Do you have a good relationship with your sister?

@Mirita (2668)
United States
June 25, 2007 3:19pm CST
I get along good with my sister ,but we don't have a great deal of bonding because she is 6 years older than me ,and we don't have much in common. I'm the baby in my family ,so she always felt that I was spoiled by my mother and she always had to be the one to sacrifice. This is why I think parents should not wait so long to have more kids. I get along better with my brother who is only 2 years older and we appear to have more in common. I love the two of them the same ,but I wish I was closer to my sister because to have a sister is a blessing. Do you guys have a similar situation.
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• United States
26 Jun 07
I have two sisters and a brother and am close to my youngest sister because we have more in common. We both have our own businesses and we email each other a lot. My other sister and I speak a few times a year and I love her but we are worlds apart in our interests. Plus the fact, she is a housewife and doesn't have any interest in business and isn't much into email and I spend a lot of time on the computer. My brother and I are semi close because we both are into computers and we talk a lot via email and he shares pictures and stories about his 2 year old son. It's funny that you would mention the age issue because I'm the oldest and helped raise the three of them and I'm 3 years older than one sister, 5 years older than the youngest sister and almost 7 years older than my brother. I don't think the problem you have with your sister is because she is the oldest. I think she is very petty to allow something that silly to affect her relationship with you. She's losing out. I'd suggest you keep trying to reach out to her. Maybe find something that you do have in common. I know that may not be easy but it's worth trying.
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
26 Jun 07
I'm going to visit her this July ,so I'm going to try my best to get closer to her. When I was little she was very close to me. She likes to travel ,so maybe we can travel together. I also have my own business and she has a regular job and thinks that I should have a job instead of a business because she thinks that a job is more secure.
• United States
27 Jun 07
I don't know why she thinks having a job is more secure than having your own business because in this day and time, having your own business is probably a lot more secure. I say that because so many large and medium sized companies are laying people off. Case in point: Circuit City laid off a whole lot of their employees recently and so did Comp USA and I think IBM did, too. Plus the fact, it's harder to get a job these days because there are so many people looking for jobs. Having your own business puts you in more control of your life and whether it sinks or swims largely depends on the owner and most business owners work really hard to make it succeed because they don't want to go back to being employed by others. You should explain that to your sister.
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@Mirita (2668)
• United States
13 Aug 07
I went to Florida and I was able to talk to her regarding this topic. For the first time she listened to what I had to say and I think that we are going to treat eachother better now.
• India
25 Jun 07
i have two sisters and i get along very lovingly with them we do not have much age difference and we share most of our things,there is a deep bonding between us.
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@Mirita (2668)
• United States
25 Jun 07
I think is wonderful that you have a deep bonding with your sisters.
@boknoy (39)
• Philippines
26 Jun 07
yeah thats true but sad to say i dont... you have to do it now or regret forever...
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@Mirita (2668)
• United States
26 Jun 07
Yes, we need to show are love to our family now because life is too short.
• United States
26 Jun 07
I have a good relationship with all my sisters and one of my brothers but my oldest brother could probably care less about me I am not saying that he hates me he just distanced himself from the rest of the family except for my baby brother
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@Mirita (2668)
• United States
26 Jun 07
Maybe your baby brother might be doing something different than the rest of you. Don't loose hope and ask your baby brother why he is so distant with everyone else.
• United States
26 Jun 07
he has always been that way he is a boozer and lives in the bars after work he might disown me but he will always b my brother
@Lifez2short (4969)
• United States
25 Jun 07
God bless one and all who may stumble upon this po - God bless one and all who may stumble upon this post.
My sister and I are 13 months apart. And according to my mother she was like a second mom to me she was so protective of me. And still to this day we are grown and she still tries to protect me at times. I love my sister very much and would not trade her for the world.
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@Mirita (2668)
• United States
26 Jun 07
I think the age makes a difference because 13 months apart is only a year and 1 month apart.
• United States
27 Jun 07
I think the difference in ages makes a difference. I know my sister and I are about two years apart from each other so we have been at each other necks a few times in competition, but also have things in common because of the close ages.
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• Portugal
16 Aug 07
Ohhh....it is sad to say that I don't have sister. I am the eldest among the 4 children and the rest are all brothers. What I did .....is I get along much now with my sis-in-law my brothers wife; in that case, I got my instant sister. :) We are now sharing our stuffs, favorite books, favorite shows on tv, and even in my favorite earning sites. LOL Yeah and we enjoyed it.
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@Mirita (2668)
• United States
16 Aug 07
Well, is never to late to have a sister. Is good that you get along with your sister-in-laws.
• United States
26 Jun 07
I have four sisters and we are too closed with each other. We shared things and we are just sisters. We have a great relationship. We share things and we understand each other. We are in a way like to be united as always but sad to say, we are way far from each other. We are bonded by love anyway. So, love and hope stays.
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@Mirita (2668)
• United States
26 Jun 07
Understanding and Sharing is very important among sisters.
@dlkuku (1936)
• United States
26 Jun 07
I have four sisters, two I barely know at all, probably wouldn't even know them if I passed them on the street. My dad raised them, and my mother raised me and my other two sisters. My other two, I get along with, but I am not very close to, one is five years older than me, the other is 15 years younger than me, she was just a baby when I moved out at 17 so I never really got to know her.
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@Mirita (2668)
• United States
26 Jun 07
Well, is never to late to get to know them. They might have more in your common with you that you might think. Maybe someday you might have the opportunity to get to know them better.
@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
26 Jun 07
I get along with my sister too but Im 5 years older then her. And also she now she lives another state. And I really miss her. We didnt get along when we were younger. We were always fighting. But I think thats normal with girls.LOL Be nice to your sister and to your brother always.
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
26 Jun 07
Yes, I agree with you because we need to be nice and love our sisters and brothers.
@Linkj1 (15)
• Australia
26 Jun 07
Having sisters is great! When we were younger we use to fight like cats & dogs, but I think that was just fighting for the rankings. There is a 8 year difference between the youngest & the oldest. We have grown up now & my sisters and I all get along great. There are 4 of us in total, so you could just imagine the competition there was between all of us as we were growing up. Not forgetting the turmoil we must have put our parents through. We are a fun, loving, close nit family. I couldn't ask for anything better!
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@Mirita (2668)
• United States
26 Jun 07
Wow! Good for you guys for having such a loving and caring family despite all the competition.
• India
26 Jun 07
i have a brother and a sister.i have had so many problems with my brother but i have not had even one problem with my sister
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@Mirita (2668)
• United States
26 Jun 07
Well, maybe you and your brother can make an effort to communicate better and find out why you guys have so many problems with eachother.
• United States
26 Jun 07
i have 2 sisters 1 is 26 the other is 14 and iam the oldest iam 33. me and my sister thats 26 didnt get along that well growing up i felt like your sister so i moved to portland,or with my grandmother but i return home when she was a jr in high school and we started to get along better the older we have gotten. we now live down the side walk from each other i see her and my newphew everyday. we don't get along that well with the baby sister because she is at that age were she think she now everything and my mom don't really punish here that often.i hpe that changes in time
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@Mirita (2668)
• United States
26 Jun 07
Well, don't lose hope on your baby sister, I'm sure that there is going to be a time when she is going to need the two of you.
@lynnz78 (75)
• Malaysia
26 Jun 07
i only had 1 sister, which is actually my half-sister. I also didin't get along with her since our age gap is 7 years. how ever, deep in my heart, i love her and i've proved it. It just i don't think she feel the same with me. When she had her baby i send her a present, but when its my time to delivered my baby i don't even received even a card...it's sad but that's the reality of life i think...
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
26 Jun 07
Well, don't worry because you did the right thing and is sad that she is unable to appreciate the wonderful sister that she has. Give her time and continue showing her unconditional love and if she doesn't respond it will be her lost.
@nejnej (148)
• United States
26 Jun 07
i got good realationship with my sibling before i screwd up. i made a really big mess in schooling in college.
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@Mirita (2668)
• United States
26 Jun 07
Well, is never to late to fix your mess. I'm sure that you can still recover your relationship if she sees that you are trying to fix things.
@misheleen73 (6037)
• United States
26 Jun 07
My sister is 3 years my senior. I would like to think we have a good relationship now that we are older. When we were young, we did not get along very well. When my parents divorced, my mother favored her. I had a rough time of things until at 18 I moved out. We talk more now, but I see things she does and says and think what in the heck is she doing with her life? We are just 2 way different people with very different personalities. I have grown to realize this and accept her as who & what she is. That's all I can do.
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@Mirita (2668)
• United States
26 Jun 07
Yes, there is nothing wrong with giving advice but we need to learn to accept people as they are. Everyone has to take responsability for their actions and all we can do is be there is case they need us.
@bkfuels (1605)
• Canada
26 Jun 07
Close Family - Close family
The family that prays together stays together!!!!
I have one sister and we get along great. She is 4 years older then I am. I always call her my big little sister because I am 5 foot seven inches tall and she is only 4 foot 10. I also have 2 brothers I get along with them really well too.
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
26 Jun 07
You are a very lucky lady since you have such a wonderful relationship with all your siblins.
• United States
26 Jun 07
I'm the baby and I'm 7 years younger than the next youngest in line. I'm not close to any of my siblings. They were all moving out while I was still young. I kind of felt left behind. We tried to be closer when we got older but it just didn't happen. Now my situation is a little worse with my own children. My boys are 15 years apart (ages 4 and 19) and they don't get along very well. It bothers me all the time that I didn't have them close together. They love each other to pieces, don't get me wrong. I did think the sibling rivalry would skip us since there's such a big age gap, but boy was I wrong! LOL Anyways, if I had it to do all over again I would of had them a few years apart at the most.
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
26 Jun 07
Well, don't worry about that because as they get older things will change. Just try to explain to them the importance of having a brother and how important family is. Try to look for an activity that they can both participate.
@magnel (2263)
• India
26 Jun 07
Yes, I have a good relation with my sisters, I don't have a real sister. But I do have a lot of cousins and I have a great bonding with them.
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@Mirita (2668)
• United States
26 Jun 07
Is wonderful that you have a great bonding with your cousins.
@CopyPaper (229)
• Philippines
26 Jun 07
We have in common, friend. I have also 4 sisters and yes we get along good, but we don't have much great deal of bonding because they're 5 years older than me and 9 yeard younger than me. My parents blessed with 5 daughters and I'm the fourth. Our eldest is 34, second 32, third 30 and our youngest is 13. And besides I left home for school about 8 years ago. That's why we don't have much moments to share aside in our childhood days.
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@Mirita (2668)
• United States
26 Jun 07
Well, even with the age difference is never to late to get closer to them because I'm trying to get closer to my sister.
@Dan_ul (858)
• Romania
26 Jun 07
I agree with you... the age difference between kids should be maximum 3 years... more than that is not working... I have a sister, she's the older one,... and the difference is of two years and we get along just fine... we bond a lot, we fight a lot, we are there when the other needs him, and we are friends at the end of a day... Is great to have someone like that... really great:)
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@Mirita (2668)
• United States
26 Jun 07
Yes, basically people seem to have more in common with people who are around your age.
@boknoy (39)
• Philippines
26 Jun 07
well... i have 3 half sister... we dont often see each other because were too far from each other... i really want to have a good relatinship with them but we dont have time to bodn and go out and do some stuff that siblings do... i want them to feel that m their older brother, that they can depend on me... and they can come to me and talk to me anything under the sun... but because of the situation, we can't.. hope we can go out sometime and spend time with each other..
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@Mirita (2668)
• United States
26 Jun 07
I hope you can go out with them soon.