Are you trustworthy?

@mssnow (9484)
United States
June 24, 2007 2:29pm CST
Can people trust you? If someone says I'm telling you this in the strictest confidence so please don't tell anyone. Can you keep it a secret for life?? Can you hold it in even if you and that person get mad at each other? If someone confides in me and says don't tell anyone. I will keep it inside me till I die. No mater what has happened between me and that person. If someone hands me a large amount of money to hold. I will hold it till they ask for it back. I have people who share things with me they would never share with anyone else because they know I will not tell. I also try to pick my friend who I know I can trust. But, yet still until they have proven themselves to be trustworthy. (if you talk about others, behind their backs and its something you would not say to their face, You cant be trusted). Can you be trusted??
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
24 Jun 07
Yes I am I am a great believer in the case that someone tells me something in confidence I will never ever tell I carry some secrets around and have done for years and with most People I am not in contact anymore but I have never ever told anyone what I was trusted with and I never will
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
24 Jun 07
Thank you Sweetie
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@mssnow (9484)
• United States
24 Jun 07
I believe you gabs I would trust you with anything :)
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@mssnow (9484)
• United States
24 Jun 07
your welcome :)
@aprilgrl (4460)
• United States
24 Jun 07
Yes, I can be trusted. When someone tells me a secret I keep my words. I have so many friends that have backstabbed me and I don't do that. I'm just a honest person and I don't like to talk about someone behind their backs
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@mssnow (9484)
• United States
24 Jun 07
I know you can be trusted april :)
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@aprilgrl (4460)
• United States
24 Jun 07
thanks :)
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@mssnow (9484)
• United States
24 Jun 07
you are every welcome :)
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• Singapore
25 Jun 07
Sure princess, if I am not trustworthy, then there are no more trustworthy guys around lol. As for secrets, well, I love secrets. But secrets are not supposed to be told. If you don't want anyone to know, don't tell anyone in the first place.:P
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@mssnow (9484)
• United States
25 Jun 07
I know you are trustworthy Lord. thats why your so mean to me lol
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• Singapore
25 Jun 07
I am so nice. Learn to appreciate me more.:P
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• United States
24 Jun 07
There are a millon things I've kept secret and never reapeated to anyone, so yes I'm pretty trustworthy. I'm like a secret keeper to most everyone. Some things however that are of very serious matter, have to somehow be reapeted, those are things that involve abuse or anything worse. Secrets can be kept, but some do have to be known.
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@mssnow (9484)
• United States
24 Jun 07
Yup i never thought about that till someone brought up danger. I think if a person was in danger i might tell
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@henazea (313)
• Kuwait
24 Jun 07
yes I can be trusted!!I can be absolutely trusted!!I never have the habit of talking about other people!!even if I have stopped talkin to a particular person I don't speak of their secrets!!
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@mssnow (9484)
• United States
24 Jun 07
That is great :) good to hear :)
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@latsmom (824)
24 Jun 07
Even if I was to fall out with someone I woudl definately keep what I had been told to myself, afte all when you were freinds you were told so with trust and love so it is not fair to go back on a promise, the only time this wousld not apply is if someone was going to be or is in danger, if I had to loose a freindsship to save a life then I woudl definately do so.
@mssnow (9484)
• United States
24 Jun 07
Yes it is hard to keep a secret if someone is in danger. You are right about that
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@budsr03 (2350)
• Canada
24 Jun 07
I've told myself never to divulge whether i am or not! So you see, i can't tell you that! :) Whatta you think?
@budsr03 (2350)
• Canada
24 Jun 07
Yes, with my life! :)
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@mssnow (9484)
• United States
24 Jun 07
ROFL!! You are such a riot but a cute riot. Would you trust me bud? :)
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@mssnow (9484)
• United States
24 Jun 07
wow!! I feel special now. I trust you too :)
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@emisle (3822)
• Ireland
24 Jun 07
If someone tells me something in confidence than I won't break that trust. I'd like to think that if someone betrayed me that I would be a bigger person and not spill theirs, but I think it really would depend on just how big a betrayal it was.
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@mssnow (9484)
• United States
24 Jun 07
Yes that is true. But I guess with me I don't have alot of secrets to worry about lol
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@babykay (2131)
• Ireland
25 Jun 07
If someone trusts me with a secret I would never tell it to everybody. No way. The only possible way I would break a confidence is if I thought someone was in danger or if I thought I was doing the lesser of two evils. I don't hear that many secrets but when I do I keep them to myself!
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@mssnow (9484)
• United States
25 Jun 07
Good for you and yes danger is one of the few times i would break it too
• Canada
25 Jun 07
Well Mssnow, This is of course one of those rare qualities. That a lot of us lack. Some of us have stopped doing such things like this. I think because some like being apart of the center of attention.. knowing it's only for a moment. I've always considered myself to be able to keep someone secret in confidence. Regardless whether they've asked me or not. When having a private conversation with someone it should always be kept in confidence/ or secretly out of respect for them.
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@mssnow (9484)
• United States
25 Jun 07
I agree, if you are having a conversation with someone. You should keep it confidential. if your unsure about whether they want people to know ask them. Tell them unless they say its ok to talk about it, it will be confidential.
@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
24 Jun 07
It depends. Usually if they trust me with their secrets, I will trust them with mine. But if they betray my trust, I will betray their trusts. I wouldn't stab anyone in the back, if they didn't do it to me in the first place. So now it's up to everyone else whether they think I'm trustworthy or not.
@mssnow (9484)
• United States
24 Jun 07
well thanks for being honest mel. :) I can see how that might make you mad if someone betrayed you :)
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@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
25 Jun 07
I sure can keep secrets for life. I will not even tell you if someone has entrusted any secrets to me. It is already violating the disclosure order should I let you know. heehehe... I have always prided myself as being a closet for anyone who wanted to keep a secret but felt uneasy not blurting it out. If you cannot trust me, who else can you trust?
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@mssnow (9484)
• United States
25 Jun 07
Thats great to know. I seem to attract people who are trustworthy lol
@kamran12 (5526)
• Pakistan
25 Jun 07
Hello, mssnow! I am confident and glad that I am regarded as a trustworthy person, from as little as my 5 year old nephew who tells me his innocent stories not to be told to anyone else to as old as my grandmother, elderly people in my extended family, locality and job, people put their trust in me. They share with me their dreams, fears and problems from most harmless to most sacred, secret and intimate matters. I have friends who share with me their most intimate things seeking for advice or just to speak out their heart. Couples, each side of whom share their own story in hope that I would never let it known to other side. Usually they are for seeking help. It also occurs to me that someone will tell me something about another person which I already knew and I'll keep a spot face as if I didn't know. I have so much secrets buried in my chest that I can write several books but a single line won't comedown my fingers. People have entrusted in me with money and their dear things too for many years. I still have money of so many people, some of whom are very old and I fear that what I'll do if they die as I am not in that country. I have asked them several times to take their money or belonging but they would say that it's more safe with me. I have also many secrets of people who turned against me but I never used a word to my own advantage by pouring out their secrets. I am glad that they still trust me that their secrets are buried in me. They have also tested me on some occasions by later changing the story in front of others (even against me) and trying to see if I'll object to them by narrating the actual account but I never defended me by revealing the actual story that was supposed to be secret.
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@mssnow (9484)
• United States
25 Jun 07
Then you are very special indeed. Thanks for sharing
@kamran12 (5526)
• Pakistan
25 Jun 07
I am not special, mssnow!, it's the people around me who are special:-)
@kamran12 (5526)
• Pakistan
22 Apr 08
Wow, that's quite an old discussion and getting a best response on that is a delight, so thank you for the best response, mssnow!:-) I have seen your participation rare and sporadically, have you been off-line for a long time?
@suzieb (188)
• United States
25 Jun 07
I like to think so. If someone tells me not to tell anyone else, I wouldn't say anything.
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@mssnow (9484)
• United States
25 Jun 07
Thats good news I'm sure your friends are happy about that :)
• United States
24 Jun 07
I would like to think I am trustworthy.. I was brought up to know that lying is wrong and that taking what is not mine is stealing..So I believe I am trustworthy.. If someone asks me not to tell something..that is they confide a secret to me..I will keep this secret..unless it's a secret that should be made known due to it's gravity.
@mssnow (9484)
• United States
24 Jun 07
yes i agree with you about that. if its intent is to harm someone then i would of course not keep it secret.
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
24 Jun 07
Friendship to me is platignum both on or off line it doesn't matter if you are a true friend to me then trust is part of the package, anything you say to me and my friends who have confided in me in the past and you know who you are know that whatever they tell me is sancrosanct. I am a very trustworthy person because I expect that in others.
@mssnow (9484)
• United States
24 Jun 07
i trust you wolfie :)
• United States
24 Jun 07
I'm very trustworthy. I never tell anyone what someone tells me in secret. I never allow myself to trust others until I have seen that they can be trusted with the little things first. I am pretty sure that most of my friends know I am a good secret keeper.
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@mssnow (9484)
• United States
25 Jun 07
I feel like your a good person i trust you :)
• United States
24 Jun 07
I can be trusted for things like "secrets", etc. but I won't listen to gossip or talking behind their backs. I actually will stop the person talking and tell them I don't want to hear it.
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@mssnow (9484)
• United States
25 Jun 07
Sounds a lot like me. I don't like gossip and will not listen to it.
• Canada
24 Jun 07
Yes I do consider myself a trustworthy friend . If someone ask me not to say anything then I don't say anything at all until they tell me differently . I know things about friends that I used to be friends with years ago and have kept this secret as well especially if it is a big deal to the person who told me . I don't believe that anyone should repeat something that was told to them in the strictest of confidentiality .
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@mssnow (9484)
• United States
24 Jun 07
i too have secrets from past . They are with me to the end lol
@twils2 (1812)
• United States
24 Jun 07
I try to be the best friend that I can be. If someone wants to tell me a secret, I ask that they dont. Becayse of my A.D.D. It makes it hard for me to keep track of what are secrets and what arent. Its nothing I do on purpose, to much information kind of scrambles my brain. Trust me, I've lost more than a few friendships due to this in the past. Take care, Terry
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@mssnow (9484)
• United States
25 Jun 07
Lets just stay friends terry, no secrets ok?? :)