What do you think of stay -at-home-moms?

United States
June 26, 2007 12:43pm CST
I personally think a mother that can stay at home and raise her children is wonderful, although I do understand how sometimes you just aren't able to do that. It takes alot of love and sacrifice to do this. Even if it means doing without many things when it comes to YOU. Some people say it is lazy. Most people that say that have never done it either. Being a mother is a good thing. Its hard work! Some of them even work from home while raising their children. What do you think?
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@magikrose (5433)
• United States
26 Jun 07
I have been a stay home mom for 4yrs now and I have loved every minute of it so far. I have to admit that it is NOT easy at all and I am far from lazy considering I am cleaning almost all day, Ihave to cook for a family of 6 on a daily basis. I have to drive every one where they have to go. What is going to be even harder is going back out into the work force when they are old enough to be home alone for a little while. That is not going to be easy at all.
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@sunshine4 (8707)
• United States
26 Jun 07
Being a stay at home mom is very rewarding. It is also the hardest job around. When you work away from the home, you get a little break~ you have adult converstation. When you are a stay at home mom,it is a 24/7 job.
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• United States
26 Jun 07
I was a working mom up until 2 years ago when my youngest was born. For me personally, it's been very rewarding to be home with my children. For anyone that thinks it's easy though, I say "Try it for a year and then tell me what you think!"
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@coferbox (298)
• United States
27 Jun 07
I think working moms are great. My mother was a stay at home mom. I had to be a working mom, I had no choice so I know some mothers have no choice. But if a woman can stay at home I think they should. If done right being a stay at home mom is a very important job. I know some moms just sit their kids in front of the TV, but if done right the kids will learn more from staying at home with their mother than they will being in a day care center all day.
• Philippines
28 Jun 07
im stay at home mom, and for me not really difficult, have one kid only, maybe it'll become real hard when my family get bigger...i salute the working mom, imagine what she feel when there is some occasion at school and she could not attend because of work. i saw that thing happend to my colleagues when i used to work. its frustrating.... but for me, staying at home is what i always wanted in my married life. i want to take care of my family, i want to be with my kid and see her grow up. day care center is not very popular in my place, so if your working, you hire a full time nanny to take of you kid. i dont like that, ..my kid spending more time with the nanny than me,.. not a good idea....but as you say, you dont have a choice... i hope things change for you... for your sake and esp for the sake of your kids
• Philippines
28 Jun 07
well my husband did tell me that he wants me to resign of my work to be a full time mother to our only son. but i did not agree with him, we talked about it,and i told him that i love my family but i love to pursue my career too. it is hard but i know he will understand me.i want to be a full time mother but i want to earn too.
@jencie (13)
• United States
28 Jun 07
I am a SAHM and let me tell you, it's a 24/7 job. You don't get paid for it, and the only reward you get is that you know you are raising your child the best way you know how. And the smiles that your little one gives you when they see you. Even when hubby is home and I want to run out, I still have to make sure that he has everything nice and easy for him in case the baby gets fussy.
@Ravrockin (281)
• India
27 Jun 07
mother should be at home otherwise home is empty in absences of her
@YoungInLove (1254)
• Canada
27 Jun 07
Depends. If the family is financially stable enough for the mother to be able to do that then all the power to her. My coworker (whos 16) her mother is a stay at home mom that REFUSES to work. They're not financially stable so sometimes she has to hand over her paycheck to her parents to pay the bills. I dont think that is fair. So if the family can afford it then thats great.
@castleghost (1304)
• United States
27 Jun 07
I encourage my fiancee to be a stay at home mom. It is actually a harder job then most people realize when they stop to think about it. A stay at home parent is on duty twenty four hours a day. They may get a break from the children when they go to school but then they have all of the housework to do as well. It upsets me to hear people who call stay at home parents lazy. I admit that there are some who are lazy and want a free ride but there are also those who take being a stay at home parent seriously and work hard to give their children a good home life.
27 Jun 07
I think its good to be a stay at home mother, its very rewarding and in my opinion its better for children to raised by their parents instead of in a day nursery. Its hard work being a stay at home mother, as its full time including night time, but its worth it even if we have go without certain things just to afford everything. I can understand how some mothers can't stay at home all day with their children because they have to work to be able to afford everything to live on. Stay at home mothers are not lazy because they have all the house work to do as well as look after their children day and night. I am a full time mother myself.~Joey's wife
27 Jun 07
I think its good to be a stay at home mother, its very rewarding and in my opinion its better for children to raised by their parents instead of in a day nursery. Its hard work being a stay at home mother, as its full time including night time, but its worth it even if we have go without certain things just to afford everything. I can understand how some mothers can't stay at home all day with their children because they have to work to be able to afford everything to live on. Stay at home mothers are not lazy because they have all the house work to do as well as look after their children day and night. I am a full time mother myself. ~Joey's wife
• United States
27 Jun 07
I have very mixed emotions about being a stay at home mom. I have a daughter who will be 5 in October. Up until 6 months ago both her father an I were working full time. I got injured at work and have not worked since January. Being home with her has been very trying. I love her immensly, but I have noticed that I have a short fuse sometimes now that I am with her all the time. When she was born I did not want to go back to work, now deep inside I can't wait until I can work again. It takes a very strong woman to be home all day with her children. I think if I had been home from the begining it would be very diffent!
@rapolu_cs (1184)
• India
27 Jun 07
Yes, i agree with you friend in every view point that you have stated in your discussion about a mother.
• United States
27 Jun 07
I think it would be wonderful to be able to stay-at-home to raise the kids. Unfortunately, we would not make it if I didn't work. My husband makes a decent wage, and I don't do to bad. But I always consider being "mom" my first and most important job. My employers work around the kids school schedule, so that makes it nice also. I get to take the kids to school and pick them up. But I do wish there was days that I didn't have to work. By the time I get done work, get the kids, come home fix dinner, laundry, cleaning, the such, I'm too tired to do much of anything. It is like working 2 jobs.
@Cassy1976 (796)
• Australia
27 Jun 07
I did the stay at home mum thing for the first 3 months of my daughters life and since then I have done a few different things, she is 8 months at the moment and I am working one day a week as I get a bit bored being at home all day everyday with my daughter and I like the company of other people which i dont get when I am home all day. Good on those people that can stay at home with their children and can also afford to do it, I also find that if I work one day a week that my partner doesnt have to do alot of over time and can stay at home more and it alot more happy, I am lucky that I can work on my partners day off so that we dont have to pay for day care and he gets to spend a whole day alone with his daughter every week which I also think is good for their relationship, I am happy with my decision to go back to work early and I dont feel that it has harmed my daughter in anyway infact I think it has done her the world of good to spend time with her dad as that was something that I never got to do. I dont think that stay at home mums are lazy, obviously people that say that have never done it, my partner used to say oh what do you do all day and all of that until he had to spend a whole day with our daughter and he has never said it since
• United States
27 Jun 07
I do it. I am a sahm. For the most part, I enjoy it. I know that we are saving a lot of money on daycare by me staying home. I am looking for a part time job. The hours that I am looking for are after my husband gets home from work, and I only want to work 3 days a week. The little bit of extra money that that would bring would do so much for our family. It would help me get out and speak to "real" people for a little bit. It would also help us financially. I know my husband stresses about the money, and how we are just barely making it work, and I want to contribute and give us the extra padding we need to really make it work We want to buy a house, and in order to do that, we need to eliminate our past debt. My point is this, being a sahm is rewarding all on it's own. It does come with it's own book of stresses. I will still consider myself a sahm even with a part time job. After all, it will still be me staying home all day with our kids.
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
stay at home moms are ok with me..i personally think that mom's should always look after their children, we have dad's but we know dad's are supposed to be in the office.?although some don't usually work..anyways, stay at home mom's is still the best..my mom..she's just at home, and i always want to see her when i go home... :)
@archer1811 (1099)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
Hi butterfly! When get pregnant i used to stay at home also so that i am sure of my son is well taking cared of, and when he reached the age of 2 1/5yr old, i started to work again. Staying at home taking care of my son and doing household chores is also wonderful, but i tried to work again because i felt so bored in my house when my son is in his school. But i do admire all mothers that willing to give up their career so that they can personally look after their children.
@laydee (12810)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
I respect stay-at-home moms a lot for they give up their ability to earn to be with the kids and take care of the family. But maybe it wouldn't be so bad if these moms also have sidelines or ways to earn extra or part time. It's not just for the money but it's a good venue for her to grow, apart from the usual tasking routine of rearing her children. It is specially good if the kids are growing up. For me, it's good that moms stay at home, but it would also be great if she has some projects of her own, to keep her from boredom and of course so that if her kids are all grown up, she'd have something to do for herself.
• China
27 Jun 07
I agree with you, in my opinion,i think it a hard work,so it get us taken more energy to do with family,i think they are greatest people!