punched on the nose

I would of done what your husband did. But i would make sure my son understood it was wrong either way. And i would of talked to the other kids parents about it.

Some don't agree with how your husband handled it, but then again some do. Me, well, I have always told my daughter not to let people at school push her around or hit her and that if she had to hit them back or push them away, then to do it. But I have also told her to let the teacher know of what is going on. My daughter told me the teacher wasn't listening to her and that a boy kept pinching her, so I told her if the teacher doesn't do anything, then push him away or pinch him back. So it's a hard situation. I wouldn't have probably told your son to go and hit the boy, if this was the first time. I would of tried to figure out what and why this happened first. But, like I said, I have told my daughter to do the same. But only if an adult wasn't around to help, they should have to learn to defend themself and sometimes, you have to fight or you will just keep getting knocked down.

I don't think at that age it is teaching him to fight back but instead teaching him if someone hurts you it is ok to hurt them. So when he goes to preschool and the little girl next to him says something he doesn't like what are you going to tell her parents when he hits her? Sorry but she hurt him first? When they are older I would say telling them to defend themselves is one thing but at this age they don't get the difference between when someone makes your nose bleed and when some takes your crayons. I would explain to him that this time Daddy let him hit the boy but he isn't to do it again. I would also call the boys parents that hit your child and tell them about it. Good luck!