My friend is again on pressure to marry the boy of her parents' choice!

Is this girl financially independent? Has she a normal job? Possibility to leave allone? If yes, why for God`s sake her parents try to determinate her own life and happiness.If they are too much inloved in this boy, let them adopt him or marry him or whatever, but to leave her allone. She is not a slave.And she must assert herself in this situation. The marriage is something too serious and important to obbey blindly their will.

Well if she is of age than i would tell my parents i will not be marrying this man.I think a person should make the choice of whom they will marry as they are the one who has to spend there life with this person. I know in some countries this was the habit in olden days but I dont think it is right for todays world. I think your friend should stand up for herself and tell her parents and i guess if they dont accept it she can always move out.I could never imagine makeing my daughter marry someone she didnt want to.

well, i am going to assume that you are in america. if you aren't well, i tried. anywho, regardless of her age, her parents really can't make her marry anyone. ultimately the choice is hers. do you think my fiance would be marrying me if her parents had a sy? probably not. it is her choice. the sooner she realizes that, the better. you know?

i think this is unfair.coz everyone has the rights to marry their one choice.So how can u spend ur whole life with someone to whome dont like.

i remmber ur discussion and i replied to it ,i can just see the problem THE MAN IS STRANGER why not she tries to befriend with him may she like him because parents never want bad for their children ,they never ,they can be wrong but they are real and original well wishers.

The Shame Old Story !

One way of getting out of this is your freind should approach the boy and tell him she didn't want to marry her.

If she has already talked to her parents and they won't listen there is not much she can do to persuade them but she doesn't have to marry anyone that she didn't choose herself and if this means a fight with her parents then that may be what she is going to have to do . Exclude them from her life for awhile so they can see that she is old enough to make this decision on her own and she is not going to let them decide for her what is best for her . As an adult it may be hard for some parents to let go of their children and let them make their own choices in life but by pushing your child to do something they are not going to do is only going to push your child further away from you . If you raise your child to be a good person then all you have left is to hope you did a good enough job and sit back and let them live their lives .

ultimately, it's her life. if she doesn't want to marry him then no onbe has the right to force her. ultimately, she has the RIGHT to say no, and should do so if that's how she feels, regardless of pressure from society or family. it's her life and not theirs.

It's your friend's life so she really has to decide for herself whether she would be prepared to marry this guy or not. If she doesn't want to but they insist, then she must decide whether she would be willing to cope with the consequences. Because she might have to leave her parents and live on her own and fend for herself without family support.

I know that parents wants the best for their children. But i don't think that they should be pressuring your friend in marrying the guy that they chose for her. Because it is your friend who'll be spending the rest of her life with that guy. She should tell her parents how she felt and make them understand that she understood their intention. Why don't parents let their children spend some time with the person who they would want them to marry? afterwards, they can let their children decide for themselves if they would want to marry that person. marriage should not be forced on someone who doesn't love one another. There is a chance that they would learn to love one another, but what if they don't ...

Well marriage is a very serious issue and a right decision in thsi matter is necessary ...You said that she spoke to her parents but still its was of no use...So i feel when her parents are with groom parents then she need to open up this matter in front of them atleast that groom and his parents will come to know that she is not happy with that person and her parents are forcing her...Or else she can speak to the groom only and if he can help she may come out of this situation...i hope this works for her...All the best...