How should I escape from a talktive friend?
By sheenshaukat
@sheenshaukat (2617)
Pakistan
June 25, 2007 5:46am CST
My friend is very chatty. Whenever she starts to talk non could make her stop. People laugh on this habit. They call her " Talktive Radio" Some pepole name her longtonger. I want stop her this problematic attitude of talking. I tried my best, but all invain. It was attractive in past. But now I became bore try to avoid her. But whenever she does not get any one, she rings me and start to talk on phone. If I reject her call, then she becames angry. Comes on my work place and starts tons of expostulations. It is not possible for me to make her stop, escape or rid her.
will you please help me to tell the remedy of this problematic friendship.
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@shelagh77 (3643)
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25 Jun 07
There are three things you can do and you need to be very consistent in all three. All make use of the "broken record" technique in which you use the same words over and over again in reply.
Firstly you need to assure your friend that she is valued. "I love hearing from you."
Secondly, you need to say "I love hearing from you, I wish I could stay longer but I have to leave in ten minutes"
then " I am enjoying this so much but I really have to go"
If you are near the door, ring your own doorbell "I have enjoyed this call so much, but the taxi is here, I must go - and whatever you say, love, bye bye " and put the phone down. Don't pick up for at least half an hour!
Work is easy. You get a good friend to become your boss and explain that you are going to lose your job if you keep receiving calls at work!
Good luck :-)
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
25 Jun 07
haha like the doorbell thing, will try that as I have a talkative neighbor which I don't mind hearing from time to time but can become tiring just listening to her and you can't even get a word in :) broken record technique, I like that!
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@shelagh77 (3643)
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26 Jun 07
Glad I could give you some good tips.
You will be being cruel to be kind, because if you CAN get her to limit her calls you will actually enjoy them again and she will sense that, so persevere and you will both benefit enormously.
I wish you good luck, and another thing which my partner uses is a tape recording of someone arriving at the door!
@ms_anti_valentine (85)
• Philippines
26 Jun 07
escape??...if your that person's REAL friend..you should not think of escaping...the best thing you can do is be frankly tell her that she must refrain from talking too long...,tell her that what shes doing is annoying, and she must practice to summarize the story shes planning to share...learn to slap your friends face(not the literal meaning of slapping,but if you can,it might help!)to wake her/him to the reality...she might not aware of what shes doing and of others reactions,so let her know,rather than escaping or getting rid of her and let her to be the fun of everyone...thats too cruel..!
@ackars (1942)
• India
25 Jun 07
I wonder why you want this friend of yours to be away??May be it varies with person to person.Im very talkative to all my friends even my online friends.So I never feel like being away from someone who is also talakative like me.I love talking to them..
