i've had it with my m-i-law!

@mgmagana (3621)
United States
June 24, 2007 11:20pm CST
I KNOW PEOPLE R PROBABLY TIRED OF HEARING ME COMPLAIN ABOUT HER but this weekend she went away and came back today, well my hubby my 22 mo. old and my 4 yr. old and i r asleep in the room, i hear a knock on my door, but i know who it is so i just go back to sleep, next thing i hear my cell phone ring and i ignore it it's her, so then my hubby's phone rings, it's her again, then my phone rings again she leaves a voicemail asking if there is mail. the b*tch woke me up almost my kids for mail. so my hubby goes out there and asks why she's calling, she said oh ur aunt sent me an important letter, i know it could wait b/c u could c thru the envelope it's a 100 dollar check from the dad b/c her youngest is gonna be 18 in 2 days so she won't be getting welfare anymore. well i told her why did u try to call and almost wake up the kids, i said u don't seem to care about that, and she's just ignoring me. so i told my hubby i'm irritated and she's supposed to be leaving in august but i can't wait, i want her gone now. so i told him i'm gonna go stay with my mom for 2 mos. he said no, i said well i'm gonna go for a week then this week. and he doesn't care, he's willing to let me go b/c he said well if u go make sure roman (my oldest) does the treadmill to start getting in shape for football. wutever i'm so mad! how can he be willing to let me go instead of telling his mom to just leave now!
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@Aurone (4757)
• United States
25 Jun 07
If she is living with you why did she have to call. Maybe I am misunderstanding your story. And why is staying with you in the first place? As much as I love my family, living with my mother or mother-in-law just seems like a bad idea. If she bothering you that much, I would get out of there and shame on your husband for taking her side instead of yours.
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@mgmagana (3621)
• United States
25 Jun 07
b/c we didn't answer the door when she knocked so she felt the need to call, it was a bad idea letting her come stay, she's been with us for 4 1/2 yrs. b/c she was living in an unstable environment before and she didn't have her kids, so we thought when we got a house she and her boys could come stay and with us and better their lives, well 2 outta 3 boys took advantage of it and they did better their lives, but my m-i-law has just let her life go down hill, and this past yr. i've just had it with her, now she's going to live with her parents since she won't be getting welfare and i'm just tired of her now, i want her to leave now.
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@Aurone (4757)
• United States
25 Jun 07
I think you are right its time for her to go.
• Morocco
25 Jun 07
good lock im happy to read your pool.
@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
25 Jun 07
Oh geez this is a tough one my friend. I think he doesnt want you to go. But if its only for a week and its going to make you feel better he probably thinks it will be good. I think it would be good for you to get away if only for a week. It really sounds like she is on your nerves. Let her get on your husbands nerves for awhile.LOL Keep us informed on what your doing.
@mgmagana (3621)
• United States
25 Jun 07
well as of last night i was on here typing away and my hubby tried looking i said don't look it's personal, so he took that personal and asked wut was wrong and i said well u're willing to let me go instead of ur mom, and he said well wut do u want me to do? i didn't say anything, well later on he said do u want me to tell her to leave and i said yeah, i hate being here when she's here, if i leave i dread coming home knowing she's here. i just don't want her here anymore, so he said he'll tell her today when he gets home. so we'll see wut happens, i'll keep u posted! i think u're right he is just trying to give me a break, but wut he doesn't understand is that when i get home i dread it!
@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
25 Jun 07
Oh good! I hope it goes well. Ill be thinking of you.
@mgmagana (3621)
• United States
25 Jun 07
thx terryz i appreciate it! u're a great friend!
@tuhpaul (475)
• India
26 Jun 07
Its ur mother in law again! Why doesnt ur husband talk clearly to her -yet politely and sort the matter out, this is getting from bad to worse.Well now my friend,keep your cool,life has to go on.
@tuhpaul (475)
• India
26 Jun 07
I also feel ur mother in law is not only selfish but possessive and cares a bang about what u think or feel-she is really a pain in the neck-ignore her.
@mgmagana (3621)
• United States
26 Jun 07
i agree 100% it is getting from bad to worse and i just can't take it anymore, i shouldn't have to feel like this in my own home! thanks tuhpaul for the encouragement.
@sharon_ (1171)
• United States
26 Jun 07
I can tell by reading your post that this is just the icing on the cake! I never had an in-law live with me, but I used to hate going to their house! You need a nice break away from her. Remember she is your hubby's mother so I'm sure this is all very difficult for him ,too. Also,has she been acting like this every since she moved in?
@mgmagana (3621)
• United States
26 Jun 07
yes, she's very selfish, she only thinks of herself. it just started to get to me recently and u're right this is the icing on the cake, i do understand it's his mom, but i'm just so unhappy, and if i'm unhappy he's gonna hear about it.
@sharon_ (1171)
• United States
26 Jun 07
Seems to me that this has gone on way too long.If it was me going through this type of situation, I would have already made her leave.
@stacyv81 (5904)
• United States
25 Jun 07
I have been going through some MIL issues myself...These guys need to learn to stand up to their mother, for goodness sake, yes she is your mother, but this is the family you chose to create, and should have precedence over others. When I say that I am speaking about my guy as well. I do not understand it either, how can they just let their mothers cause all of this turmoil and feel it is acceptable? I am with you. I dont get it either.
@mgmagana (3621)
• United States
25 Jun 07
i totally understand wut u're saying, seeing me frustrated and stressed and my hubby does nothing about it!
@stacyv81 (5904)
• United States
25 Jun 07
I am in the same boat....I dont know what we will do with them! =)
@meljessxena (2317)
• Australia
26 Jun 07
oh my thats is fairly horrible, choosing his mother over you and your kids. the MIL didnt seen to care waking your family up. maybe when she knocked you should of got the door and said heres your letter now be quiet as the kids are asleep. then maybe the situation be handled a bit better. but you would think if a family is asleep she could of waited for a reasonable hour to come to get the mail
@mgmagana (3621)
• United States
26 Jun 07
well i didn't think she'd call that's why i just ignored the knock, i thought she'd think to herself oh they're sleeping i'll just leave them alone, but no her selfishness got the best on her and she insisted on calling. i agree about waiting til we woke up! i know it wasn't that important.
• United States
25 Jun 07
Man oh man, I know how you feel. My hubby has always been a mama's boy. I didn't think it would ever change. Then, I played him this song I heard on the radio. I can't remember the name of it, but one line of the song is about "Mama's boys who can't make a stand" for some reason that hit him like nothing I could ever say. He's changed a lot since he heard that :)
@mgmagana (3621)
• United States
25 Jun 07
really wow! my hubby changed once my m-i-law moved in with us he realized how selfish she really was. he hadn't seen the light before that. i think i helped shed some light on him too, explaining all the selfish things she does, seeing my mom and how great she was helped too he realized the way my mom is, is the way all moms should be. he loves my mom, i think he'd do more for her than his own.
@gncd1968 (49)
• United States
25 Jun 07
OH let's not even go there, I know how you feel. My husband is a mommas boy and i can't stand it. It certainly hasn't helped out marriage. I will say he's gotten better about her interferring, but I really have alot of negative feelings towards her. She tries to act like a mother to my 2 youngest and that really infuriates me. It's like "lady these are my kids, I'm glad you care about them, but they are my children-back off". It makes me want to be single, with just my kids.
@mgmagana (3621)
• United States
25 Jun 07
I WAS looking up myspace and doing a search of my old school & my hubby said oh r u looking up ur old bf's i said yeah they might have better moms lol! but i know wut u mean, my hubby def transitioned from a mommas boy, not to say he never was, once he tried 2 choose her over me but i wouldnt allow it, he knows how i feel about his mom, and he agrees.