Difficult choice

@SRANKIN (282)
United States
October 24, 2006 1:18pm CST
Senario - lets say that you have been with this girl for about a year. You plan to marry her and have kids together. She goes to the doctor b/c she has been having problems with her body, and the doctor tells her that she cannot have kids. Now guys, would you continue to stay with the girl of your dreams, or move on to somebody who can have kids? Tell me..
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@Stiletto (4582)
24 Oct 06
It depends on how much you love her and how important children are to you. Remember there are other options - adoption or even IVF treatment if appropriate. There are so many children in the world who need a good home but if it is really essential that you have your own child then you need to decide whether you can deal with the prospect of never having one of your own. If you can't then you should end it with your girlfriend now. I suppose it's all about priorities - you have to decide which is more important.
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• Indonesia
26 Oct 06
yes, you are right
• United States
26 Oct 06
Very well said. I totally agree with you.
@rmuxagirl (7554)
• United States
24 Oct 06
I a guy truely loved a girl and she couldn't have children, he would not leave her for someone who can. I would be devastated if my boyfriend left me only because I couldn't have children. There are other options like adoption.
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@SRANKIN (282)
• United States
24 Oct 06
Yea, I agree with all of you. I really want a kid who is my own, but if my soul mate couldn't give me one, then I guess i'm not ment to have one of my own.. I would still want to be the father to a kid - so I would probably adopt.
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• India
24 Oct 06
No I will not leave her. I will stay with her. Give her support and adopt an orphan and raise the child like my own. I will be happy that this kid, gets to have a new and better life because my wife couldn't concieve.....I'll go ahead. I won't quiver for a moment.....
@SRANKIN (282)
• United States
24 Oct 06
I agree with you, you have to take it like a blessing.. you're giving another kid a better home and life b/c of it. Thanks
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• India
25 Oct 06
Yes, a life sustain/saved is a life given.......
@grump0ne (981)
• United States
26 Oct 06
If you really love her you would stay with her. there are other options. adoptions for example.
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@SRANKIN (282)
• United States
26 Oct 06
Seems like everybody agrees with me.. thanks for the input guys.
@sree4030 (657)
• India
24 Oct 06
i love her . i love her because what she is, but not for the children she is going to produce. she is more imp. to me than children
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@SRANKIN (282)
• United States
25 Oct 06
What if she wanted to be alone b/c she was afraid of hurting somebody b/c she couldn't have a kid? How could you get her to stay with you? After trying so hard to convice her?
• Netherlands
24 Oct 06
You can save up sme money together and get good medical help wih this it could be possible to do invitro if she has eggs or get a surrogate. It would still be both of your DNA so no problem. Yes it can be a difficult hurtle to cross but if you love the person you would do what you could. :)
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@SRANKIN (282)
• United States
24 Oct 06
Good point.. never really thought of that until this discussion.
@carlennj (592)
• United States
24 Oct 06
I had a similar problem. We married, and now have 3 kids. The dr's were amazed. You marry for love and companionship. Kids are a byproduct of this relationship.
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@SRANKIN (282)
• United States
26 Oct 06
Good rating for YOU!
@bfa731 (409)
• United States
26 Oct 06
Well if I was truly in love with her I would without a doubt stay with her. If I was really bent on having kids I could always adopt or they might find some kind of way to help my wife have kids with all the medical research going on. Having kids is a big goal of mine but its something that I can overcome if the circumstances dont work out.
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@banta78 (4330)
• India
26 Oct 06
If my girlfriend could not have a child i will still be with her because of my true love for her. i can always adopt a child. But true love is difficult to find.
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@wvchell78 (564)
• United States
26 Oct 06
If you truly love this girl there would not be a question as to whether to stay with her or not. She should not be punished for having medical problems that prohibit her from having children.
• United States
26 Oct 06
Definently stay, I mean, you could always adopt. If you love her, that shouldn't change the situation.
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@flte74 (876)
• United States
26 Oct 06
If you are truly in love that wouldn't even be a problem, you would stay. There are other options such as adoption.
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• United States
26 Oct 06
If you really loved this girl, you would stay with her. There are other ways for you to have a family together. Many other options are out there. You could have a serragant mother (spelled that wrong i think) and there are other ways too.
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@MrsFrizzle (1964)
• United States
25 Oct 06
stay with her
@stezieb (2183)
• United States
25 Oct 06
There is always adoption. I would do pretty much anything to stay with the girl of my dreams once i find her. Happy earning!!
@Pythonis (233)
• United States
25 Oct 06
If someone would leave me because of that then they weren't someone I would want to marry anyway! That would be so rude. You can dopt kids or get a surrogate mother to carry them for you.
@vankae (447)
• United States
24 Oct 06
It depend on how strong you love is for her or to have kids, or you could consider adoption.
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• United States
24 Oct 06
Now, if you truly loved her and this was the one would that make any difference? You can always adopt or use a surrogate(unless she's producing no eggs) Think about it... :)
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@sbeauty (5869)
• United States
24 Oct 06
How badly do you want to have kids? Enough to give up the girl of your dreams? There are thousands of children out there waiting to be adoped. Could you raise and love a child who wasn't biologically yours? You have a lot of things to sort out before you make any decisions.
@SRANKIN (282)
• United States
24 Oct 06
I believe that I could raise I child that wasn't biologically mine.
• India
25 Oct 06
Telling her your feeling, you would get more supprot from her. She'll love you even more.....
@ladyg1 (44)
• United States
26 Oct 06
If you truely love her you will stay with her. If she cannot have children of her own you can adopt or even possibly use a surrogate to carry the child. There are ways around the bearing chilren thing. You will miss the pregnancy stuff but a lot of it you can do without.
@SRANKIN (282)
• United States
26 Oct 06
Great feedback from all of you!