When will you be ready to go?

@34momma (13891)
United States
June 25, 2007 10:46am CST
As some of you know, i went to my grandma's 86th B-day party. My grandmother has always been the back bone of the family, the go to gal when you were in need. She was just the kind of person that everyone knew, liked, and wanted to be around. Now she is not doing so well. she doesn't remember any of us. She lost so much weight, she is like only 80 pounds. She is just a shell of the strong woman i have always known. My question is, do you want to live that long? Do you still want to be around when you don't even know that you are here? I got to thinking while watching my grandma yesterday, I don't want to live and not know that I am living. I love this woman and she doesn't even know my name. it was hard? So when is enough for you? do you have an age when you think you are going to be ready to check out?
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5 responses
• United States
25 Jun 07
She know's your heart :o) she may not be able to remember your name but trust me you can feel your spirit.. my mother is going through a some what simular case her sister which is in a simi comma is finally moving around but she is still unable to speak and it hurts my mother that she can't say hello... She just say I pray to God that he will bless me one day and have her say just one word to me... I told my mom she know's who you are by spirit and even though she is unable to tell you this trust me she knows and I feel the same way about your grandmother... To grow old is beautiful to watch your children grow and love them and care for them is irreplaceable feeling Im sure your grandmother will never forget because its embedded in the heart and although she sometimes forget your name which was given to identify you she will never forget your spirit...
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@34momma (13891)
• United States
25 Jun 07
that is so true. my grandma and i have spent so many days and nites together talking, and sharing. i know she know my heart, and i will forever know and love hers. thanks
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@mimatexas (1835)
• United States
25 Jun 07
That's good that you have very good memories of your grandmother. It's sad though to find out that your grandma is not doing well, she has lost so much weight. For me I wouldn't want to live any longer if I am sick and won't recognize anyone. I would like to live to a 100 if I am capable of doing the things for myself, have a good memory and being healthy! How about you?
@34momma (13891)
• United States
25 Jun 07
that is what i am talking about. if i can still get up and go and do what i want to do without someone doing it all for me, then hey i'll stick around.
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• United States
28 Jun 07
My father in law is 86 and he is as alert as ever, still drives, remebers all of our birthdays. He even has a part time job! I don't think you can put an age limit on it. Some people are still thriving at 86, some are old and very out of it. My grandmother was like the way your grandmother sounds and it was so hard to watch! I hope by the time I'm 86 that wll be considered young, lol !
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@34momma (13891)
• United States
29 Jun 07
yes if i am up doing my thing at 86 wonderful. i want to still be able to have cocktails and hang with my girls and do what i want.
@disvachic (10120)
• United States
25 Jun 07
I'm sorry to hear about your grandmother that is so sad.Like the previous member says she can feel your spirit I hope she will be okay.Your grandmother reminds me of mine being the back bone of the family.I want to live long enough to see my kids have kids of their own.Then see my grandkids have theirs.I want to see all of that.I dont know what age I'll be but i hope to live and see it.
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@34momma (13891)
• United States
28 Jun 07
that is like me. i want to see my grandbabies, and their babies. but i want to be able to enjoy them. i don't want them having to wipe my a$$!!! the Lord as a plan, and his will is his will
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@tinamwhite (3255)
• United States
25 Jun 07
I am so sorry, my friend....my Grandmother is the same way...it is heartbreaking...she has always been a "pillar of strength" but now is so weak and fragile.... I am like you in that I do not want to live that long...I do not want my children to look down at me and think..."Poor Mom"....that is more than I can bear to think about....I have a Living Will to prevent them from keping me alive in the case of a stroke or something that would prevent me from living a life of quality.... I think it is important for us to make these types of plans and not to put ourchildren in the place of having to make these difficult decisions that they will be plagued by....
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@34momma (13891)
• United States
25 Jun 07
that is true, i have to look into getting one of those done for myself. i don't want my children to have to go through the should we or shouldn't we either