes and had some bad times, but all those things have gone together to make me the person I am today, and I wouldn't have done one thing differently - even the bad bits! How about you?
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@rosie_123 (6113)
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22 Jun 07
Well I guess you could argue that you had to go through the bad marriage, in order to have the lovely children - so everything happens for a reason:-)) Thas for your response!
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@charms88 (7538)
• Philippines
23 Jun 07
Hello rosie. It was never my habit to look back at my old life. We all have our history and each stages had its own pleasant and unpleasant memories. Seems like I don't have much time to dwell on my past as I was living a very hectic life presently.
I always believe everything that happened in our past has somehow mold us into what and where we are now. I might start to reflect back when I turn old and gray someday.
@rosie_123 (6113)
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23 Jun 07
I think what you say is very true. Thanks for replying.
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
22 Jun 07
I think you know my honest answer to this one my good friend, a resounding YES! I wouldn't get involved in relationships and I would take a vow of celibacy and to get my flat, live alone and never ever ever ever move in with anyone. I ruined my life 9 years ago I made a mistake which I bitterly regret, if I could live my life again then it would be a dream come true, I just have to hope there is an escape or that when I die I do get a second chance!
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
22 Jun 07
Knowing that I have the support of your good self and all my friends on Mylot helps, I have to be patient it's true but I need something really really drastic to happen, I'm hoping that the landlord wants this place back because that would solve so many problems, but that's a different story, have a great weekend! (my housemate is away all weekend so wooooooohooooooooo)
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@rosie_123 (6113)
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22 Jun 07
Then I'm sure you will have a great weekend! We're getting Lily back from the Hospital again tomorrow morning, so will have a manic week-end trying to stop her causing riot and damaging herself again! But apart from that - no plans. My beloved has a hectic 2 weeks coming up with Wimbledon tennis (his job is in Sports Management as you know, so he has to be there virtually 18 hours a day every day for the next fortnight, bless him!), so he wants to make the most of doing nothing now! LOL!
@rosie_123 (6113)
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22 Jun 07
Hi my friend, and thanks for your response. It hurts me that you are so sad - I wish I could do something to help you through these bad feelings and sad times in your life. I will not give you platitudes, ecause I know you don't need them right now, but I sincerely hope there is an escape for you somehow.
Be strong amd please take care
xxxxx
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@shambuca (2524)
• United States
26 Jun 07
Yes - I would have changed one thing- I would have gone to college to be a teacher- cause then I could have summers off- good benefits and every holiday imaginable off- plus a pension plan. ALthough- I did have great times back then and would hate to have missed out on the things I did and places I went and trouble I got into but if I never knew them how could I miss them right????? LOL
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@rosie_123 (6113)
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26 Jun 07
Well I guess ot - though you would probably wonder about what you had missed- I know I would!
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
24 Jun 07
Good for you Rosie, I can't imagine feeling that way. I'd have to start by being born into a different family. Otherwise the abuse and criticism would still be there and I'd probably follow the same path. I wouldn't get with my first husband or have had children to him and then...well, I guess I don't know what. I wasn't scholastically brilliant and my Dad wouldn't let me do what I wanted to do. I hope that I'd find a nice bloke who treated me well and we'd make a good and happy life together.
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@rosie_123 (6113)
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24 Jun 07
I'm sorry you haven't had an easy life. I admire you for maing the best of yourself despite such a hard start in life. Thanks for responding.
@rosie_123 (6113)
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23 Jun 07
That is a very positive outlook. I'm sure the rest of your ife will be wonderful! I certainly hope so.
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@ozkid92 (549)
• United States
23 Jun 07
i would definitely treat my gf better. broke up with her 3 times over the summer without an explanation why, then when i asked for forgiveness she took me back right away and said it was no big deal. shes the greatest and deserves better than me. but i guess im what she wants.
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@rosie_123 (6113)
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23 Jun 07
Well I guess the mai ting is you recognise that now. If she has stuck by you - then she must really love you, and hope things work out better in the future.
@cloudwatcher (6861)
• Australia
23 Jun 07
Well, since we only have one life, so we don't have the chance to live it again and to change anything.
If it was possible, my first instinct would be to change a lot of things, but on second thoughts I would change nothing. I suffered every type of abuse during my first 22 years and consider the mental and emotional abuse the worst, with very long-lasting effects. They were very difficult years, but I wouldn't seek to avoid them. I can now be thankful for each and every thing that happened in my life. They made me what I am today, and I am more than happy with my life.
One thing I definitely would NOT change would be marrying the man I did. He is the most wonderful husband, father, friend and everything I could wish for.
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@rosie_123 (6113)
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23 Jun 07
I totally agree with your words. The people we are today have been formed by the things in our pasts - both good and bad. If we did some past things differently, we would not be the people we are today! Cheers.
@joey_matthews (8354)
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23 Jun 07
I wouldn't change anything.
Except one or two things, which I've probably mentioned and I won't ramble on about them but as for my life I am happy with how it is. I just wished I could improve areas :(
~Joey
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@rosie_123 (6113)
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24 Jun 07
Well you are still very young Joey, so plenty of time to work on those things you're not happy with. Thanks for answering.
@crickethear (1417)
• United States
23 Jun 07
Well, I would do things differently if I could. The only problem, the health issues I have prevented me from pursuing certain things I wanted to do. Now I just don't have the drive. If my circumstances were different I would have done a lot of things in my life and achieved the goals that I wish I could have this time around. Unfortunately, life doesn't always hand a good dealt, and you have to work with what you have and had. I feel overall I have done pretty good, but I still would love to have ventured out, and just do it.
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@rosie_123 (6113)
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23 Jun 07
I am sorry you feel so many things have remained unfulfilled. As you say - life doesn't always deal us a fair hand - and we have to make the most of what we have.
Cheers.
@keep_onwatch (2680)
• India
23 Jun 07
Oh yes i would have changed the way i looked at matters. i would have sudied harder and achoived some goals that i set up 4 myself and didnt complete them.i would have worked hard at my college and didnt get in marriage so soon.....i would have waited done some thing be some 1 and ease my life then marry and settle down...well lots to mention1
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@mivarg (277)
• India
23 Jun 07
I like the way I am now, how life has turned out so far. But if you would want me to rethink hardly on one thing I should have changed in my life, it would be the amount of work I put to get through the test to qualify for a course in medicine. I wanted to become a doctor, and tried harder, but couldn't make it. I wish I could have tried a bit more harder. But I do not regret choosing my current profession (teaching) that gives me a lot of self-satisfaction and happiness.
@rosie_123 (6113)
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23 Jun 07
Well teacher is also a very worthwhile profession. Thanks for your response.
@3superkids (446)
• Philippines
23 Jun 07
the imperfection of life. i have made so many mistakes, wrong turns, bad decisions but i don't think there is a single thing that i would change in my past. otherwise i wouldn't have my beautiful children and loving husband now. thanks. :)
@visitorinvasion (7709)
• United States
22 Jun 07
If I could go back knowing what I know now, I would do a whole lot of things differently. There are at least 3 guys that I never would have dated, for starters. Then I would have finished college the first time around. I'm sure there are other things I would do over, but those are the 2 main big mistakes that I'd like a do-over on, lol.
You must have a great peace in your heart having no regrets in it. Tipping my soda to you :)
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@rosie_123 (6113)
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22 Jun 07
Well first - good luck with the College thing. You are bringing your life experience to your course now, and can look at things with a whole new perspective, and that can only be good. As for having peace in my heart - yes - I guess I have. I have a good job, a lovely home, and a wonderful man who loves me as much as I love him - what more can I want?
Cheers, and thanks for your response.
@koikoikoi (1246)
• United States
23 Jun 07
My whole life. I screwed up so much that if I were to do something different I would be a totally different person. I would probably be smarter too.
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@LightninStrike (5915)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
22 Jun 07
Well i would obviously try not to commit many of the mistakes i have done in my life. But i think that since we cannot rewind our lives, the maximum i can do is learn from the past, good and bad, and try to make a better future.
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