Friend always invites herself wit me and my boyfriend
June 25, 2007 1:41pm CST
Please read and give me your opinions/advice My best friend always seems to have to hang out with any of my boyfriends or guys that i've gone out with. She's also a complete flirt(sits on the guys laps, overly touchy, etc..) with them. She'll invite herself along with us and then act like that with the guy i'm with. Recently, I began dating someone who is actually one of her friends which makes this situation even worse. Whenever she's not with her own boyfriend she's with us. My boyfriend thinks that I like having her along since she is my best friend and therefore will sometimes even tell her our plans and she'll come along. My boyfriend and I were going to watch the races the other day and she called him and asked what was going on for the night and then she asked to come. She called me and told me my boyfriend would be picking her up and that she needed help moving something and made us over an hour late. This is really beginning to get to me but I feel like if I say anything I will be viewed as being jealous...Am I? When she called to say she was coming to the races with us and that he had to move something for her I hung up and drove myself to the races and met with some of my other friends to blow off some steam and my boyfriend and friend met me there and asked what I was upset about. By the next day my boyfriend and I were almost broke up because I "seem different" and "we aren't having as much fun". I told him I was sick of everything we do going through my friend and we decided to stay together.. However, last night my friend asked my boyfriend if she could ride to mall with us and he told her to ask me...That's not what I was looking for.... Am I being irrational with this??? Please give me some advice on what I should do... I'm sorry for the long post but I needed to get it out somehow. Thanks for reading and and advice would be appreciated.
• United States
25 Jun 07
Tell your "boyfriend" that if he wants to be with you then he must not get involved with her so much. Also tell her that you would like to have time alone with your boyfriend. Tell your boyfriend that he should not tell your friend the plans unless he does not want to be alone with you. Your friend sounds like she needs more attention but you need quality attention with your boyfriend. Help her to find a hobby or something that will put her in touch with other people that might be looking for friends. Maybe she could volunteer someplace.
• United States
25 Jun 07
This isn't hard. Just don't tell this friend of yours what you are going to do with your boyfriend. Then she won't come along. If its your boyfriend who is telling her your plans then you need to open your eyes. He's cheating on you. He had to go help her move something? Come on, don't be stupid.