My friends force me to be the third wheel
@ifinallyfoundmybaby (1742)
Philippines
June 24, 2007 7:34pm CST
one of my bestfriends always drag me out when she goes out with her boyfriends, practically making me the third wheel, and if i refuse she starts complaining and whining and it drives me crazy to be the third wheel.
Like i mean were out all three of us and both of them are having fun doing what couples do and im just always left alone.
Her parents won't allow her to have a boyfriend so she can only see him if she comes to my house, i feel really used and it is also embarrasing and humiliating.
I wanna be a good friend but being a good friend has its limits. Am i right?
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4 responses
@reckon21 (3477)
• Philippines
23 Apr 10
Your friend has this selfish attitude that she only cares for her own happiness and she entirely forgotten about your situation and your discomfort when you are with them. I think love really blinded her but since you are her friend you are liable to help her by all means.
You can always tell her what you are feeling every time you go out with them. Don't be so stupid that you will always allow it to happen. Since you don't like it you can always complain to her so that she will understand.
Your friend should never take you for granted.
@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
26 Jun 07
I empathise with you. It was not a good feeling to be left alone especially when they are busy at their own business. Perhaps you can drag another friend along and leave them alone? How about a group date?
You say her parents don't allow her to have a boyfriend and so I guess your home is her meeting place with her boyfriend? How does her parents know whether they are at your house or elsewhere? Perhaps it might be a better arrangement to meet outside, you go about your own activity and she her own. Then meet again and go back home with her if you are needed to show your presence. lol.
Have a talk with your friend, tell her how you feel. I am sure she understands and perhaps the 3 of you can come out with a better solution. I wish you all the best.
@joey_matthews (8354)
•
26 Jun 07
Well she shouldn't need you there all the time. Have you asked her why she does it?
Maybe she's doing because she's nervous or just likes sharing the time between the both. I've known friends to push other friends out when they have "dated" and it could be that she doesn't want to push or lose your friendship.
Discuss it next time you see her :)
~Joey





