Does everyone Manipulate?

Canada
June 25, 2007 1:54am CST
I was wondering does if everyone manipulates! A friend said this to me one day when I said don't manipulate him, her husband. She said, "oh come on everyone manipulates"? I said, "thats not true"! She said, "you do you just dont think you do". Well I have been thinking about that ever since! Do I manipulate people? Do I? Maybe for fun and games but do I do it seriously to get my way? I am still thinking on that one. What about you do you manipulate?
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@Script (592)
• Australia
25 Jun 07
I think everyone manipulates at times. Even if it is in a subtle way. Then there are not so subtle ways like the media in the news and newspapers. Sometimes I think people manipulate ever so subtly that it is almost an unconcience action.
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• Canada
2 Oct 09
Yes I think your right on that one. Subtly must be the way I do it at times. I never thought I did but have learnt I do manipulate at times. shame on me!
@suspenseful (40314)
• Canada
25 Jun 07
Everyone manipulates. You do it to get your kids to do something or to get someone to do things for you or take you someplace special. It is just natural human nature and without it, some of us would never get people to do things for us. I mean, you could easily throw a rope over someone and make him do what you want, but it is much easier to just get him in a position of doing something by smiling and steering him towards that couch you want to move. It just becomes bad when you want someone to do something illegal or immoral.
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• United States
7 Mar 09
No, not everyone manipulates. The definition of the word lies in the intention behind it. If you are unable to simply come out and ask someone to do something for you then you are probably incapable of hearing the word 'no', so you trick people, connive or calculate ways to get people to do things without having to ask. That is manipulation. And yes some form of manipulation is exhibited in all people for somethings, on subtle levels, and that is normal, but if it is something you do on a consistent and ongoing basis, then you have a problem.
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• Canada
2 Oct 09
Suspense I hear what you are saying for sure. I have witness much of this kind of manipulation and for me I just can't make myself do it. If I have to manipulate people to do what I want or to get me what I want then I deny myself. I just hate manipulation. On the other hand I have leant that I do manipulate like my friend said. I manipulated my children to learn or to do what I wanted them to like clean there rooms or do there homework when growing up. Not with bribes but just manipulating the circumstances. When I feel manipulated by people I feel sick. I just hate it. I have learnt through the years to not respond to it by not giving the person what they want. I guess it is my rebellion to being manipulated. I think if I want something I should just ask and visa versa.
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• Canada
2 Oct 09
Moanderson thanks for the definition I agree with you 'we have a problem if we are feeling the need to manipulate all the time'. I feel used and not respected when someone is tryign to manipulate me does that make sense?
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@ruperto (1552)
• Philippines
5 Sep 09
I think it's because we're all trying to survive that we are perceived as manipulating others. I think there is positive manipulation and negative manipulation e.g. PM when parents make children comply into whats good for them, e.g. NM when children give their parents a hard time :) I think manipulation is a way of life for everyone. We manipulate "physically, via-technology, socially, via influence and persuasion, or financially [wikipedia.org] My favorite manipulation has to do with my thoughts, my feelings and a worthy goal. In early schooling, I made my self to feel afraid of having to be dependent and afraid of staying ignorant. Luckily, it worked and my mind never tired of learning and relearning. Goals have been achieved and new goals are on the target. What I learn is: "Do not finish all the work too soon. 'Ya might end up like George Eastman." (With all due respect to Kodak Chief, I'd do the same thing if I were in his shoes)
• Canada
2 Oct 09
Excellent point Ruperto. There is such a thing as positive manipulation in many areaa of our lives. Such as you mentioned as with our goals in life. We have to manipulate our way to our goal. Now, who is George Eastman?