How to deal with disappontment

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I am 23 and growing up I always had problems dealing with emotions and I will be the firswt perosn to admit this. I was alwasy very depressed and frustrated inside and struggled to express myself and can freely admit that I often ended up taking the wrong route by torutring myself for it. I done daft things and left myself scarred but as I have got older I have learned to deal with it and learned how to talk my feelings away. Problem shared is a problem halved and generally do not find myself in emotional slumps too often. But there is one thing I have never learned to deal with and I think I should tell you my latest story as an example. I have a best friend called Scott and we have known each other for about 4 or 5 years and is my closest friend in the world. I'll confess that I am one of these people that when someone is my best friend I really do give them my heart. I haven't seen him in a few weeks due to my working hours and what have you and he has been going out and partying and that without me which I don't have a problem with. I'm off today which is a Sunday and he is off too so last nigth I spoke onthe phone with him and he was asking me to come over cos he missed me and stuff and it meant we could spend the whole of today with him but I said it was too late and i was tired and we made arrangements to go out to dinner to my favourite restraunt which really is a special treat and was even h is suggestion. So today I got up and got ready, packed a bag so I could stay with him tonight as he lives a distance away and public transport on a Sunday night is virtually impossible and safe for a girl travelling the length of the city. I called him and there was no answer but nothing surprised me cos he often has his phone on silent so I texted him saying something jokey along the lines of "you are getting the reputation of someone who doesn't answer. call me!" There was nothing unusual so far and when called he said he didn't want to do anything today and he didn't want me to come over. I was really hurt by this because us being in each others company really is no effort and before we could spend days in each others constant company and never tire of each other. I have always been one who hates to have arrangements cancelled on me. he knows this fine well but it really is kind of my issue cos it shouldn't be that big a deal. I know he is just tired and hungover and is just wanting to speand a day doing nothing cos he works so hard but there is just something inside me that makes me start crying when arrangements are cancelled. I can't explain it and I get really irrational and go in a huff. I know you are probably thinking it is all a bit shite but it really isn't and I think it is just my huffy tainting the story but I relaly do just need to learn a more mature way to deal with disappointment. As a child I was never really taken anywhere. I come from a single parent family and we never really had much cash so my mother had to be the proper parent and therefore we never went on days out. So how am I suppose to deal with people cancelling on me with out slumping myself into some sort of depression. It is something that just makes me switch from the happy go lucky person that I am to the most miserable person in the world. I know that this is something just not quite right and obviously I have never taught myself to deal with disappointment in the right way. By the way, that was just one of the latest stories of disappointment. I set my heart on doing things that so many people have promised me that they don't see as a big deal but I always do. There is sometimes daft things like someone said they would come to a club night and when they change their mind i go through the same thing. Please offer me some advice and encouragement. I know my feelings are far too irrational and I know I don't deal with things in the right way but this is still something I need to teach myself.