Do you raise your children like your parents raised you?

I am really grateful to my parents for giving me a lovely environment at home and naturally if you have been happy in childhood then same things you want to do with your children as well. Only regarding eating habits I am strict towards my nephew and neice as when I was small I never ate some healthy nutrients as my parents were linient on that account.

I would like to.My parents had a tough time in raising me up to the current position where Im now.I had suffered a lots to reach here.My parents had lots of debts because of my education.I didnt get much of an opportunity to learn any side activities like music or dance or anything.But I want my kids to have all the facilities.My kids should never ever suffer for anything at any time.I will give them what ever they want.

I respect my parents.I will give the same love to my kids as my parents showered to me.I will give all the culture to my kids that given to me by my parents.I will educate them as per their choice.At the same time I will make them tough enough to fight against indecision,confident enough to shine in society.I will make them self sufficient to accept the future challenges.

You are one of the few lucky ones who had good parents... so the choice is easy for you. People will raise their children according to what they have been told to believe by their parents. If their parents have taught them to believe that it is acceptable to be punished in a particular way... they will punish their children the same way. It has been well documented that children who have been abused by their parents... will often abuse their own children. This problem comes from the fact that if you have children before the age of 25... you are too young to analyse your parents and to understand right from wrong. You are living according to what they have taught you... even if it is wrong. It is only when you get around the age of 30 that you start thinking for yourself without using other people ideas of what is right or wrong. A child raising a child is a recipee for disaster. Unfortunately... most children are raised by parents who have not grown up. It is not your age which makes you an adult... it is your brain... but only when you are using it. Many people are still children at 50 because they have never learned to use their brain.

Well you are blessed, laridbz, to have such a happy upbringing. You will be a good parent some day I am sure. I am doing things differently than my parents. Times are so different than they were when my parents were raising me. Added to that, my parents were young parents, having all four of their children before they were 28 yrs old. I on the other hand was 38 yrs old when my son was born. My husband and I are just at a different place in our lives than my parents were when they were raising us. It is amazing what a difference that can really make. But at the end of the day, I hope that my son will have learned the same moral and values that my parents instilled in me.

No! I don't like the way my parents trained me. I am learning now to train up a child, reading books, onlie articles related to that. I would say, I want to make a new generation, different from my family.

I didn't raise mine exactly like my parents raised me. I still instill in them the old fashioned values, respect for parents, elders, being fair, etc. There are a few phrases that my parents used that I never used, one of them is: 'Because I said so' Because I said so doesn't give a child a reason why, like because you'll hurt yourself, because it's not nice, because we don't allow behaviour like that, etc. If a child realizes the basis of why you're saying no, or whatever, they're more likely to grow up with understanding. I also never told my children 'you can't do that because you're a girl' I told them instead that you can do anything you want to do in life if you want to do it bad enough. My oldest daughter is now an equine/farm veterinarian, not a job that most women hold. My youngest dtr is an EMT, another job that is mostly males. I told them that if they were out with friends and whoever was driving was going to drive drunk, or whatever, it was always ok to call Mom, I would pick them up. They didn't grow up drinking, and would never ride with a friend that imbibed. I told them that if they wanted to discuss something, nothing is off limits...the only stupid question is the one that doesn't get asked, and the one that doesn't get asked never gets answered. Better to talk it out, and if I didn't know, we would seek the answers. Raising a child is a challenge, to me, not being available to talk, offer understanding, and show interest, is not the way to develop a good relationship with them. My girls grew up to be honest, open, friendly and good people. It's good that you find your parents amazing, not every kid has that kind of parents. Most parents operate out of love, even when the children don't understand where they're coming from.

Some things yes, some things no. Times change, people are different. There are no rules or books to follow. Just give a lot of love and understanding to them. Try to be fair and listen to them.

I don't have children, and I don't plan to. While I love my parents, there are a lot of things on which we disagree. I can think of hundreds of things I'd do differently if I ever had a child. I am about to have a step-child. Luckily his father and I agree on everything. I am not the boy's parent, and though I will offer advice to the young man (he's 16 my fiance is 61) I will leave all final parenting decisions up to his father. His Dad is a much more laid back parent than mine were.

my parents take good care of me and my two sisters and they have done a great job. but todays generation are quite different. i have 4 kids and i am taking care of them like my parents took care of us with a little touch of my own. i as a parent have my own traits and ideas that i think new generation kids will appreciate it.

I won't bring my son up the same way as my parents brought me up, not that they did a bad job, it's just that times have changed, and some things that used to be done by parents is a little dated. One example of this is that when I was at a really young age, my parents didn't hug or cuddle me or my brother, as it was said it would make us sooks, and too clingy. My mum has since told me that is one of the things she really regrets when I was a kid. My wife and I constantly hug our son, as we feel it is the right thing for him, and shows him how much he is loved.

I think I am basically following the same path in terms of raising my kids that my parents took with me. They were always fair about things and listened to my perspective. They were also always there for me. I guess if there is one difference, it is I am a little more strict with my girls then my parents were with me. cheers,

Well my brothers and me were raised with iron fists...spankings, abusive, neglect and just plain bad parenting. So suffice it to say I have definetly changed things up with my parenting. I have respectful discussions rather then yelling, I help them set goals, rather then yell at them that they will never amount to anything, when I am mad enough to knock someone out I'd rather punch a wall then any of my children. I believe that in order to gain the respect of your children you have to give it...all the time!!

I don't have any kids but when I do have them I will definately not raise them exactly as I was raised. There has to be a lot of changes and modifications to the way I was raised. There are some features that would remain intcat and unchanged but then there are also many that need changing. After all, times have changed and things are no more the way they used to be.

yes definitely, i will raise my baby on how my parents raised me.because i am so grateful of my parents.

Wow! Good for you that you have wonderful parents, for me that's a rarity. My parents, are very good parents and they disciplined us well, I'd like to think but they made their mistakes I think, sometimes prioritizing work rather than family and stuff like that, I believe that I will copy some of what they taught me but not all, and times when I was growing up was very different from now, that certain adjustments needs to be made to make parenting effective.

My parents raised me with respect. They also made sure I understand things and that's pretty much the same as I am with my son. Although I've learned from them and I have things which I've added to it to keep him from turning out like myself. Which isn't an issue, but I think bringing up as someone who's in control and will just do things would be better. ~Joey

While I respect my parents a lot for raising me the way the have done,I also remember the things that they did which gave rise to insecurities in me and other problems which I try not to repeat when I am dealing with my daughter.She is 3 and very very attached to me so I always keep in mind to not scare her into submission by shouting at her or ordering her.I prefer to explain things to her and for her age,she is quite a lot understanding than other kids of her age.My parents never explained why they were scolding us and it is only now as adults when my parents tell us what all they faced when we were kids that I understand how hard it would have been for them.I don't blame them now but I do try to take care that I am not using the same things in my raising of our daughter.

Yes i do think my parents have given me great teaching and i too want my childrens (when i have them :D) to acquire such teachings which were given to me by my parents so that they too can be recognized as good persons in the world.

i dont have children yet... infact i'm not married yet...i'm only 20 yrs old... but coming to ur point, i think yeah i will go on similar lines ... but much in my own ways with more practical approach to their modern lives... i m sure , my son/daughter will be more like a frnd to me, and will respect us a lot !!