Do you want DIVORCE to be legalized in the philippines?

I think divorce should be legal everywhere, for no other reason than that human beings make mistakes. I wouldn't want to spend my whole life miserable with someone who didn't treat me properly or whom I simply couldn't get along with just because at some point I was in love with them, or thought I was. Just out of curiousity, what happens when divorce is illegal and there is abuse involved?

well i say no to divorce. partners will not have an easier choice to separate if this is approved. a lot of families will end up being messed up because of this. it had been debated a lot but fortunately until now it's not yet approved. i do not want that there will come a time that people here in the philippines will just get married all of a sudden and get divorce after 5 hours. it destroys the sanctity of marriage.

everybody said good opinions...everybody has a point.. but in my own opinion, I can say that marraiage is very valuable to me and lucky are the people who found the right person in their lives... misunderstanding is part of the relationship and through mistakes everybody grows and learn lessons from it...fights and arguments is always there and if both partners know how to handle themselves and handle their partners, they could achieve the happiest life of being married... and for me, as long as they can live together for their good, better to cherish and nurture marriage...but, it's not also bad to leave partner if it's not working anymore...anyway, it was also written in the bible that we can leave our partners if they have failed to become faithful with their partners... it's also important to give respect to oneself. But, I wanted to say not to legalized divorce in the philippines to prevent people from thinking that it's okey to get married if they failed try again. I still wanted to view marriage as how our lolo and lola taught us: "ang pag-aasawa ay hindi parang kanin na isusubo na pag napaso ay pwedeng iluwa."

I value marriage and thought that if everything can be settled still, I hope both parties will. But I also value the individual's right to get out of an unhappy, unfair marriage. My point is, if the marriage is not worth saving for at all, then both party should have the right to move on with their lives and find someone that will give them the love, respect and happiness they deserve.

I am anti-divorce. If divorce will be legalized here in Philippines, I believe there would be a lot of people who will be taking advantage of it. People will no longer respect the sacredness of marriage. We will just give people the opportunity to have as many as partners as want to. Because they will no longer try to work things out for they believe that they can just file for separation anytime.

Hi hernani! I am of he opinion that divorse should be legalised in every country. There is no point in dragging or compromising on a marriage which is a failure and can only give you pain. Atleast,if a divorse is legal, the parners in marrige would not take eachother for granted.

Hi, hernani, Divorce should be legalized. I am a man living with a wife who is mentally emotional problems. For nothing she pick up a fight. She is the woman who is interested only to fight whomever it may be. She will find fault with everybody. The whole world is wrong but she is right always. There is no martial relationship between us. Still we are living together because in India marriage is permanent bondage. Though I can divorce through legal means but it is against our culture, belief and tradition. I am mentally suffering every day. Therefore, divorce should be legalised because without knowing she is a mental patient I married her. First day itself I recognised, she is a mental case. However, it is my fate I am living with her. Since I do not want to go against my belief, custom and tradition of our culture I silently bear all the suffering. I also consider it is my fate. I will leave everything to God. I am being punished for my own fault. I ready to accept and living with reality and therefore, nobody should live such a situation I have been through. I feel it is must and should divorce should be legalised so that lot of people on the earth who married and become incompatiable to each other should get divorced so that both of them can lead a happy and peaceful life of their own.

I didn't know that divorce was illegal in the Philippines!! I don't think divorce should be illegal because there are people out there that are in abusive relaitonships and they shouldn't be stuck like that. Also a relationship with hate and hostility and not love is a horrible thing for the kids as well as the spouses. Trust me I know my parents have been married for 34 years and I used to pray they would divorce because they hated each other so badly. but anyways... What I think is that before you get married youshould have to go through an extensive course to enaure that you are ready to get married and that you truly do want to get married to this person. I think that marraige should be a privilige and not a right. You should have to earn a the right to get married.

I never understand what it is so wrong in getting a divorce. You cant say that couples dont try working out their problems, many of them do! Sometimes, it is just a failure. My divorce happened after five years of marriage. I have to say, I am better person now. What do you mean by a "better person"??? Well, now i have myself put together, have plans for the future and most of all, i am relaxed and happy within and I can spread that happiness to others around ! Just because you get married to someone, that does not mean it is the one that was meant to be..of course, you should try everything as possible and still there is no way, well, then you should go separate ways... Being in a unhappy relationship is not good for both of you and for you personally ! I have to say, Not every single problem in a marriage will have a solution.... I guess I am just talking out of experience !

YES!!! Its better divorce to be legalized, for some couples could have a chance to fix their own life to be back in normal. How could you stand being with someone which you called your ex? If ever the couple no longer living together and they found their true love, how could they live happily ever after? We knew were just only human, human that we do almost mistakes in our life. No bodys Perfect, Remember, sometimes God want us to met some wrong person before meeting the right one for us so that when we finally found our true love we will know to be grateful. For those couples with their sibblings already, of course if you can still do heart to heart talk and if theres still love for both of you, I guess, they still have a chance to save their marrages and not to think about divorce - but for those with kids but the couple really cant take it anymore to be together, why wasting your time to someone who isn't willing to waste his or her time to you...I know having a broken family is not good for children - but - thats life! later on they will understand why... so I would say YES for divorced to be legalized in any country...

I don't think it should be legal anywhere. Marriage is a sacred thing. That is why we should think twice before marrying someone. Legalizing divorce would just encourage someone to marry someone they do not truly love or to rush decisions. Once you marry someone, you should realize that you are bonded by God and that could not be broken. If you get beaten by your husband or married the wrong man, there is no one to blame but yourself. You should have known the guy or girl that you are marrying. You must not rush getting married. Divorce is something that says "go on, if you choose the wrong one, you can get a divorce".

See? this is why I like myLot. I didn't know divorce was illegal in Philippines! Now I know something more. I don't really have opinion on the matter because divorce was always legal here where I live (or at least since I was born, maybe before it wasn't) so I've never lived in an illegal divorce country so I don't know what is like. I can say that when I hear "that couple got divorced" I always say "why they got married in the first place?" especially if they're young. I think you need to think a lot before you marry someone and not say "oh well if we don't agree there's always divorce!" so in a way I'm anti-divorce but I like to have a way out so I'm anti-divorce but legal divorce. I mean not all the problems have solutions if there's no love anymore and the hubby and wife fight all of the time why stay together? of course if it's illegal you're more motivated to solve the problems.

for me yes,you cant for a couple to be together,when they dont love each other anymore,freedom for them is the best solution,to have peace of mind and a free heart!

Divorce must be legalized everywhere. The state cannot have the ability to intefere in the people's private life. Some people do get married trivially, and get unmarried with the same triviallity, but forbidding divorce is not the way for fixing it.

I think divorce is a good thing. Sometimes couples just can't work through their problems, or realise that their relationship is over. I don't think it's good that 2 people should have to stay in a marraige that is making them unhappy.

For nearly 20 years I was beaten badly by my ex husband, of course Divorce should be made available everywhere, life is not always sugar and spice, I feel so sorry for women who are trapped in marriages in certain parts of the world and can't escape their controlling husbands, this is 2007 not the middle ages!

This question really caught my eye... it's such a tough one! I suppose there are good points to not being able to get a divorce - as you said, it gives people a chance to work through their problems. These days, especially here in the UK, I think divorce is too often used as a 'quick fix' to a problem, and people decide to separate without even trying to work through any difficulties they may have. However, there are some people who are just not right for eachother, people can change - and some people can be decieptful. I can't imagine finding out the person I married was not the man I thought he was, and not being able to separate from him. In some cases, I think it would be worse to stay in a marriage that's not working - it can be bad for your health, physically and mentally, and can affect those around you who care for you. I think divorce should be an option open to everybody, but I think it should not be used so freely as it is sometimes - I think it is destroying the sanctity of marriage, people don't take enough consideration when choosing their life partner, because they know they can divorce if they want to - just look at the celebrities of today, they don't stay married for longer than five minutes!

No, definitely not. We Filipinos still value the family being a Christian country, so we must respect the sanctity of marriage. It may work in other countries, but not here in the Philippines...If you look around, there are lots of Filipino marriages which have withstood the test of time for 2o or more years, so why legalize divorce? There are other good laws in the Family Code that should be implemented instead of introducing divorce...Of course, for those marriages which are really a failure, there is annulment, legal separation which will still go a long process, but which for me are sufficient for those rare marriages which do not work.

I dont believe in divrce thats not good especially for kids. Philippines is known to be a christian and doesnt believe in that thing. I dont want divorce in our country we need to be strong in times of troubles not having that divorce course of action. No.no. no. and no divorce whatever happened.

Yes, I do believe that divorce should be legalized in the Philippines. I have seen several couples who are trapped in a relationship and are miserable because divorce is not legalized. As a result, these couples go on their separate ways and are committing bigamy, concubinage or adultery. Filing a case for annulment is the Philippines is very expensive. You have to consider not only the filing fees but most of all the payment for the psychiatrist or psychologist and the attorney's fees. What is worse, there is no assurance that your petition will be granted. The rules or guidelines must be complied with otherwise your case will be in danger of being denied.