Would you Rather: Live with your Mother for the First Year of your Marriage OR..

@brokentia (10389)
United States
June 23, 2007 3:54pm CST
Would You Rather Game: Would you rather have your mother live with you during the first year of your marriage OR have your mother-in-law come over for dinner 7 days a week for the first 2 years???
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@morgandrake (2136)
• United States
23 Jun 07
Considering my less than stellar relationship with my own mother, I would have to go with the mother-in-law over for dinner option. It would lead to less arguing. In general, my mom thinks that my profession is a sin (freelance writer), that my choice of religion is wrong, and that I am not worthy of life. My mother-in-law would have to work very hard to get to that level of hatred for me.
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@brokentia (10389)
• United States
23 Jun 07
Ouch! I can understand the religion thing too. My partner's mother is not very happy with our choice either and tends to just completely avoid it. I would not want to see the conversation if she were forced to really deal with it. And deal with it she would have to because that is what would sometimes involve dinners too. There is no way I would want to make a Yule AND a Christmas dinner. I guess I should be more grateful that my mother is understanding in that aspect. Thanks!
@rsmith512 (1561)
• United States
24 Jun 07
I do not have a mother-in-law...but, I am still going to answer this question. It is a no brainer(not literally) whether I have a mother-in-law or not! Am I keeping you in suspense? haha I would rather....live with my mother during the first year of my marriage. She knows me better than anyone and we can put up with each other!! Having the spend dinner seven days a week for the first two years with my mother-in-law would probably get annoying! I wouldn't be able to stand that! It would kind of be like she was just there for the food!!! hahaha :DD
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@brokentia (10389)
• United States
25 Jun 07
I will have to keep this is mind. ha ha
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
24 Jun 07
Pfft LOL well hell this is the easiest one yet!! I'd be more than happy to have my mum in law over for dinner every day for 2 yrs...I cant stand my mother and she cant stand me so um yea her living here for a yr would just end up with me in prison for murder...I'll take dinner wiht my wonderful mum in law for $500 Bob! :-D
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• United States
25 Jun 07
I think I would rather her just come over for dinner for the first two years. I don't think I would be comfortable doing the 'wild thing' with my mother-in-law in the other room. Not that that's never happened - but for her to be there every night and thinking she might over hear us...and then I'd be holding back and such...PLUS it would be hard to get into the simplest disagreement. I'd feel like I was under constant scrutiny. Nah I'd much rather have her over for dinner every night for two years. And I say this knowing that eventually my mother-in-law may live with us. But it won't be in our first year of marriage LOL.
• United States
25 Jun 07
Opps! Seems I read it too fast and thought I had to choose whether my mother-in-law live with us or have dinner for the first two years. I still would stick with my first response. I would rather had my mother-in-law over for dinner than have my mom live with us. For one thing my hubby doesn't like my mom. And I would GO CRAZY having to live with her again too. I love her dearly I really do but she's a walking time bomb. Plus she's got 'habits' that I couldn't live with and she thinks she couldn't live without.
• United States
27 Jun 07
Well, you didn't say I don't get along with my mother in law so I'll go with having her over for dinner. I could have a great relationship with her and wouldn't mind her eating dinner with us, since we get along. I wouldn't want to live with my mom and be a burden to her.
@Mayuko (1268)
• United States
16 Nov 11
I pick having my mother-in-law come over for dinner. While I'm not married, so I don't know what she'd be like, I couldn't imagine she'd be any worse than my mother--not that my mother is bad or a pain or anything like that. I just mean I think my mother would already be enough of that maternal figure telling me how to life my live and what I'm doing wrong domestically. So if I had to choose between someone potentially doing that for about an hour a day for 2 years, or for 24 hour one.... Not to mention, living with my mother for the 1st year of marriage means I wouldn't have much of any private time with my husband
@Signal20 (2281)
• United States
26 Jun 07
I think I'd rather live with mother for the first year. My mom can be a pain in the a$$-but really who isn't? But for the most part she's not that bad. She's pretty private, and would mind her own business. My mother in law is ok, never had any major problems with her. But I can see deep down in there, she's just full of snide comments just waiting to come out towards me(have seen one or two on occasion), and we'd be like piss and vinegar together lol. So, don't think I could handle 24 months, 7 days a week of dinner time with that :)
• United States
24 Jun 07
Without a question I'd much rather have her over for dinner every single day for two years cause then at least she would go home after each meal. INstead of having her there 24/7 for a year.
@Willowlady (10658)
• United States
24 Jun 07
Definitely dinner only. Living with relatives during marriage is never a good idea. Also the man is to leave the family and join with the wife. Nuff said. These are questions from that game you have? Noticed it after I responded from email on the two I answered.
@SpitFire179 (2536)
• Canada
24 Jun 07
Mother in law come over for dinner 7 days a week hands down, i love my mother in law, she's definitely the greatest, coolest lady in the world. I'd have her here over my mother any day of the week, and would even offer for her to stay here before i would my own mother.
@4cuteboys (4099)
• United States
24 Jun 07
Umm this is easy for me. lol I would take Mother in law for dinner 7 days a week for 2 years! The way I figure it is, if I lived with my mom, we'd get like no private time or alone time! If the mother in law was just coming for dinner, she'd eventually leave and we could get on with our regular, private married life! I wouldnt enjoy cooking that much, hopefully mother in law likes take out :)
@castleghost (1304)
• United States
25 Jun 07
My future mother in law already lives with us so I guess I would have to pick to have my mother in law over for dinner. Actually it wouldn't bother me all that much to have my own mom live with us as well. She would of course have to leave my father behind because I do happen to find him to be annoying.
• United States
24 Jun 07
I would rather serve dinner to my mother=in=law for two years, than live with my mom or she with me, with my husband. I did the entire grow=up years with my own mom, and want some time with my new family.